Question:
What do I do about a crush on my doctor??

Hi, recently I go thospitalize dand met a wonderful doctor. Now this is gonna sound childish and like something I should have grown out of during high school, but I have the worst crush on him now. I go to see him in a week and I find myself ALREADY worrying about what I'm going to wear (as if he'll even notice). He's sweet and handsome as can be. Anyone else go through this. I'm 5 months post. He didn't even do my surgery but was there when no other local doctor would touch me.    — Renee V. (posted on August 14, 2002)

August 14, 2002
Oh there is nothing wrong with a little crush , as long as you know that is all it is or will be, my gosh it just shows you are still alive LOL I adore my Doctor, and his Wife works in is office, I have even told her, that her Husband is the most beautiful man I have ever seen, we both laugh about it.
   — Jeri P.

August 14, 2002
I don't think it's that big of a deal. It's normal. You're feeling good about the way you look...he's been really nice and commented on the way you "carry your weight well" (I read your profile), and you've been married a while. Fresh blood! I think most of us will admit we've had a crush like you have at one point or another. I had one on my physical therapist and actually came home all love-sick. I didn't go back ever again because I was so afraid of what might happen with him (I felt like it was a mutual attraction) but I still think about him sometimes. I think we're flesh and blood, and although we've taken vows, we still FEEL normal feelings. Hang in there...but if you feel it's mutual, be careful, it might make a big mess of your life. Mabel Padron-Hernandez
   — Mabel P.

August 14, 2002
WELL I THINK THIS MORE NORMAL THAT I THOUTH THIS HAPPEN TO ME TO. I HAVE A LITTLE CRUSH ON MY DOCTOR I DID THE SURGERY IN MEXICO MAN HE WAS SO NICE THANKS GOD NOTHING HAPPENS. I THINK IS BECAUSE THEY TREAT YOU SO GOOD. WITH TIME THAT FEELING WILL GO AWAY MY IS LEAVING ME BECAUSE I DONT SEE HIM SINCE I DID THE SURGERY. DONT WORRY AND FOCUS ON YOU HUSBAND.TIME WILL DO THE REST.
   — mabel S.

August 14, 2002
My WLS is young (about 33) and looks like Boris Becker the tennis player. He's very cute and since I was his first surgical patient, we've developed a special bond. We joke around and he always tells me how "hot" I look now but that's all it is. He's great and we get along well. He always spends a little more time with me then most of his other patients too. But that's just because we have a good repour with each other. I'm sure his wife and 3 kids think he's the hottest thing since sliced bread too!! My other doctor, the plastic surgeon is about 35 (I have no idea how I find them this young) and he tells me how much better I'm going to look when he's finished with me. He's not as handsome as my WLS surgeon but he's not bad either. I think I like him better because he has taken a lot of concern in my care (he called 3 separate times at the hospital last week to see how I was doing after surgery) plus he's making my body actually look better by removing the fat and stretch marks!!! It's a crush, you'll get over it and it's normal to have them. I just keep finding doctors who are almost the same age as me. I guess I'll have to look for old geezer doctors!! Maybe you should do the same!!
   — Patty H.

August 14, 2002
I've got a crush on my surgeon too! He is my hero! He always jokes around borderlining on being a flirt, and I just eat it up. He saved my life and I think that I will love him for that for the rest of my life. I know that I am not the only one that feels this way. After our support group meeting, everyone *flocks* over to the surgeon, and he loves it. I call it his 'groupies'. Like a bunch of teenagers wanting an autograph of a famous teen-idol rock star. It is very comical when viewed as such. They all love him, I love him. Its normal.
   — Cheri M.

August 15, 2002
After the birth of her second child, my neighbor called me up laughing. When I asked her what was so funny, she told me about an article she had read at the doctor's office. It was about women "falling in love" with their doctors.It was basically referring to pregnancy, but I can easily see how it can occur with other cases. The reasons given were simple. You have a man who is showing compassion, understanding, and is actually listening to you. What more does a woman want from a man? Honey, I assure you that you are perfectly normal. It does wear off, or at least it has for my neighbor and I. Good Luck!
   — Tina B.