Question:
I've read a lot of people's yoo hoo goes through change...
I know this sounds crazy, but I've read where a lot of women have trouble having sex after losing most of their weight. They hint that their vagina's shrink right along with the rest of their bodies. Is there any truth to this??? Some people say they can't stand sex afterwards because it hurts them. Feedback would be nice..(rosy cheeks here) — Leigh G. (posted on November 10, 2002)
November 9, 2002
hi, I do not know if this is true but I sure hope not...lol Im ready to
have better sex and get down, dirty and have fun and fabulous sex ..lol
Once im thinner..hehe Im also rosey red. Its so funny how so many become
embarrassed or rosey after talking about sexual/ intimate things. Lets all
pray....... this is not true. Lets all join hands girls....lol
— Starla W.
November 9, 2002
I think that it's more likely that without the extra "padding" on
the female's body, her significant other is able to get closer (so to speak
*G*) and achieve deeper penetration than was possible before. This would
probably even be the case if it was the man who had the WLS...JR
— John Rushton
November 9, 2002
I don't think the vagina shrinks, I think that there is less padding and
therefore deeper penetration happens, as stated by the previous poster. I
have lost 150 pounds and can say that sex does feel different....but not
bad. At first it was a little uncomfortable...new places being introduced
to something not felt before. lol There was another question about this
asked not too long ago and there were MANY replies...might check out the
library.
— Paula Prichard
November 9, 2002
I don't think the vagina shrinks, but John is right. For some, the deeper
penetration can be painful, for others, it's fantastic. Also, some people
lose their sex drive temporarily, others (like me) get major horny from all
that estrogen that's released from the fat cells as we're losing. My
boyfriend (I was 47, he was 53 when I had surgery) said we were like
teenagers again! I couldn't get enough! LOL (BTW, I almost never get
rosy cheeked :))
— Leslie F.
November 9, 2002
I think.. having trouble might be more related to emotions and what's going
on in your head... since sex is... mostly there.. right? I will say.. for
me right now.. I'm having orgasms that my partner calls.. "peel you
off the ceiling" ones... *grin* .. they were great before.. but now..
WOW! I can't wait for another 90 pounds... *grin*
— Lisa C.
November 9, 2002
So far I've only lost 55 pounds - but I can tell you that so far - so
great!! I agree with a previous post that the mind is the biggest sex
organ that we have - I believe that sex will be even more wonderful the
smaller I get and so far that has been the case. Good Luck!!
— Etta M.
November 10, 2002
Thank the good Lord for small favors, LOL
— Sherry S.
November 10, 2002
My gynecologist says this is TRUE! I use a diaphram for birth control, and
she told me I would have to have it checked for fitting with every 10-20
pounds lost. She said the diaphram will be too BIG and/or not sit right
upping the chances for pregnancy. So, I will use 2 forms of bc until I am
done losing weight and then get re-fitted. Good luck!
— Jen D.
November 10, 2002
I had not heard this question or any comments so was interested in what the
responses would be. I am posting because my experience is different than
what I read below.
I do not know if my vagina has shrunk (seems impossible) HOWEVER, something
has happened! At 330 lbs the only problems I had with sex was leg cramps.
Now at 161 lbs (1 year post-op) the only problem I am having is getting
"it" in. I am SOOO tight that it is painful. Once in, I am good
to go. Never experienced this before except that first time. At about six
months it started and has gotten progressively worse. It makes no sense to
me that loosing weight would make me tighter. Less fat in the way should
make things easier.
I just moved and had to find a new doctor. I mentioned this problem with
him and he is referring me to a GYN. I have not gotten that referral yet
but am anxiously waiting to see if there will be any help for me.
— Lisa Marie D.
November 10, 2002
I have to say, I am 13 weeks post op, down 60 lbs and sex is definatly
getting BETTER! I have had no discomfort, and not noticed any problems,
though I do agree with John, DH can get MUCH closer and deeper which for me
is very satisfying. Hope this helps!
— Tami D.
November 11, 2002
I can this happened to me. In the beginning sex hurted in every position.
And from the anesthesia I had lost all moisture (sorry so graphic) in that
area. It has gotten alot better, but now I am on celexa and have sort of
lost my desire but i do give in to keep the peace. But I think it like
everything else, give it time and it will get better.
— Chris9672
November 11, 2002
Sounds like a good thing to me!!
— DeeDee B.
November 12, 2002
I'm 21/2 years post & have had no problem with painful sex. In fact, I
am having the best sex of my life...at 48 years old...go figure.
— Kathy W.
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