Question:
How do you feel about yourself when you are not sure when you meet your goal.

   — tmalotte (posted on August 23, 2005)

August 23, 2005
I feel like a failure as it is. Too many years of emotional abuse from an ex husband. I also have a bad habit of comparing myself to others and I know I can't do that, yet I can't help myself. I want to be successful!! As far as meeting goal, I don't know....only had my DS at end of May. I suppose I should cut myself some slack.
   — T S.

August 24, 2005
I was never able to get to "my goal" which was to be in the mid range of the NORMAL BMI. (Around 129 or 130 lbs). My body wants to be in the high 150's to 162. Nothing I can do seems to make any difference. However thankfully my weight stays stable and I can eat whatever I want. So I try to think, perhaps I'm not a failure after all.
   — Danmark

August 24, 2005
Sometimes I feel like a failure. I have never ever ever tried this hard to lose weight!!! I am about 16 months out and just got to 200 lbs today! When I look at myself in the mirror I think what I think Im seeing is fat is really just skin. My nutritionist says that I am "pure muscle" from all of my working out. I just wish I didnt have the extra skin or that this damn apron would shrink up some. I am going to have to have this skin removed. I can live with being 200lbs if I didnt have the skin.
   — rhonni37

August 24, 2005

   — Kasey

August 24, 2005
I never set a goal weight, just wanted to have a healthy BMI, however is easy to think that sice I've already loss so much i want to loose more, and I have hit a month and few days plateu, but, i try to keep in mind that I have to be happy with what I've accomplished already, and if this weight is what my body feels confortable, then I have to learn to be ok with that. So I think you and everyone here should feel proud to be here alive and leaving a mark in the world, no matter the weight.
   — iaheel

August 24, 2005
My goal was to be at a weight that my body is comfortable with, and that I can maintain over the long run and still be able to eat reasonable amounts of feed too. My body settled at a weight that is still overweight according to my BMI. I would like to be at less than 25 on my BMI, but am not willing to starve to get there and stay there. the most important goals, ie, normal blood pressure, normal cholesterol levels, better energy level, to be able to exercise comfortably on a daily basis, run with the grandbabies, fit on a rollercoaster, movie seat, airplane seat, are met and that is what matters the most to me.
   — **willow**

August 24, 2005
Hi. I am over 4 years out post op, and still feel as though I have not met my goal, I would love to lose about 30 or so lbs. My body has pretty much settled at where it is. Everyday I struggle with my failure mentality. I've had many other failures in life and I add WLS to it, to an extent. I really think I set myself up for the failure with never being satisfied. I remember when I was getting approved, I was almost 360 lbs, and I was like, ohh if I can just lose 100 lbs, then when I did, it wasn't enough. The it was I have to lose 150, and when I did, it wasn't enough. I could never be happy with what I lost, because I set these horribly high expectations on myself, that I was gonna look like every skinny person out there. I should be grateful for what I have lost, and although I am, I look at myself the same way I did pre op, I'm not good enough. Granted I was on the verge of having a heart attack before I was 35, and I could hardly breath when I walked, I don't have any of those issues now, but I still want to lose more. But, lol, if I do lose that 30 lbs, I wonder if then I'll want to lose another 10 or 20. I guess my best advice to you, is, and I'm no expert obviously, is to set realistic goals, based on your height, bone density, body type, and age. If you plan on looking like Barbie, like i did, you will never be satisfied.
   — Carey N.

August 25, 2005
I feel that I let my dr and myself down. I set a goal of 180 lbs and have not lost any weight in almost 6 months. I am still at 213 lbs. I will admit that I have and can eat more and crave carbs more now. I do cheat as to say every now and then and due to a foot injury I have not exercised in 2 weeks. I can't get it out of my mind that I have failed yet again at losing weight. My pcp says my body is comfortable at this weight and I think not. I will gain 3 lbs and lose the same 3 lbs back and forth every month. The only way I start to lose weight is if I get sick and then the weight comes off. My hot flashes are worse and I am miserable. So yes I feel I have not reached my goal and I feel I have failed.
   — mspisces