Question:
Embarrasing Sexual question for the ladies

Ok I have to be blunt, did things get a lot more senstive as you lost weight? Suddenly sex hurts, like he is getting in way too deep. I am guessing from weight loss even the genital area has thinned down. But the upside is that I do enjoy things more when there is no pain that is. Wendy RNY 10/29/02 259/196/145    — Wendy H. (posted on February 2, 2003)

February 1, 2003
Wendy, Not sure about the pain aspect. That would be a concern however I find with the weight loss we are getting alot 'closer' and are exploring areas that 'no man has gone before'. lol. Monika
   — Monika W.

February 1, 2003
Wendy...it's the weight that you have lost that allows your husband to achieve deeper penetration. You'll have to work on trying positions that limit the amount of penetration that your husband can make. Maybe with you on top where you control how deep he goes. Have you let him know that it hurts when he goes too deep? If you let him know, then he can help in this regard too...JR
   — John Rushton

February 1, 2003
I completely know & relate to what you are going through! What I do is if he goes to deep, move him, or say hey, this isn't feeling good, next position! Have fun & congrats on your fantastic loss!
   — LionGirl2k

February 1, 2003
Hi Wendy! Great loss!! I think it's the weight loss as well, but would be sure & let my Dr. know. There is endometreosis that can cause pain during sex which is scar tissue. Check it out - don't just assume! IMHO of course!
   — Suzy Q.

February 2, 2003
Wendy, I am 6 months post op and have also experienced pain when he goes too deep. My husband considers it quite the compliment! However, I have noticed that my sensitivity to this has declined some in the past couple of months.
   — Cindy R.

February 2, 2003
OK, embarrassing answer: He might be hitting an ovary (while in certain positions.) if he penetrates too deep. Not hitting the actual ovary, of course, but pushing tissues, muscles, etc. into one of them. (That's the female equivalent to a guy getting swatted in the testicles.)I read about this feeling in the "Joy of Sex".
   — lizinPA

February 4, 2003
I've found that a pillow placed between your two pelvics will ease the depth (and pain) considerably until you become more accustomed to your new body. Just a tip :>) Good luck!
   — [Deactivated Member]

February 5, 2003
I have to second Monika's answer.... I must say that I am 5 months post-op and sex has been wonderful for my husband and I. Yes, penetration is deeper, but to have sex in a "normal" position...him on top has been a thrill! I am 100lbs down and going=)
   — EMN