Question:
how long after surgery should you wait to have sex?

   — heidi G. (posted on March 30, 2003)

March 30, 2003
Hi there. I waited for two weeks. I was not in any pain at all and it was enjoyable! Good luck!
   — SarahC

March 30, 2003
At least until you get off the operating table - those tables are really hard *G*... Seriously, I'd go at least two weeks or until you get clearance from your surgeon...JR
   — John Rushton

March 30, 2003
My Dr. told me to wait a minimum of three weeks.
   — Amy W.

March 30, 2003
Whenever YOU feel ready. I know a lady in my support group who did the day she got home from surgery, they were just gentle and careful.
   — jen41766

March 30, 2003
My goodness! Why the hurry? Give your body time to heal. I hear two weeks, three weeks, even the day one came home from the hospital. The body needs to heal, it craves to heal. Six to eight weeks is normal for enough healing to be safe. Be smart and don't hurry love.
   — Sue A.

March 30, 2003
The thing I am the most in shock over is the fact that you still have sex. I have not "seen" mine in so long that I have my doubts that it is still there. You mean I might have something else to look forward to after this is all over?
   — D. Bell

March 30, 2003
I think it depends on how you define "sex" and what kind of a lover your partner is and you are. There are many ways to have intimacy that are not vigorous. If it hurts, STOP. Best of luck. Peace.
   — Sunny S.

March 31, 2003
I lasted about two weeks. We found a way to please each other without too much discomfort. I really felt sexually depressed after the surgery. My hubby hasn't been able to keep his hands off me since week two! Gets better every time. There's not so much between us anymore!
   — wiggie34

March 31, 2003
Speaking of outright intercourse, I only waited about 2 weeks. Just had to be a little careful and not let my hubby lay on me. But, it was no prob. I had open rny. My surgeon said he had no time line, whenever you feel comfortable.
   — emilyfink

March 31, 2003
Actually you shouldn't be having sex until your doc gives clearance for EXERCISE. If you doc is releasing you to exercise at 2 weeks then go for it but if it not until 4 or 6 or 8 weeks then you should be using that as your guideline. Thats the same for ANY surgery. My TT was 8 or 9 weeks until I was released! Ya, I know, long time for you guys bouncing off the OR table!! (And yes, he was specific about waiting for BOTH)
   — Shelly S.

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