Question:
Has anyone else become obsessed with the theory of losing weight?
I made the decision a month ago to find out about and have surgery for wieght loss i made the appointment with the surgeon and i got my referral from my PCP. My first appointment is next week. but it is all i can think of when i am eating or working or trying to sleep. I visit this site probably ten times a day and i read all the question to see if something applies to me and i haven't even started down the road of weight loss. and i know that this will take awhile for insurance approval and all the testing and getting a date. This is all i can think about any suggestions? — Amanda P. (posted on July 24, 2001)
July 24, 2001
I thought I was weird or something, I'm doing the same stuff you are. It's
like you want to hurry up and have the surgery so bad you can't think of
anything else. I keep checking the calendar hoping time will somehow skip
some weeks. If you need to talk, [email protected].
— kathy S.
July 24, 2001
You are so Normal!!! LOL. I was and still am totally obsessed with this
site. I thought I was going to go nuts before surgery. Now that I am post
op I am still here all the time looking for helpful hints and trying to
help the pre-ops with their questions. Open Rny 5-15-01 down 39 pounds.
— Robin C.
July 24, 2001
I am the same way. I feel like I've been waiting forever. Now, I have my
pre-op tests tomorrow and surgery one week from today and it is still hard
to wait. I want this to happen so badly for so many reasons. Don't feel
bad, you're not alone... and it will happen eventually!
— Jill A.
July 24, 2001
I can totally relate. Since making this decision, its almost all I think
about. I, too, check in at this site and read all of the questions and
message board posts. My husband gets a bit annoyed at times. I felt bad
last week because my 7 y/o daughter started crying that I am on the
"stupid computer" all the time. I don't mean to neglect my
family. I take care of their needs and keep the house looking presentable.
This is the first time in my married life that I've taken this kind of time
to do something good for me. It will also be good for them, but first and
foremost, it's MY life that I'm trying to improve and maybe save. I try now
to come online when I have a bit of time to myself. I check in before they
get up and after everyone goes to bed. But I can't help taking "quick
peeks" throughout the day. How could we NOT obsess on something that
is going to change our lives in such huge and amazing ways? Good Luck to
you, your big day is going to come and you are going to be so happy that
you have all the information that you've learned from this site.
— Donna L.
July 24, 2001
Do not feel bad, I have been heavy all of my life and I just heard about
this surgery and I have my consult on Aug. 1 and I am trying so hard to be
patient. It seems worse when I read how long some have to wait but I give
it to God and know that everything will go fine and we will start our new
lives sooner than we think. Be encourage:0)
— Pearl B.
July 24, 2001
I'm right there with you! In fact, if you look at the Q&A postings,
you'll find my name quite a bit! I've gotten the consult, the insurance
approval, now the surgery date, and I'm beside myself with the waiting!
Especially since it's not until Oct.8! Luckily, the steps are broken up so
you at least feel busy up until surgery time. And this site has been a
lifesaver, absolutely! I've made a lot of great email pals on here in all
stages of WLS, and it seems to make the waiting go by a little faster when
you have someone to share it with!
— blank first name B.
July 24, 2001
Don't feel bad - this surgery is like the transformation from a captipillar
to a butterfly...in that it's going to drastically change your life. I
have my surgery scheduled for 14 Aug and it's ALL I THINK ABOUT. My poor
hubbie looked at me the other day and said (jokingly)..."If I hear you
say 'after my surgery' one more time, I'm gonna scream!" It's just
it's all I can seem to think about. There are many reasons...it's a big
change, there is a lot of fear involved here of the operation, the
complications, the new life and experiences. I have 3 weeks to the day
left and if he thinks I drove him crazy yesterday...just wait! Talking
about it is the only way I know to handle...plus I'm going to counseling.
I figure I might as well start dealing with things like emotional eating,
head hunger, stress management, and all those issues as to why I'm
overweight in the first place. You might try that as well.
— [Deactivated Member]
July 24, 2001
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. I STARTED THIS PROCESS IN JAN, AND I AM STILL WAITING
INS. APPROVAL. INS WAS FILED 13 WEEKS AGO AND STILL NO WORD. I LOOK AT
EVERY QUESTION AND ANSWER HOPEING TO FIND ONE THAT MIGHT HELP ME. I WANT
THIS SUREGRY SO BAD AND SEEM TO GET NO WHERE AT THIS POINT. I CALL INS AND
SURGEROS OFFICE EVERY WEEK NOW. I JUST WANT TO LIVE AGAIN.
— PAMELA T.
July 24, 2001
I would consider myself a "WLS Junkie" I too am obsessed with
knowing anything that has to do with the surgery. I watch all the T.V.
shows that come on about it (BTW there is one tonight on TLC at 10p E/P). I
also have to read any literature I can in regards to the surgery, including
this website. I also have a ton of bookmarks for other sites that I am
constantly reading. My surgery is scheduled for 8-15-01(22 days but who is
counting). I am also not quiet about the surgery at all, I tell everyone I
want to help educate any one that I can (skinny or chubby). I also drive my
husband and friends that are post-op nuts. I have a million questions and
don't want to leave any stone unturned. I can't wait to be a post-op and
come on here and answer all the questions like people do for me. I don't
have any suggestions, I think what you are doing is totally normal. Good
Luck on your journey!
— Staci P.
July 24, 2001
Wellll....after three years and a loss of 126lbs., I'm still
obsessed. Perhaps it never ends.
