Question:
I NEED HELP!....Follow-up

Follow-up to question I posted this morning. This morning I posted this question. At the time I was feeling very streesed and ill. I think all I really wanted was for someone to listen to me. I thank all of the wonderful people that responded in such a caring manner - especially Lavonne Golden - thank YOU! But I have to vent myself on the others that sent me some of the nastiest email I have ever gotten. I dont think ridicule and barretting is something that ANY of US should be throwing out to anyone - especially others like our selves. If you could not offer support this morning then why could you just not have bothered to respond at all.    — anitawilson (posted on August 22, 2000)

August 22, 2000
Anita I am sorry that you had to hear any ridicule, seems to me people that share our common problem would be so sick of ridicule in their own life that they would be more compassionate. Just ignore the idiots and get on the right tack and stay there. I am here for you anytime. Thanks for the web site i joined today. Talk to you soon, Lavonne
   —  emma lavonne G.

August 22, 2000
I took a look at all the answers that were posted to your question this morning - and I found them ALL to be caring, concerned, and full of practical advice. Surely you don't mean to condemn any of them, do you? Or, did some people send you private emails that didn't post on this board? In that case, shame on them!!!!
   — Cindy H.

August 22, 2000
Anita, I was one person that responded to your question. I truthfully hope that my response did not offend you. I honestly understand exactly what you are going thru. I have found this site to be very helpfull, and have been lucky enough not to have gotten any nasty responses to my questions. For those that did offend you, just think what they must be like to live with, and be happy that you don't live with them. I wish nothing but the best for you and anyone else brave enough to confront the problems that we have had to face in our lives. Becki
   — Becki S.

August 22, 2000
Dear Anita: Anyone who has written you a nasty email is apparently very full of themselves for being successful at what ever stage there are in following WLS. My guess too is that they harbor so much self-hatred, that their ability to be compassionate has been compromised. Screw them.
   — Allie B.

August 23, 2000
HI ANITA. So sorry I couldn't respond to your question and help you out but I had to run to the dr. this morning. As to the flaming idiots that sent you nasty responses, you are right!!! Why in the heck did they bother to be so mean!! If they weren't in a good mood, then they should have left it alone and not shared their nastiness with you and others. This is indeed a cruel and sad world. If the people that share the sameness of what we, as obese people have to go thru daily, feel they, too, can dish out the hurt that they know is horrible and hurtful, then I feel there is very little hope of changing the rest of the world. Please accept my sincere apologies for those unthinking and uncaring people and those who condon their acts by trying to excuse them with idiot remarks like Cindy H. just made above. There are those of us who do care and always have our arms open to you for a major caring hug whenever you need one. Love & hugs babycakes ...............
   — TERRY L.

August 23, 2000
I agree with what everyone has send so far. Ugly emails are NOT what you need right now. I also can testify to the many misunderstanding that can occur online, since we're only typing and not talking face to face. Terry, please re-read Cindy H.'s comments. I'm positive that she meant no offense.
   — Maxine E.