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ANYONE WHO CARES
I'm 15 months out from my surgery.Suffering from MAJOR depression.I've spent the last two days cleaning my house getting it ready for MY funeral.Can't go on any more.Surgery has nothing to do with it.I'm VERY pleased with it,so don't think it was!!!I always had good friends here.Friends 'I could talk to.I'm just at the end of my rope and no one to talk too. — benna1958 (posted on September 7, 2009)
September 7, 2009
please do not do anything that could hurt you,your worth living!!! If you
want to talk,we can do that,I suffer from depression to,I take meds for
it,it helps alot!!!
— rebecca W.
September 7, 2009
why don't you post on the main forum with this. maybe someone can help.
I'm sorry you are overwhelmed and I wish you would call a hotline, or a
doctor, or a friend.
— Judi J.
September 7, 2009
Please, if you are seriously suicidal, go now to your nearest emergency
room! We here at OH can try to help you with all the encouragement in the
world but if you are seriously suicidal, GET HELP IMMEDIATELY, GO TO THE
NEAREST EMERGENCY ROOM NOW!
Donna c.
— Donna C.
September 7, 2009
Please do not do anything to harm yourself, what is it that makes life not
worth living? Talk to us, we're here to listen and to help...we care about
you very much!!
— MissMarie516
September 7, 2009
Please do not do anything that you would regret. Step back for a few
moments and think about what you are doing. How this will affect all your
loved ones. I know what you are going through I have been there and I got
through it with the help of all my loved ones. Talk to someone. Reach out
for help.
Nikki
— nikkib1216
September 7, 2009
I can empathize with how you are feeling. Please don't do anything to hurt
youself. There are alot of people here that love you and want to help you.
You can pm me at anytime to talk. I have depression too, and have been
put on medication to cope with it. Please talk to someone, a doctor, a
priest, or anyone from OH. We are here to help. You will be sadly missed
if you do something drastic.
— WWIIRosie
September 7, 2009
Please, Benna, call your doctor immediately! He can help you feel better.
Findng the right antidepressant and the right dosage for every individual
takes time, but it WILL WORK. You'll find the right one and the world will
be a brighter place again.
Please call RIGHT NOW, Benna. You'll be HAPPY you did - and so will WE.
(((HUGS)))
— FastFingers ~*~
September 7, 2009
Benna, I don't know you but I care. Please reach out one more time for
help. Call someone...911...anyone. I couldn't help Karen but maybe we can
help you. So many people here would drop anything and try to help. Let us
help. Connie
— spedcon
September 7, 2009
Please, please call your local suicide prevention hotline. They can help
you see your way out of this. Better still, go to your local hospital's
ER. It takes awhile sometimes to find the proper combination of meds to
help you with your depression. Don't give up on YOU! ((hugs))
— ChristieS
September 7, 2009
To those of you who answered to this post,Benna was my neighbor she used my
computer offten.She was on antidepressents.She had SOOOOOOOO much on
her.Loosing her job,she had for 34 years loosing her daughter,NO family.I'm
sorry to say she is gone now.May GOD bless her and anyof her friends
here.You all meant so much to her . Ashley
— benna1958
September 7, 2009
>>To those of you who answered to this post,Benna was my neighbor she
used my computer offten.She was on antidepressents.She had SOOOOOOOO much
on her.Loosing her job,she had for 34 years loosing her daughter,NO
family.I'm sorry to say she is gone now.May GOD bless her and anyof her
friends here.You all meant so much to her . Ashley<<
Wow, Ashley, your writing style, grammar, punctuation, no spaces after
periods, etc., is absolutely identical to Bennas.
How does that work?
Someone needs to contact your MD office so you can get the emotional help
you clearly need.
— [Deactivated Member]
September 7, 2009
Hi Benna - We were notified about your post by very concerned board
members. We'd like to encourage you to seek out help as soon as possible.
Often times feelings like this are temporary, but sometimes someone needs
a
professional to help them deal with their emotions. We urge you to visit
the National Suicide & Crisis website for numbers in your local area of
professionals who are trained to help people in crisis. Their website is
located here: http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html
Or call the USA National Suicide Hotline's toll-free 24 hours a day/7 days
a week.
1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) - or - 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
We hope you seek out any help you may need at this pivotal time in your
life and let us know you're doing ok. Your fellow ObesityHelp members are
worried about you. Please keep in touch.
