Question:
Has anyone not made it throught their first phase (liquid) and ate something?

I didn't think that I would be hungry after the surgery. I wasn't until I came home. One week out I tried some chicken noodle soup. Yes, and ate the noodles too. I now feel like I am the biggest failure in the world. My mom just shakes her head and says I hope you know what you are doing. I have since talked with my nutritionist and she gave me the ok for some soft foods but of course since the doctor's protocol was 3 weeks on liquids first my mom just shakes here head and looks very disapproving at me. I spent the better part of the morning in bed, not even wanting to try any more-- after all, I couldn't even make it a week. What is going to happen now? Carole    — Carole M. (posted on October 18, 2001)

October 18, 2001
Carole...one of the reasons I hate for people to watch and ask what I'm eating now (at the ripe old age of 32) is because of how my mother used to watch over what I ate as a kid. Amazing huh. Anyway, you're fine. Listen to your doctor. I went 1 1/2 weeks on liquids then started pudding. I went on regular foods probably 3 weeks sooner than I was supposed to. I'm fine and you will be too. You're not a failure. Just keep track of what you're eating and you'll be fine. Tell your mom to chill out.
   — Kimberly L.

October 18, 2001
You are doing just fine. I did the same thing and I had to just move on. Take it one day at a time and reward your self for getting thru each day. That is the key, one day at a time, one meal at a time. Noodle soup does not a failure make.
   — Dana D.

October 18, 2001
Carole--You have to stop beating yourself up about this. I guarantee you EVERYBODY has cheated in some way. For me, it was not fasting for 2 weeks before my surgery, but instead doing about 5 days. (Heck...I wanted to enjoy eating while I still could). I really think so much of the success of this operation is mental. You have to keep positive and know that it will work. A little cheat here, a little snack there won't doom you. If you start feeling defeated, you may end up sabotaging yourself. Just keep those feelings in check. You did something not recommended by your program. But it's over. It's done. Start anew. You can do it! Best wishes.
   — Tracy L.

October 18, 2001
I was on liquids for two days...then I ate soft foods. No i didnt follow the rules. Dont tell your mom or others everything you eat. People are gonna be more critical because they are watching to see if this time will work. Do what is okay for you, remember some patients have eggs and grits in the hospital. Dont beat yourself up. I am living proof that "it is okay". I didnt 100% stick to the rules and I am losing faster than most people my size. Good Luck!
   — Courtney W.

October 18, 2001
You are being much to hard on yourself. Chicken noodle soup is a liquid....those mushy noodles and the itty bitty bits of chicken don't count as "solid food". Actually, my doc told me that if I felt very hungery during my "liquid" phase, I could eat a very soft scrambled egg, some jello, a bit of soft mashed potatoes or..... soup. My guess is the vast majority of us have something solid during this phase. My best friend ate a bag of chips 8 days after her rny....and she went on to lose 130lbs. in 10 months. You're ok! Now, the *real* problem is your mother. It's fime to sit mom down and explain that as an adult, you are more than capable of deciding what you should eat and when you should eat it. That the adjustment is hard enough, you need her support....you don't need second-guessing and disapproval.
   — [Anonymous]

October 18, 2001
I was suppossed to be on liquids for 3 weeks. I had a couple of moments when I just couldn't stand it. I had hunger pains but the head hunger was the worst. 1 week after my surgery I ate an egg. And since I have never known HOW to eat properly, I fried it. Doubly bad choice right. Well I felt so good after I ate that egg. I can't even tell you. My parents flipped out. They just knew I was going to eat out my surgery. In turn, I got upset and thought that I was going to do some kind of damage and have to be reoperated on. So I called my surgeon and confessed to only half (I didn't tell them I fried it, and I didn't tell them about the other egg I had for breakfast the next morning) She made me feel so bad, and then told me don't do it again. So much for that. I went back to my liquids but I did go to full liquids and then soft diet a few days earlier than I was suppossed to. I'm not saying that cheating is a good thing but I will say that I felt so much more in control after I cheated and graduated to full liquids and soft foods. Your body will tell you when its not good on you. Pain is a great indicator that something is wrong. No pain - no problem.
   — [Anonymous]

October 18, 2001
OK, I admit it I am NOT a compliant patient. I was supposed to be on clear liquids for 10 days, and at about 5 days had some strainded prego sauce, and never made the 10 days of liquids, was eating bits of solids very well chewed. If we were compliant, would we be morbidly obese???? NO, so relax...
   — bob-haller

October 21, 2001
Carole, I was definetly a non conformist. I ate a shredded chicken enchilada 1 week out and a slice of pizza a few days later. I told my doctor, and his response was that if I can dicipline myself to chew, chew and chew some more until I turn my mouth into a blender, he had no problems with it. If I didn't chew and it got stuck, he would give me a lecture. The problem here isn't solid food, it's your mom. I don't know how old you are, but I spent 26 years of putting up with crap like that from my mom before I moved out on my own. She still trys, but I won't give her that power over me. Tell your mom that the only thing getting hurt by you eatting some solids is your relationship. Either she lays off, or you need to cut her loose. If you are like many obese people, it may have been your mother that got you this way (subconsciously of course).
   — danhait