Question:
What to do?

I have finally got a date. I am scared now. This is what i wont i just cant beleive it is going to happen. I guess i just need some body to talk to. Is this normal or am i crazy?    — Michelle R. (posted on April 22, 2000)

April 22, 2000
Michelle.... oh girl, you are definitely not alone nor are you crazy! Some days are so long. What has helped me has been reading posts here and gathering as much postop info as I can. I will see what works and what doesn't (for me)in a few short days. My New Beginning starts on Wed the 26th of April ... Keep positive thoughts and give some thought as to why you started this journey. Best of everything!
   — Dottie H.

April 22, 2000
Hi! First of all, CONGRADS!!! I know how you feel as I have very similar feelings. Scared, nervous, fear, and yes, even excitement! I find this site to be very helpful. My advice to you also is just to talk, talk, talk. Talk to as many people as you can about what and how your feeling. Maybe even start a journel. I know that has helped me in the past. Feel free to E-mail me. Good luck! Kristin
   — MissAuntieK

April 23, 2000
First, congratulations on your surgery date. Second, you're not crazy! Fear of the unknown is always a scarey thing for everyone (usually). I must say for myself, the thing that scared me most was after the surgery, would I "fit in" when I went to family gatherings or when I went out with friends, especially if we went somewhere to eat. And you know what, my fears were groundless! The surgery part is always frightening because the surgeons have to tell you (by law) all the complications etc, that can occur, but just think of what your new life is going to be like and how much happier and healthier you are going to be and before you know it, your surgery date will be behind you and your biggest fear will be if you have clothes that fit or maybe trying to avoid embarassment (I had a pair of pantyhose fall down cuz they were too big, but I was sure I could use them). Anyhow, you'll be fine! If you need to talk some more, please do not hesitate to e-mail me. I am one year p/o RNY and feeling great. Would I do it again? Yep, in half a heart- beat. Take care Michelle, and good luck. Judy
   — Judy P.

April 23, 2000
Of course you are crazy, Michelle. You are normal, too!!!! I think most of us who have a date for surgery or are post op have experienced the same emotions you are now feeling. For me, when I knew that this surgery was really going to happen, I felt a tremendous sense of relief and hope. I had a lot to do in order to prepare for the operation because I was needing to travel from Florida to New York City for the surgery. As much as that stuff kept me going I also tried to keep busy coming to this site for support and answering others questions. I also found strength in the Lord and resting in His arms and letting Him take care of everything!! Enjoy the excitement of the anticipation of this life saving and life changing event!!! You'll be fine. Read, Read, Read as much as you can and don't overlook the database here at AMOS. The more you know the better able you will be to take information and relate it to your own situation and decide what might be best for you, medically and personally. Good luck.
   — Fran B.