Question:
Help I am pregnant

Ok, This is gonna be a bit long but I will try and sum it up without everyone having to read a novel. I had WLS 3 years ago and have met my goal of 125 and have manage to stay there for a will. I have even gotten the dream job. I am a Flight Attendant and I am suceesfully working for and airline. I also met the man of my dream. The man I am gonna marry and the man I am currently 3 months pregnant by. Our wedding is scheduled for july 16, 2005. I have had to make some adjustments in life because the pregnancy was unexpected. What I need for everyone is some good advice on how to make this work. I feel as if I am getting ready to lose the dream career that I sought out for for a man that I really love. By the way this will be baby number 5. This is my first wedding and I already cant have the wedding I want because of money problems. This man is doing his best to take care of me and get a job but its really hard to find a good job in california when we are both based in North Carolina. I guess I am also a little upset about being pregnant to. I really didnt want to have it and I should have protected myself but its here and I just need some advice on how to handle my dream career with a pregnancy and a man that I love..also does anyone know how the whole WLS and pregnancy thing works? have not been able to find anything on it...please respond but also respond by emailing me to..I really need some goood advice    — Lovett (posted on June 3, 2005)

June 3, 2005
Hi, I am 3 years S/P distal RNY although I did not lose all my expected wieght I did lose some and I did keep it off. I had 4 children prior to my bypass all c-section. I did have a fifth child S/P bypass and it was also a C-section. Everything went fine I really only gained 10-15 pounds and it came off right away. Just eat healthy like you are doing and take your pills and evrything will be fine. It's no big deal. Although, I am married and all my children are from the same man and all the children are with in 10 years of each other. I strongly feel that you have everything going for you. You found a man to call your husband and a father to your children and your new arrival. You have a job that you will not be able to do for a few months so what. Your future husband WILL find a job. You have to believe that we are in the situations that we are in for a reason, even if you can not see the sun now. God know just where you need to be. I can honestly say that I see so much joy every day in how the kids just love their sister and protect her like crazy. That is a family and no money can buy that. Also, no babies are ever left over in the nursery, they all go home. I wish you luck, faith and joy! Believe in yourself and in your husband it will work out, you are just emotional. Take Care, Cheryl
   — train

June 3, 2005
Congrats on your pregnancy, there is a reason God is giving you this gift. I grew up in a family with flight attendants and wanted to let you know that it is totally possible to be pregnant and do your job. You might be a bit more tired but its possible to still work. They even have cute maternity uniforms for you to wear! Good luck!
   — *Malena* M.

June 3, 2005
Life is full of shouldas couldas and wouldas and the grass may be greener on the other side, but it still has to be mowed. Someone else mentioned that God has a plan for you but you need to take the focus off of yourself if you want to begin to see it and live it. There are lots of people that lost that dream job but there is more to life than what our dreams are. It may seem that things are falling apart but if you shift your focus you may just see other doors open as you hear others close. God's Blessings to you!
   — David B.

June 6, 2005
I suggest you seek professional help, such as counseling. Also about your pregancy, talk to your surgeon and your primary doc. Good luck
   — CAYA M.