Question:
*Grow Up People*
Ive been Using this site for many months now..And Ive sat back quietly and said very little. Ive posted many times, and have made a couple friends who I Do keep in contact with through email, I Dont like to Post here anymore, even though I Do like to visit the site, Just to read the Q&A postings. I think some of you people need to grow up. Ive seen such trival things about Caps, Posting more then one time, and etc. Or reasking a question or NOT knowing exactly all the rules that you would like to apply to this site..well Hello but I Came to this site for support and Love, and looking for people who were in the same place As I was. And By No Means am I accusing all of you of being intolerant of people, but I do see alot of it...I Realize this is a stressful time for most of us..We have decided to commit to something that will forever change our lives, and our emotions have to be running deep..Myself Ive not had the surgery and am Fighting to get approval, I Know i sometimes allow my emotions to control my thoughts. But I Ask of you all to before you start to type something cruel or mean, or just being picky about something little, that on the other end of this computer is a person with feelings, and a life...Is it really that important to upset them just to vent your anger their way..???? Think About it....Thanks for listening, Im sure ill get hammered over this one..But I Still love this Site!!!! — Ann A. (posted on February 11, 2000)
February 11, 2000
Hello Ann, Thank you. Finally someone with alot of commom sense!! It
amazes me how people claim to come here for support, love and understanding
but are so easily angered by the small things in life. I feel the we, BIG
AND BEAUTIFUL people should be more compassionate and understanding towards
each other since the rest of the world isn't. You said it nicely but
firmly. As to being hammered for it, please don't let them get to you.
I, for one am glad you approached this subject head on.
— TERRY L.
February 11, 2000
You're right, you will get hammered but you still make a good point. Every
day new people join this site and not knowing the "rules" will do
something wrong and pretty soon someone will start yammering at them about
THEIR personal comfort (can't read all caps) etc.etc. and we will lose some
good people because of they will feel slapped in their faces. I am tired of
it too. I am sure if everyone who felt the same way we do would address
this issue with the offending people (privately) nothing would change
because they see themselves as perfect and everyone else has the problem.
Besides they may be called up for it in public. Take what's good from the
site and ignore the rest. We, as fat persons in America, are used to doing
exactly that. For what's its worth, I DO agree with you and I am sure
others do too.
— Mary G.
February 11, 2000
AMEN ANN!
— laurie H.
February 11, 2000
Dear Roberta,
I do understand about the caps, and Im didnt direct any of my statement
to Anyone in particular. I Just feel that I see alot of bickering going on
between certain People. Like many new users Ive also, by mistake posted
more then once by clicking my enter button. Ive also asked questions that
probably have been asked before. Only to be Told Sorry You asked the same
question that so and so did, and Got no replies. Now I Do see alot of
wonderful people here, and I Am sure you are one of them too *smiles*. I
Just dont think we can go anywhere if all we put of emotions too is
ignoring someone or cutting them down. If you feel I Did this Im Sorry, but
that was NOT my intention at all. I was trying to tell everyone here, that
we all under alot of emotional Stress and that we shouldnt treat each other
like that...Plus Being new, No one told me what to do or how to do it. But
boy there were a few to quickly TELL Me like it was..*sigh* Anyone, I Hope
I Didnt offend anyone, I Am here because its important for me to not feel
alone at this point, and Id like to make someone else know that they do
have a friend too...So thankyou For all your replys...
— Ann A.
February 11, 2000
Thank you for your post and for your opinion. I like to read the opinions
and insights of others on this website. However, I am not offended if
someone politely points something out to me that I did not know. I think
that applies to many, many situations on this website - including the
bothersome use of ALL CAPS. I think that as long as someone reminds us of
this politely, then it is ok. I also noticed the title of your post was,
"Grow Up People" Now, we could get upset about that title, or
take it with a grain of salt. I'm not saying your shouldn't have told us
to grow up, but your post is just another person "politely" (in
my opinion) reminding us of something that we may not have noticed about
ourselves. We should not be so touchy -- we should be able to take and
give constructive criticism. However, I agree--we should never be rude or
mean-spirited to one another because we are all in this together! Can I
get an AMEN?
— Cindy H.
February 11, 2000
Amen!
— California J.
February 11, 2000
Dear Cindy H,
*Smiles* Thanks for your reply also, and I will say that I Am sorry for
the topic "Grow up people". I used it thinking that maybe it
would get peoples attention, but wasnt used tactfully. So yes I Do
apologize. Now I knew I Was gonna get "hammered" say to speak on
this one, But I Will tell you this. Ive posted many times on issue
concerning my weight, insurance etc. At no time did I Recieve more then one
reply. *sigh* Now I Posted this thinking maybe if Just one person before
they typed would think about the other persons feelings then it would be
worth me typing it, and knowing I Would get many replys...And as I had
thought, Ive recieved numerous emails and replys on this topic. And from
people that thought I was directing it to them...As I Said before and I
will say it again...I Love this site, because of the diversity of it, but I
happen to notice that certain people ( No Names Mentioned) were bickering
between one another over what i thought were minor issues. We all have our
opionion and I was voicing mine. Im sorry if I Offended anyone, but I Still
believe we are suppose to be more supportive in a emotional time like
this..Thankyou Again *S*
— Ann A.
February 12, 2000
Your right Ann. We have new people everyday. They will learn to post
correctly and until then let's leave them alone.
— [Anonymous]
February 12, 2000
It seems to me that there has been a lot of unnecessary time wasted on this
subject. I can't figure out what the big deal is. That is why you have a
delete key. So what if everyone doesn't post perfectly. When I see a lot of
people making a big deal about a trival issues it is usually because they
do not want to look at the real issues that are bothering them, i.e. WLS.
Just my opinion.
— Pamela J. K.
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