Question:
pre-op I have two little ones.
One of my childeren is four years old and my other on is 15 months old and I was just woundering if anyone else has little childeren that is post op and how did you handel it and was it hard to deal with the picking up and holding them. — tmalotte (posted on August 19, 2005)
August 19, 2005
My daughter was 2 when i had my surgery. It is difficult after surgery as
they don't understand why you can't pick them up. Your 4 year old is old
enough to understand, but the 15 month old is a different story. I showed
my incisions to my daughter and talked about Mommy's owies to her. She
seemed to understand that ok and didn't hit my stomach too much. However,
she still wanted held and picked up. I did pick her up (I know, against dr
orders) but only when I was sitting down. If at all possible, you might
want to get someone to stay with you during the day for a couple weeks to
help with the kids. Carmen
— kccjer
August 19, 2005
I had a 16 month old and a 4 year old when I had my open RNY. I actually
scheduled my surgery for when my oldest child would be home from college
for Christmas break. She and my DH helped by doing all the lifting, and
would place the baby on me while I was resting in the recliner for cuddles,
he seemed to know and was rather gentle. As long as you have help you
should be fine. Also the restrictions on lifting depend on what type of
surgery your having, open versus lap.
Best wishes!
— PhyllisM
August 19, 2005
I had my open RNY about a week before my daughter's 2nd b-day. Fortunately
I had my parents here for the first 10 days after surgery. I was able to
get around ok, but had my staples in for 19 days. After the first week I
would let my daughter sit on my lap, but I didn't actually pick her up
while standing until about 3 weeks out of surgery. (The doctor said to
wait 6 weeks). My muscles were just too weak. Instead, we cuddled on the
bed or couch and sometimes I would put a pillow over my incision to act as
a buffer between us...which helped.
My daughter is now almost 5 and I also have a newborn (4 weeks old). Even
though my daughter was only almost 2 at the time of the surgery, she still
remembers me 165lbs heavier, and says she is happy that I can play with her
now (of course right now I'm busy with the baby...but that's a different
story :-)
Congrats on your decision to have the surgery and best wishes. My quality
of life and my desire to be around for my daughter is what pushed me to
take the final step after years of unhappiness with myself. I am so happy
that I made the decision to have the surgery...even when remembering the
first few weeks afterwards when I was thinking "what have I done to
myself?" The first 3 months or so are the most difficult (think of
having a baby...getting used to a new life...except this time it is your
new life) but it goes quickly and you will get through it.
I would suggest getting someone to help with the kids for the first couple
of weeks after the hospital if you are having open surgery. If lap
surgery, you may heal much quicker since there isn't such a large external
scar, but you still need to be careful.
Good luck!
— angelav
August 20, 2005
I had a 5 month old, 2 year old and a 6 year old when I had my surgery. My
husband was with me the first week and then my mom stayed with me for the
next 2 weeks to take care of the kids. They would sit the kids on my lap
for a few minutes and then take them off of me. I didn't actually pick the
baby up until about 3 weeks Post-Op. That is when I started taking care of
them on my own again. My mom would come over for a little while to check on
me and then hubby would take care of them when he came home in the evening.
I was definetely back to normal at 6 weeks out with no help at all. Best of
Luck! Mellisia
— EPprincess29
August 20, 2005
I had my Open RNY a week after my son's 2nd b'day and my other son just
turned 3 yrs old. My Mom was here for the first week out of the hospital
and my Dad the second. By the third week I was handling the boys by myself.
I didn't lift them and they used a step stool to get on top of the changing
table. I wasn't in pain, but very, very tired for the first 6 wks, which
is hard for two children to deal with. I'm so thankful I had the surgery
and am able to keep up and participate with my active boys! Best of luck
with your surgery.....275/175/145
— SJWendy
August 20, 2005
I had one in kindergarden and a (barely)2 year old when I had surgery. It
wasn't as difficult as I had thought, however the older one was in school
and the younger continued to go to daycare during the day. My husband
worked evenings leaving me with the kids alone until after their bedtime.
Diaper changes happened on the floor, I used a stepstool for the youngest
to get into the bathtub, and they both were VERY understanding that mommy's
tummy was off limits. Although the 2 y/o did see the tube hanging from
under my shirt one day and yanked on it real hard while asking 'Wut dat?'
That wasn't fun. :P
— RebeccaP
August 21, 2005
Hi Tiffany,
I have a 3 1/2 year old and a 2 year old, so your question really hit
home. I am 4 days post op, yep, 4 DAYS and I've done fine. Hubby stayed
with the kids during surgery and my one day stay at the hospital (we told
them mommy had to sleep at the doctors so he could try and fix my inside
owies). The next day I came home. I showed the "owies" to my
angels and after my littlest kissed them better, they were completely
understanding and have still been great. When they ask to be picked up, I
either sit on the floor and hold them in my lap, or tell them that mommies
owies aren't better yet, so I can't. They are okay with that.
Don't let the worry of your little ones stop you from doing this. They and
you will do great. Focus on how healthy and better you will be for them
afterwards and you will come out fine!
Hugs!
Amms
— AmberIL
August 22, 2005
Hey! I am 12 days post op and I have a 16 month old daughter. It is very
hard for me not to pick her up, and she doesn't understand why I'm not
picking her up. I do get on the floor with her and let her climb on my lap
or she also climbs up on the chair and sits with me. Take them on your
walks with you, my daughter loves that. It also helps that my husband will
pick her up for me and hold her while we give each other our kisses!!
— butterfly77ckc
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