Question:
*Grow Up People*

Ive been Using this site for many months now..And Ive sat back quietly and said very little. Ive posted many times, and have made a couple friends who I Do keep in contact with through email, I Dont like to Post here anymore, even though I Do like to visit the site, Just to read the Q&A postings. I think some of you people need to grow up. Ive seen such trival things about Caps, Posting more then one time, and etc. Or reasking a question or NOT knowing exactly all the rules that you would like to apply to this site..well Hello but I Came to this site for support and Love, and looking for people who were in the same place As I was. And By No Means am I accusing all of you of being intolerant of people, but I do see alot of it...I Realize this is a stressful time for most of us..We have decided to commit to something that will forever change our lives, and our emotions have to be running deep..Myself Ive not had the surgery and am Fighting to get approval, I Know i sometimes allow my emotions to control my thoughts. But I Ask of you all to before you start to type something cruel or mean, or just being picky about something little, that on the other end of this computer is a person with feelings, and a life...Is it really that important to upset them just to vent your anger their way..???? Think About it....Thanks for listening, Im sure ill get hammered over this one..But I Still love this Site!!!!    — Ann A. (posted on February 11, 2000)


February 11, 2000
Hello Ann, Thank you. Finally someone with alot of commom sense!! It amazes me how people claim to come here for support, love and understanding but are so easily angered by the small things in life. I feel the we, BIG AND BEAUTIFUL people should be more compassionate and understanding towards each other since the rest of the world isn't. You said it nicely but firmly. As to being hammered for it, please don't let them get to you. I, for one am glad you approached this subject head on.
   — TERRY L.

February 11, 2000
You're right, you will get hammered but you still make a good point. Every day new people join this site and not knowing the "rules" will do something wrong and pretty soon someone will start yammering at them about THEIR personal comfort (can't read all caps) etc.etc. and we will lose some good people because of they will feel slapped in their faces. I am tired of it too. I am sure if everyone who felt the same way we do would address this issue with the offending people (privately) nothing would change because they see themselves as perfect and everyone else has the problem. Besides they may be called up for it in public. Take what's good from the site and ignore the rest. We, as fat persons in America, are used to doing exactly that. For what's its worth, I DO agree with you and I am sure others do too.
   — Mary G.

February 11, 2000
AMEN ANN!
   — laurie H.

February 11, 2000
Dear Roberta, I do understand about the caps, and Im didnt direct any of my statement to Anyone in particular. I Just feel that I see alot of bickering going on between certain People. Like many new users Ive also, by mistake posted more then once by clicking my enter button. Ive also asked questions that probably have been asked before. Only to be Told Sorry You asked the same question that so and so did, and Got no replies. Now I Do see alot of wonderful people here, and I Am sure you are one of them too *smiles*. I Just dont think we can go anywhere if all we put of emotions too is ignoring someone or cutting them down. If you feel I Did this Im Sorry, but that was NOT my intention at all. I was trying to tell everyone here, that we all under alot of emotional Stress and that we shouldnt treat each other like that...Plus Being new, No one told me what to do or how to do it. But boy there were a few to quickly TELL Me like it was..*sigh* Anyone, I Hope I Didnt offend anyone, I Am here because its important for me to not feel alone at this point, and Id like to make someone else know that they do have a friend too...So thankyou For all your replys...
   — Ann A.

February 11, 2000
Thank you for your post and for your opinion. I like to read the opinions and insights of others on this website. However, I am not offended if someone politely points something out to me that I did not know. I think that applies to many, many situations on this website - including the bothersome use of ALL CAPS. I think that as long as someone reminds us of this politely, then it is ok. I also noticed the title of your post was, "Grow Up People" Now, we could get upset about that title, or take it with a grain of salt. I'm not saying your shouldn't have told us to grow up, but your post is just another person "politely" (in my opinion) reminding us of something that we may not have noticed about ourselves. We should not be so touchy -- we should be able to take and give constructive criticism. However, I agree--we should never be rude or mean-spirited to one another because we are all in this together! Can I get an AMEN?
   — Cindy H.

February 11, 2000
Amen!
   — California J.

February 11, 2000
Dear Cindy H, *Smiles* Thanks for your reply also, and I will say that I Am sorry for the topic "Grow up people". I used it thinking that maybe it would get peoples attention, but wasnt used tactfully. So yes I Do apologize. Now I knew I Was gonna get "hammered" say to speak on this one, But I Will tell you this. Ive posted many times on issue concerning my weight, insurance etc. At no time did I Recieve more then one reply. *sigh* Now I Posted this thinking maybe if Just one person before they typed would think about the other persons feelings then it would be worth me typing it, and knowing I Would get many replys...And as I had thought, Ive recieved numerous emails and replys on this topic. And from people that thought I was directing it to them...As I Said before and I will say it again...I Love this site, because of the diversity of it, but I happen to notice that certain people ( No Names Mentioned) were bickering between one another over what i thought were minor issues. We all have our opionion and I was voicing mine. Im sorry if I Offended anyone, but I Still believe we are suppose to be more supportive in a emotional time like this..Thankyou Again *S*
   — Ann A.

February 12, 2000
Your right Ann. We have new people everyday. They will learn to post correctly and until then let's leave them alone.
   — [Anonymous]

February 12, 2000
It seems to me that there has been a lot of unnecessary time wasted on this subject. I can't figure out what the big deal is. That is why you have a delete key. So what if everyone doesn't post perfectly. When I see a lot of people making a big deal about a trival issues it is usually because they do not want to look at the real issues that are bothering them, i.e. WLS. Just my opinion.
   — Pamela J. K.




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