Question:
Where can I find more support from men?

There is a lot of information and support from the women's perspective, but It's hard to find many men out there that talk about subjects that pertain particularly about men. Calling all men, help me out.    — Donald W. (posted on June 10, 2003)

June 10, 2003
Men-of-WLS yahoogroup - send e-mail to [email protected] to subscribe. Not especially active, but it is men only...JR
   — John Rushton

June 10, 2003
Hey! I am here, what do you want to know? The loss was wondeful, and a big turn on.:):):)
   — bob-haller

June 10, 2003
Man here last time I checked. I am pre op. had surgery on 4/11/03 -101 pounds. There should sure doesn't seem to be a lot of men here. You can go subscribe to the men of wls on yahoogroups.com
   — Justin F.

June 10, 2003
I was thinking the same thing the other day. I think that there are more women having the surgery, but also find that more men son't take the time to post. I went to my surgeon's support group last week, there were four men and twenty women. The men there stated that they don't post much.
   — David F.

June 10, 2003
Hi Donald, us guys are here but like one of the other posters said we dont post much. I read everyday as to what is new and what goes on here any you are right most posters are woman but I know I am going to get in trouble for this but. Isn't it true they (woman) like talking a lot more than us guys. Please woman dont flame me but it is true. (lol) LAP RNY 02/19/2003 70+lbs GONE
   — tonyskid

June 10, 2003
Hi Guys! I am so happy to see this question posted. I am in the process of writing a book on WLS and want to devote a chapter exclusively on a man's perspective. As you all know, the majority of WLS patients are women, but men deserve their props too!! If you are willing to share your stories with me, I'd love to hear from any and all of you. The book I'm writng is NOT about ME, but about the entire process, from research to long-term outcomes, and everything in between. I am a registered nurse, and have fought the weight battle for a lifetime. I am now at goal, have had my last cosmetic procedure, and now have the body that matches the body image I always dreamed of. Yes, it was hard work and not a painless experience to say the least, butworth every bit of discomfort and $$ spent. My life has changed in so many ways. I bet yours has too. I don't know about you, but I really can't relate to the Carny Wilson's and Al Roker's of the world. People seeking information about WLS need to hear from real people, just like US, to make an informed and educated decisions on taking control of their lives. I am writing this note with the hopes of communicating with men who have taken the steps that would inspire others. You don't have to be at goal, just be in anywhere the process. If that describes you, email me...Diane N [email protected] www.WeightlossSurgery.ws
   — DianeN

June 11, 2003
Glad to see more men here. I know there are different issues. Hey Tony - it's how we are socialized. Women talk about feelings and personal stuff - guys talk about cars and football - personal stuff might be their own car. What I've noticed is that the men who have this done are all super morbid obese. None of them worry about having a 40 BMI. Another socialized difference - men's worth isn't tied up in how they look as women's is program to be. I don't hear as much about men and plastic surgery either and I assume that's the body image thing. My DH just had surgery 3 weeks ago and I tease him because at 330 he's a light weight for a guy. He wouldn't have considered it if I hadn't done it last summer and then he started having health problems in January. Best of luck.
   — Sunny S.

June 11, 2003
There are many of us out here--- sometimes it just takes looking around, finding a chat room where enough of us are (and the conversation isn't centered around birth control pill digestion and other such female issues) and dropping someone an email in whose profile you find something that rings true to your life (or who responded to this posting of yours). I don't think that any of us who are in the directory don't want others to contact us. I was very lucky to have met two men who had had the surgery and who have been wonderful mentors-- having that male perspective helped alot.
   — SteveColarossi