Question:
How are you handling being thinner vs. skinny?
I read on here about someone who was 300 pounds and was told her ideal body weight was 130. I too am around 300lbs. Not positive on my actual weight (long story read my profile). Anyway I am 5'7'' and am wondering about something. I know a lot of people see/hear about their "Ideal" body weight. And many people go below that. I know that I will be really surprised seeing myself at 150 none the less 130. A size 10 to me is itty bitty considering my 28-32 I'm in now. I'm wondering if losing too much weight (or more than we would have liked to) is having a different kind of effect on people. I know I would be happy in a size 12-14. I would even be comfortable at 160, but at 130 I might be too thin and even possibly unhappy. How are you handling it? — Sandi R. (posted on May 30, 2003)
May 30, 2003
Hi Sandi, I think alot of people feel they need to be at the weight the dr
or charts on here tell them and I feel strongly against that as I feel you
should weigh what YOU feel comfortable weighing at. The chart says I
should be 127, well I feel thats insane to even attempt to go any lower
then that. I am at 140 and going in for a tt on wed. that will probably
take off a few pounds then i will see how i feel at that point if i feel i
need to lose more I will but i doubt i will because im happy where i am
now. My doctors (wls surgeons) office has a chart that states i should be
even lower then 127 well guess what it aint gonna happen if i can help it.
Whats the use of having surgery if your gonna go from one extreem to the
other, you know what i mean? I say just go to where you are happy and make
that your ideal weight...good luck to you and by the way Im soo happy with
my loss and have gotten great reviews on it. I cant even beleive or pathem
being skinny and i am lol...
— Deanna Wise
May 30, 2003
Hi, Sandy: I'm having surgery in August, Lord willing, and right now I'm
at 5'5" and weigh 274. I used to be thin, back before I got married I
weighed around 130# and wore a 5-6 jeans. Let me tell ya, I pretty much
starved and exercised myself to death to stay that size. I also have a
large frame and am very muscular (if I try real hard I can still feel some
muscle under my fat), so I told my surgeon my goal weight was 140-150. I
would be totally happy with that, because I feel I would be healthy but not
have to be "obsessed" with food and exercise like I was before.
I feel that those charts in the doctor's offices are too unrealistic,
especially on a frame like mine. Good Luck on your journey!
— Moysa B.
May 30, 2003
I never even made my gaol my ideal body weight. I made my gaol 170 and
really dreamed of hitting 199. I didn't care if I went a pound smaller I
just wanted 199. I wanted to wear a size 16 and in my wildest dreams a 14.
Well at six months post I I hit way below goal and a size 4. Now at 12
months post op I go back and forth from about 139 to 145 depending on what
time of the month it is. I never dreamed of getting into a 4, however, I
think I am very healthy looking not "skinny" looking. Take a
look at my pics. I am 5'8"
— Linda A.
May 30, 2003
Hi Sandi, pick a size you'd be happy with and go with that. If you've been
MO for a long time, you don't know how big you'll be at what weight until
you get there. I weigh much more than people would guess. I wear a size 8
at 155 and I'm 5'7". I wore a 10 at around 165. 130 would be too
little for my frame. People tell me now that I'm all skin and bones, and
why don't I put some weight on already :)
— mom2jtx3
May 31, 2003
Hi Sandy, I too was near 300 and right now I', 200 and can't wait to be
under 200. I feel wonderful like I am wearing large/xlarge or 16/18. I'm,
5'3" and love life now. I'm older 56 so maybe I will get some more
weight off and maybe not but I feel great now and that is all that counts.
I have one more year to loose and so I will just let it happen and love
where I end up. So be thankful everyday that the LORD showed you the way.
Always a friend
Janet e-mail [email protected]
— Janet S.
May 31, 2003
Ya know, statistically, very few people go 'under' weight, with most being
happy just to make it anywhere close to goal. I, starting out at
5'7"/274 pounds couldn't even begin to imagine getting down to 147 (my
ideal weight), but now that I am close to the 200 mark, I am getting a
better grasp of that all of the time and hope to eventually make it there.
As far as being 'too skinny', I don't think you will hear many people who
have been obese complain to much at ending up in a size 6...and even if
they did, a good shopping trip would probably take care of it (lol)!
— eaamc
June 1, 2003
the only goal i ever set for myself post op, was to be a size 14. i knew
that after being obese ALL my life, the numbers on the scale meant nothing
to me. what was important to me was to be able to walk over to a clothes
rack in a store that was NOT for plus size women & see something i
loved, buy it, take it home & actually wear it. i also knew that after
a lifetime of obesity, if i fit into 14's i would NEVER EVER step on a
scale again! now, at 18 mos. post op, i cant remember the last time i
weighed or measured myself because i have been in size 12's for months
& even those are slightly bigger than what i need. just this past
friday i was in walmart & hit my favorite clearance rack. size 12 was
wayyyy tooooo big so i tried the next size down, an 8/10 & they fit
PERFECTLY!! i am having my tt consultation on weds. i cant wait to see what
size i will be after i have the tt. people have been telling me that they
cant believe how tiny i am. i never in my wildest dreams ever thought that
sheryl & tiny would be synonomous! btw, when i told my wls surgeon what
my goal was, he said it was an extremely realistic goal. dont worry about
the scale numbers hun. judge your progress by how you are feeling at a
certain size. god bless you!
— sheryl titone
June 2, 2003
Sandy, don't focus on the numbers. I was 300lbs and 5'6" and the same
size as you. I am now in size 8's after my PS and I weigh 160lbs. People
tell me I look smaller all the time. I have alot of muscle and I do think
that after carrying around all that weight for so long, my bones have
become denser and therefore weigh more. It also depends on your frame size.
I'm a medium frame so there is NO way I'd ever get to 130 or even 150lbs.
I'd look sick! Just go by how you feel, not the numbers! Take a look at my
pic on my profile. The most recent one is before my PS.
— Kris T.
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