Sincerely,
ObesityHelp
— Cathy W.
September 7, 2009
I can totally understand how you are feeling but NOTHING and I mean nothing
is worth ending it permanetly. There IS help for you if you know where to
get it. I would suggest calling your doctor today and talking to him. He
can help you get the meds and help you need.
— [Deactivated Member]
September 7, 2009
I agree with the other poster. I am bipolar and on two different meds. I
attempted suicide a year ago. You need to go to the emergency room and tell
them how you are feeling. They will help you get into a place for a few
days where they will put you on the right meds to get you out of this.
Depression is not something you can will away! You must go to the ER now!
Life has so much to offer, you just need to change how you see it. I am
praying for you now! You are not alone! Please Please do what I say! NOW!
— lesleigh07
September 7, 2009
Hey, you have friends here! You have come too far to give up now, sweetie.
Whatever you are going through, someone here has been through as well.
Lean on us!
— leoglane
September 7, 2009
Hi Sweetie,
Please listen to all the wonderful advice you are being given in this
forum! You may not know it, but your life affects all those you touch.
Think of your family. How bad they would feel thinking that you just
couldn't come to them to talk.
Do you have children? A spouse or siblings? If you don't have anyone you
can call, then call 911!
Just don't hurt yourself!!! Honey, you are so worth the effort it will
take to get help. There is not now nor will there ever be another you.
It is my belief that we are all put here for a reason. You need to find
out what that reason is. Just pick up the phone and call someone, ANYONE
right now!!
— dawney1011
September 7, 2009
Benna, ditto to what everyone else is saying. But I want to give you a bit
of hope; there could be a very simple explanation for your depression.
Either vitamin B or Vitamin D deficiency can cause a loss of vitality and
will to live. Please have your doc check your blood for these or other
deficiencies. If you have this, you will be amazed at how much better you
can feel almost immediately. (You know how people are more blah in winter
than in summer? Just mild Vit D deficiency.) Be sure to tell your doc how
you've been feeling, though, because there could be something else that
could be easily remedied. Thank you for reaching out to the OH community.
I'm praying for you. Let us know what you find out.
— jtoothman
September 7, 2009
Hi...I am 15 months out and can relate to a degree, what you are feeling. I
recently had all my family visiting and now they are back in their
respective homes and i feel a bit depressed...empty nester I guess. But
Don't do anything rash. Life has ways of going thru cycles and I know for
me I will feel better in a few days/weeks. I don't use meds as I have been
thru this cycle before. I believe you that suyrgery has nothing to do with
it, as it has nothing to do with mine. Have you met your goal weight? Have
you maintained well? I hope you are feeling better and seek the help you
need. Hugs n God Bless, Kim
— gpcmist
September 7, 2009
Depression is a terrible state, I know, I've been there. Please try and get
some help. Please call your local crisis intervention help line and get
some referral info or go to your nearest mental health clinic, emergency
room, doctor or walk-in clinic.
Help is available and counseling and/or medications will make you feel lots
better.
If you need someone to just chat with email me directly
([email protected]) and I will send you my number and you can call
anytime. I am a trained crisis line counselor and support group leader.
Bob
— rkurquhart
September 7, 2009
Please do not do anything to harm yourself...you are worth more than that.
God said He would never leave you or forsake you... I don't know your exact
problem but I too am suffering from depression at this time, my husband is
seeing another woman so I know what "real" pain is and I wouldn't
wish it on anyone. I am here for you if you should need me, you can
contact me at [email protected] at anytime and we can chat. Whatever you
do, NEVER give up, time heals all pain, it's funny I should say that
considering but I know it to be true. In one year, I had a baby, lost my
fiance, my grandmother died and I was raped...all in one year but God
carried me through and I am so thankful. It's hard to see "better
times" when we are going through the trial(s) but trust in God and
know He will never give you anything more than you can handle. I love you
and so does God!!! Remember, if I can be of any help even if just a
listening ear...contact me.
— PAWLLA L.
