Question:
HELP, Loss of desire!!!!!!!
Calling all post ops!! I am in desperate need of advice. I am currently 18 months post op and have lost around 136lbs and also, my desire to be intimate with my DH. I have looked and read all I can in the library on this and do not really see what I am looking for. I love DH dearly and hate to see him so disappointed in my lack of desire for him or rather I should say "within myself". I want and need to fix this. Can anyone suggest any type of vitamin or herbal supplement that may have helped you or someone you know, feel more vibrant?! Thank you for all your support :) — ncgal (posted on February 15, 2003)
February 15, 2003
I know how you feel..I am in the same boat. I am making an appt with Gyno
to discuss this very topic..I will let you know. Hugs, MJ
— mjvallee
February 15, 2003
11 months post op...same boat...when you discover the secret, be sure to
share it!
— ~~Stacie~~
February 15, 2003
I'm 9 1/2 months out (and exactly 100lbs as of this morning ! yeah me!)and
suffering from the same thing! I'm thinking of trying the new drug Avlimil.
I saw the commericial on TV and went to their website. It's not a
prescription drug and is non-hormonal. It is expensive but I'm seriously
thinking of trying it. The website is www.avlimil.com. Has anyone tried
this? If I do order it I will give an update :)
— LynneSteinmetz
February 15, 2003
Michelle, I don't know the miracle cure, but you're not alone! I've become
SO self concious of my body and the extra skin that I've lost almost ALL of
my "desire" ... While my husband could care less, in fact he's
excited about his new wife, I can't seem to get out of this
"slump" ... Just to let you know you're not alone! I'll be
interested in hearing the rest of the responses to this question!
— Elizabeth D.
February 15, 2003
Ladies, I have heard of some stuff called NIAGRA. It is supposedly a female
equivalent to Viagra. It is a blue liquid and comes in a bottle like soda.
I don't know where to get it nationally, it is sold in a little shop by our
house. You can read what ABC had to say about it here:
http://abcnews.go.com/sections/GMA/GoodMorningAmerica/GMA010326_Niagra_Love_Potion.html
Hope it helps you guys out.
— dkinson
February 15, 2003
You might need to make an appointment to see your gynecologist. Maybe
there is something that he/she can suggest or prescribe for you. I keep
hearing about this new drug called Avlimil for female sexual dysfunction.
Maybe that might work. Good luck!
— Kris T.
February 15, 2003
I can't speak for it personally but I have a lot lately about women taking
Viagra and getting their desire back just like men. Discuss with your
doctor.
— zoedogcbr
February 15, 2003
I know exactly what you are talking about. I have felt the same way since
surgery 10 months ago. I like all suggestions you got, cuz I am may
actually try them! Good Luck!!
— bevewy
February 15, 2003
Hi there, Michelle! How about some Horny Goat Weed! This is real stuff,
we gave it to my Father-in-law who didn't want Viagra and wanted a pick me
up. My Moter-in-law said his pick me up almost broke the bed! :-O LOL
Ask your doctor first to make sure it's okay, they sell it at GNC. Have
fun! Vi open RNY 9/23/02 down 105 lbs.
— Vi F.
February 15, 2003
Hi again, Michelle! Here is the link to read up on it a little. There are
some good herbs out there that may help!
http://www.musclemaster.com/info/goatweed.htm
Vi
— Vi F.
February 16, 2003
Hi all and thanks so much for your responses. They are great and I will
definitely look into these suggestions. I do plan on making an appt with my
gyno too. Hopefully this will all get better soon. :)
— ncgal
February 18, 2003
Michelle, I too am in the same boat as you. I am 15 months post op and have
had sex 4 times. I have lost ALL desire. I have seen doctors/specialists,
tried Viagra, Dream Cream, Testosterone cream and pills (same as the new
Avlimil), the OTC ladies herbal viagra, Christy's Toy Box, and still
NOTHING!
The specialist I saw told me that my lab work showed my testerone levels to
be extremely low. She gave me a 6 month supply of testerone and said if the
desire was not back within that time frame it would never come back (this
is month 4 so I'm getting worried). We are only 32 years old so this really
bums me out (not near as badly as my DH)
I love my DH very much and I want to make him happy but it's like there is
NOTHING!
The specialist also said that when a woman goes without sex for a long time
that she loses the desire, so if I could just suffer through it a dozen
times or so it may very well bring back the desire, actually what she said
is, "If you don't use it you lose it, so put it to work".
She also said to try ROMANCE, well I'm sorry, my husband is the best, but
ROMANTIC HE"S NOT, and when he tries to be I get frustrated at how he
goes about it and that only makes me have less desire:(
IF ANYONE FINDS A SOLUTION PLEASE SHARE WITH US ALL:)
— Lynda T.
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