Question:
Sex question- Am I the only one?

I never had this issue before. I am 2 months post-op & down 50 lbs. When my husband & I have sex now it hurts. Is it related to weight lose? I just started having this problem since the last month. Any insight would be great.    — Paula G. (posted on March 28, 2003)


March 28, 2003
What exactly hurts? Are you just too dry? I don't know what causes that (maybe dehydration?) but there's products to take care of that. Or is it that you just have less padding now and body parts are getting a little roughed up? You could try switching positions.
   — Angie M.

March 28, 2003
I am glad I am not the only one. I hurt the day after. It is like my insides were banged up. No pun intended :) Does anyone else hurt inside their abdomen after sex?
   — Kim DeHart

March 28, 2003
This question has been addressed many times before, but we can talk about it again. You are losing "padding" and this is allowing your partner to achieve deeper penetration. Both of you will have to try different positions/techniques designed to reduce the amount of penetration (or just tell him to take it a little bit easier on you). I had a similar problem when I lost the 157 pounds (so far) since my surgery and will face it again after my wife recovers from her Lap RNY on 5/6...JR
   — John Rushton

March 28, 2003
I also had the same problem. It felt as if I had "golfballs" sitting down low. I went to my gynecologist and he said that it was my Polycystic Ovarian Disease. I had this PCOS under control pre-op with birth control pills, and had stopped taking them due to blood clot possibility with my lap rny. He just put me back on birth control pills and ever since I have been just fine.
   — april-michele D.

March 29, 2003
john....i don't mean to sound rude, but there is no possible way that you can know what we are feeling...i am not hurting because there is a loss of padding...i am hurting inside...it is like my organs have been attacked....unless you are a woman and have experienced it, you would have no way of knowing
   — Kim DeHart

March 29, 2003
Kim...that *was* a rude remark. I speak from the experience of my wife talking to me about the deeper penetration that I have been achieving since my weight loss. You know, the first respondent made the same remark that I did about the loss of padding and I noticed that you didn't flame her. It could be possible that you and the original poster may have adhesions internally as a result of your surgery and that the act of sex is tugging on those adhesions causing pain. Or don't I know what I am talking about again, Kim?....JR
   — John Rushton

March 29, 2003
It could possibly be the problem you have with cysts on your ovaries. I have cysts on my ovaries and have problems with pain with sex with deep penetration and I have not had the surgery yet. You said you never had the problem before, So it could be that you are losing weight and your husband can now go deeper than he could before, therfore causing pain.
   — Just P

March 29, 2003
Definitely see your Gyn. With all of the hormone changes which can cause awful changes everywhere. Also, I know the previous poster did not want to be rude, but whenever you try to exclude someones opinions, it can be hurtful. It is hard to keep men posting on this site and we need them here. So no more exclusionary remarks to anyone please.
   — faybay

March 29, 2003
I'm with you John. Seems like a guy should be able to offer a different view point without getting stepped on. Geese. ;)
   — Danmark




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