Question:
funny but real
as I have written my family has not been supportive of me having RNY in the near future. I think my family is finally coming around all due to my Daughter's innocence. She asked, " Mom why do you always take baths instead of showers?" My reply "honey mama can't reach to wash her hiney in the shower, so I have to take a bath." When I shared this enlightening thought with my parents they saw my desire to do this at a new level. Although they are still hesitant, I could see that opened there eyes. Wish Me LUCK! When your own personal hygiene becomes and issue such as this I think it is definetly time to seek help. At least for me anyway. — buggyboot (posted on March 16, 2009)
March 16, 2009
glad that your family is coming around. I don't think I'll ever tell
anybody about mine, cause I don't want to deal with the reactions until I'm
pretty close to goal. It's amazing how people change their minds once you
start losing or have already lost the weight.
— slimcolagirl
March 16, 2009
HI Michelle,
It is hard for people who don't have these issues to understand our total
frustration and desire to change. They think because we are always happy
around them and seem to handle everything that there is nothing wrong.They
will all come around once they realize how important it is to you. And
after they see the difference in your health and your energy they will be
so happy you did it. I am anxious to see your progress. Hugs...Donna
— gonnabethinfinally
March 16, 2009
That's an awful truth that many people who are not MO can even imagine. I
could not even admit that sort of thing to anyone in my family...It was too
painful to say out loud...I remember when my mom got here a few days before
surgery...She told me she'd even bathe me If I needed...I told her I would
need her help because I cannot even wipe my own arse now...and she too had
a light come on...I don't think people truly know how many levels of
humility we suffer being MO as well as our comorbidities! Glad the light is
coming on for your family! WAit til they see you in a year! It's going to
be wonderful!
— .Anita R.
March 16, 2009
What a brave thing to share with your daughter and then with your family.
I am sure their first reaction was for you safety but what they don't
realize is you health was at stake with the excess weight and all of your
co-morbidity's. Good luck in choosing to live a healthier life. Susan
— susangielda06
March 16, 2009
Being able to reach all the cracks and crevices is important isn't it? To
need a family member around to help with personal hygiene is a sad but true
reality for some of us. I don't miss those days. My dear, sweet husband
never complained once God bless him. Just wait until you can no longer
make a dam in the tub between the front and the back- that was one of my
non-scale victories. Best of luck,
Dawn Vickers
— DawnVic
March 16, 2009
I wanted to thank you for posting
I agree
and I hope your family comes around
Do this for u for your daughter living is grand
any questions please ask Tammi
— Tammi Sandoval
March 16, 2009
Michelle, I was in the same boat you are! My family was very against my
decision for WLS. But in my heart I knew it was what I had to do for me.
I had RNY on November 9th 2007 and I haven't regretted on minute of it. I
can now chase grandkids! When my parents saw the weight melting off and how
healthy and happy I am they have finally come around. Infact I heard my
mother tell another family member recently that they shoud have the
surgery. I was shocked. I have such a fun life now. After all life
shouldnt be a spectator sport. I support your decision to get the weight
off and get healthy. Do what you have to do for yourself.
— karenyhb
March 16, 2009
I had much criticism pre surgery, and little support from my family post
surgery. However, they have come around since it has been so successful.
I have been losing weight (55 lbs since December 12) and am much healthier
(need less oxygen, sleep better, no longer have high blood pressure, etc.)
I feel so much better. Now I have much encouragement because I "look
better." I remind them I did this to be healthier and live longer...
and its working. Can't say they understand or can remember how to be
supportive, but they no longer criticize me. I am so glad I had this
surgery!
— lorannw
March 16, 2009
As the saying goes,"Out of the mouth of babes." I'm glad your
family has had their aha moment.Most people don't realize what we go
through.
With me it's opposite. My husband and son are supportive, but I haven't
told the rest of the family yet. My mother gets crazy with weight. From
past experiences, my mother tries to help.Every other phrase is
"You're not going to eat that are you? or so called phrases. I cann't
handle that right now.
— Kathleen W.
March 17, 2009
Wow Michelle! As you can see the journey begins way before the surgery
itself. I wish you the absolute best and always remember that it is
ultimately your decision that is the most important. Your happiness and
well being should be #1 on your priority list. I understand that the love
and support of your family is VERY important, but your support and love for
yourself must top that in order to ensure the greatest success on your WLS
journey. Keep us posted. And keep your head up!!
— bariatricdivalatina
March 17, 2009
Best wishes!!! Sometimes people need to hear things put in a new way. I
think most people don't realize the adaptations we make as obese people.
They will never have to make them, so they assume other do things the way
they do.
— jujuprof
March 17, 2009
Michelle, I'm sorry to hear about your support challenges. I know I had my
mom go with me to my first appointment so she could hear all the info and
be on board with helping me make the best choice on type of surgery and to
know what was going on. One of my deciding factors was when I went to some
sites that showed the death rate of people that didn't have the surgery
over a 10 year period of time and those that did. The death rate for those
that did not have the surgery was much greater than those that did. Showing
that not having the surgery puts our lives at risk too. I have lost weight
on my own in the past 75-80 lbs. but I too eventually gained it back. So I
had a bad attitude about surgery for a while and thought people didn't
really need it. Well now that I'm in pain and have not been able to lose
weight for a while and my health is not getting any better in fact it's
getting worse. Maybe you can find some successful information out there
that will help them be more supportive of you. My doctor told me that there
is only a 5% sucess rate for people as overweight as we are to lose 100 lbs
and keep it off and that is with extreame exercise like working out 5-8
hours a day. With surgery there is a 80%+ sucess rate. I really hope you
get the support you need and that you are successful. God Bless Lisa
— Lisa von Wallmenich
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