September 7, 2009
THINKING of you I hope all is well and you are at peace Tammi
— Tammi Sandoval
September 8, 2009
I know something that made me go get the help I needed with major
depression, was a very good friend told me this
" When you break a leg you need a crutch".."Why cant you do
the same with the depression"..Pills are a Crutch until you can live
again.. I did, I took a couple of months to get used to the effects of the
pills but when they did start working I felt so much better, I don't like
pills, doctors etc..I want to handle stuff myself, but what she said made
sense to me.. and I have never forgotten the idea, every once in awhile I
still need that crutch dusted off too, some depression like mine is
hereditary, I have also noticed with the weight loss, and new lifestyle I
have a lot less depression so need to use that crutch a ton less..I had my
proximal bypass in 2007, 250 now 130, just think, shopping for new clothes
and actually being able to find a size, and have it fit in CUTE, among
other things with being over weight...Suicide is not an option keep telling
yourself that, and go get that crutch till you don't need it..good luck and
my thoughts are with you..
— gaydria
September 8, 2009
Did anyone read the post reply from Ashley her neighbor It looks like Beena
is gone.
— sjh921
September 8, 2009
I thought the same thing, did not say anything in case I was reading it
wrong.
— cindy17
September 8, 2009
I'm sorry for this person who is having such problems. I can't help but
notice similarities in both her AND her friend Ashley's typing. The both
like to emphasize works with all caps. Also, they do not space twice
between their sentences. I pray all is well. But this looks very fishy to
me. God bless you Benna. I hope you get the help you need.
— PaulaJ
September 8, 2009
Some of you ladies are really good I didn't noticed the way she wrote her
words I'm always reading in a hurry. If this is the same person then they
do need to run for help fast... My first thought was how did Ashley Know
where to look for our post on this site. But like you guys I didn't say a
word.
— sjh921
September 8, 2009
I agree with you Michelle, I hope "benna" gets the help she
needs, IF and i mean IF what was said really was benna and she did do this
to herself, I am sorry to hear that she didnt care enough to seek help for
her depression. It is weird that she cared enough to save herself with the
WLS but not to seek help for sepression.
— tra875
September 8, 2009
I agree with you Michelle, I hope "benna" gets the help she
needs, IF and i mean IF what was said really was benna and she did do this
to herself, I am sorry to hear that she didnt care enough to seek help for
her depression. It is weird that she cared enough to save herself with the
WLS but not to seek help for depression.
— tra875
September 9, 2009
It says on her profile that her surgeon is Guillermo Alvarez M.D., why
can't we start there, or with the OH admin, and track down her address
through them, have the local police go to check on her well-being, I used
to work for law enforcement and this is a valid reason to do just that.
She posted in writing on this post that she intended to harm herself. I
would start right here and print off her profile, and her post, and get
right on it.
— eyeflirt4fun
September 10, 2009
Does anyone have any updates on this situation. I looked up her post but
only info there was her doctor. I'm a social worker and hate to say this
but this sounds very suspicious. At the first sign of trouble, I am
mandated to report it but don't even know where to start here. I agree
with some of you about the writing and spacing and such. I am going to see
what I can find out about the doctor and go from there...if any of you know
anything more....let us know. I'd hate to think that we may have lost one
of our "sisters" and hope that is not the case. I'd also hate to
think that someone would take our kindness, support and encouragement as a
joke. Love to all.
— PAWLLA L.
September 10, 2009
I agree with you, Pawlla. I don't think that there isn't much any of us
can do about this, save for contacting the doctor listed on her profile and
asking that he request police to do a welfare check. Obviously, her doctor
cannot divulge her address or anything to any of us. I think that this was
a attention-seeking behavior. My guess is that she has become upset with
another member and this was a way of trying to make that other member feel
remorse. I pray that this person is, in fact, safe and sound. But I'm
sure that everyone here would agree that she needs to get some professional
help. This is just plain sad. :(
— PaulaJ
September 10, 2009
Just a quick update. The doctor is in Mexico and has no patient with that
name...could just be a profile name. Also, the doctor has his own site
where his patients can post and this user...of course she could have
another name on his site but nothing by the name she gave here. I would
think that would be the first place she would go...to her own doctor and if
not, after posting here she would go there but nothing with that name. I
don't know what else we can do except pray for her. If this is a real
situation we must pray for her to overcome and seek help if this was just a
horrid joke we must still pray for her mental healing because to do such a
thing there is still an underlying issue somewhere. It's nice to see so
many people supporting our own and I hate to think that someone took
advantage of that. Continual prayers to and for all. Love!!
— PAWLLA L.
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