Question:
What is the effect of the drastic food restrictions on your spouse?

   — Sue B. (posted on August 14, 2000)


August 14, 2000
My husband loves it because there are more leftovers for him. He is one of those people that can eat and eat without gaining weight, so the less I eat, the more there is for him.
   — Lynn K.

August 14, 2000
My fiance hates to waste food, so he has gained weight while I have lost it. We are still learning to buy and cook smaller quantities. He is happy for me, but hates to have to eat so much.
   — Heather T.

August 14, 2000
My boyfriend has actually lost some weight! He really only had a little bit to lose. But, now he's eating healthier when I cook. Also, when we go out, we usually split an entree. Split may not be the right word since I only have a little bit. But it helps keep him from overeating. Even with splitting an entree, we sometimes have leftovers. In that case, I have my lunch to take to work!
   — Gina E.

August 14, 2000
Hi. Well there's not a "spouse" at my house to report on, but I do have 3 grown sons still at home that are a little healthier because of my food restrictions. I must admit that they do kinda miss the "good 'ol days" when I'd cook for an army, (and raising 4 sons, it seemed like I really was) but they are learning more and more to fend for themselves unless they want to have to eat "MOM'S" food. They do tend to scramble for the "doggie bag" that I bring home from a restaurant tho' and it's usually in the microwave before I'm fully through the front door. None of them have "gained" weight, but they have "gained" alot of insight and understanding about various food choices because they've all seen and experienced my struggle with my obesity. They don't tempt me by bringing alot of junk food into the house and are tickled to death when I actually cook (or bake) something just for them. When I DO actually cook a full meal for the family, I'm sure they're all wondering..."hey, lady, who are you and what did you do with our mother??" They're healthier...I'm healthier, and we're all a whole lot happier. cj
   — cj T.

August 14, 2000
To tell the truth my husband thinks its' great. We own a restaurant and my husband is only home one day a week, on Tuesday, unfortunately my husband is legally blind and our Tuesdays are filled with doctors' appointments which I have to drive him to. To make a long story short(although I never seem to make it)(short that is) I'm saving him alot of money. We have to share our meals if we eat out, and if we are home and I cook, he eats whatever he wants and I eat whatever I'm able. After this operation you learn that it's not the eating that makes for pleasant time together, its' the time together that makes for conversation. I did however miss the food I wasn't able to have, but I found my husband very supportive and understanding. If you stop and think about it we never really look at what other people are eating why then should anybody care what we eat. DON'T WORRY BE HAPPY- - HEY THAT WOULD MAKE A GOOD SONG DON'T YOU THINK?
   — Nilvia R.

August 15, 2000
Unfortunately, my husband has gained some weight since I had the surgery five months ago. He refuses to waste food and eats anything that I don't wrap up and save. We were having dessert just about every night for a while (I'd have some and he would finish mine, plus eat his) but when I hit a plateau for five weeks I decided that dessert needed to go. Now we're both eating healthier (no sugar except he has 3 cookies in his lunch, and more veggies from the garden). My platue has broken and hopefully he will start losing some weight too. Even though he is around 150 lbs overweight he won't even consider having the operation himself so I've started sneaking to throw away food so he doesn't see me and won't be compelled to eat it himself. The things we do!
   — Kellie L.

August 15, 2000
In the beginning it is of course inconvenient. But after 2 months I just eat a little of what I fix for him usually minus the bread. I even eat rice and potatoes just not much bread. So it's all pretty even. Sometimes he feels bad because he eats ice cream bars and sundaes etcetera and I just say "hey it's ok, I don't want that anyway." He's starting to understand that.
   — [Deactivated Member]

August 15, 2000
Interesting question. Actually, the more I ponder it, the more I am convinced that I don't have "drastic food restrictions" since the surgery. What I actually have is a 'normal' diet. My family eats more healthy meals now and they don't get many desserts fixed at home anymore. I eat much smaller servings of food than they do. This certainly hasn't had much of an effect on my husband who still have the hunky, trim, athletic body he did when we married over 21 years ago!
   — Cindy H.

August 15, 2000
Actually my family says they are eating MUCH better now.. Mainly because I make all kinds of recipes adapted to me and my new antomy but perfectly suitable for the whole family.. I make my recipes the lowest fat possible and of course sugar free.. They love it!!!! I also make all sorts of sugar free desserts that my family and their friends line up for.. So I guess you might say the effect was VERY POSITIVE.. I plan my menus with them in mind.. Just because I have a small pouch does not mean I don't eat normal.. I eat VERY NORMAL.. ;-)
   — Victoria B.




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