— [Anonymous]
July 24, 2001
Pre-op, that is all I thought about!!! I read every scrap of material I
could find, talked it over with my husband time and again, and you could
definitely say I was obsessed! My surgery was 1 Sep 01 and I am down 103
lbs. But I still get on here every day, sometimes twice a day, and read
the message board and the q&a board. I watch every TV show about
obesity and the surgery and read everything I find printed about it. Guess
I'll always be obsessed! So consider yourself, if not normal, at least you
are in the company of a lot of other obsessive people! Hugs and kisses,
pat
— nealp
July 24, 2001
YES!
I have been on this site so much,I think my Husband is getting annoyed with
me.
I am not even guaranteed to get the surgery and I am talking too about
"after my surgery".
When I first saw the articles on Carnie Wilson I said that is so only for
rich people and I would never do it,But well I am eating my words only a
few short months later,because I am trying so hard to get this done for
myself.
Good luck to everyone trying to get it and to everyone who already has
Congradulations!!!
— Brandy P.
July 26, 2001
You really are just fine...I did the same thing. I was on this site 24/7!
LOL.
I'm 1 1/2 years out, now, and I do still check the site from time to time.
But just to let you know, soon you'll be so busy living your new life that
you won't have time to obsess anymore! So don't worry, and log on as much
as you need to- this is a tough process, and you should avail yourself of
all this group has to offer!
— Jennifer G.
July 26, 2001
YES! ME TOO! EXACTLY!!! I feel the same way. I just decided about 2 months
ago to have surgery. I found this sight and MAN WAS I HOOKED! It is like I
have no life now. All I think about is weightloss surgery! I am totally
obsessed with this process. I read everything just like you said. The
waiting is killing me, I can't even schedule an appointment until August,
and they know they are booked until at least September. I have gotten my
PCP to agree, my insurance says they will cover if medically needed, I even
have an appointment to see the specialist who will follow me post-op. Now
all that is left to do is to WAIT AND WAIT AND WAIT!!! I am so frustrated!
All of this to say, No you are not crazy, or maybe you are and I am too!!
LOL
— Helen A.
July 26, 2001
Hi. I am the same way!!! My mom calls and it is busy because that is all I
do. My husband comes home and sees the house is a mess and he knows why.
Because I am on here ALL the time. You are normal or I am messed up :)
— Brenda P.
July 26, 2001
Hi I have also become very obsessed with this hole thing. I spend about 3
hours or more sometimes on this site everyday. It drives my husband nuts
I'm sure even though he wouldn't say so. So you are not alone.
— Sue R. T.
July 26, 2001
YOU JUST DESCRIBED ME!! Maybe its a personality thing, but when I decide I
want to do something I get into 100%. I started in May and spent every free
moment on this site. I had surgery on July 23rd and still some twice a day.
They day once you get the ball rolling and lose weight that you get busy
and rarely come in most cases unless its a specific reason. So dont fret
your ok
— Courtney W.
July 26, 2001
Amanda, I am SOOOO there! I started off calling for a consultation back in
February and my consult date is August 21st! I am drving myself crazy (not
to mention my kids)! I get on here every single day, several times a day
because of all of the wuestions and different things I learn about this! I
TRY to make myself NOT think about it but it is impossible. I have come to
the conclusion that this is normal and just keep trying to keep my mind on
other things. (it's not really working though)
— Happy B.
July 26, 2001
I found out about the surgery through my mothers hair dresser (the girl who
does her facials, Stephanie, had the surgery). And after I had spoken to
Stephanie a couple of times over a period of about 3 weeks I called to
schedule an appt with the same surgeon she had used. I called the surgeon
in late May but he can't see me until mid Sept. I'm literaly counting off
the days on my calendar, and I know that I only have 47 more days until
that appt. I do talk about it everyday to my family, but I haven't even
mentioned it to anybody outside my family (accept Stephanie who does the
facials) I am sooooo excited about the prospect of not being trapped inside
this body anymore. I suffer from pretty severe sleep apnea and therefore
am tired allllll the time even with the C-Pap machine prescribed by my PCP
to help the situation. Everyday while doing ordinary tasks that wear me
out I stop to think how wonderful it will be to be able to walk from the
parking lot to the office without being short of breath, and when I
attended my niece's wedding last week I was thinking longingly of maybe
being able to take dance lessons next year, because I expect to have an
enormous store of energy after I stop carrying around an extra person and
am finally able to get a good nights sleep. I don't really know if this is
a realistic expectation but I really am hoping to be able to have the
surgery within a month of my initial consultation. My sister was also
considering the surgery but she's not sure she could handle the possible
side effects (throwing up all the time and dumping). But, I would rather
never be able to enjoy another bite of food for the rest of my life then
live another day like this than I have to. I just wish I had the ability
to lose the weight on my own, but I've tried so many times with so many
different methods and have never been successful. At this point in my life
food is both my only friend and my worst enemy. I think about this surgery
every every every day, and try to imagine what my life will be like a year
after the surgery. I know there can be some very nasty side effects to
this surgery, but right now I'm so excited about the prospect of what my
life can be like that I am more then willing to suffer those consequences
for the next 50 years if I have to.
— Elva C.
July 26, 2001
I don't consider this obsession. I call it HOPE, after years of desparity.
You go girl!!! You are in my prayers!
— Mary S.
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