Question:
dealing with social situations ...why you are eating so little
I need some ideas, how to deal with social situations when you get bombarded with questions why you are eating so little...I dont want to get into discussions about my surgery...help — CatherineCatherine (posted on November 29, 2009)
November 29, 2009
What I usually do if there is like a buffet line, I wait until last to go.
That way everyone else is eating and don't really notice what I have on my
plate. If it is not a situation like that, I just explain that I am not
really hungry. They don't need to know about your surgery unless you
decide to tell them. Good luck.
— Dawn A.
November 29, 2009
i was in same situation. what i would do is fill my plate as if i was
gonna eat every bite of it which i never do eat the food then toss it. i
know i am wasting but i don't like to share with everyone that i had wls.
— lanigm
November 29, 2009
I am honest with people. You find they are mostly supportive.
— lucyfur
November 29, 2009
I advocate honesty and agree that most people are very supportive, but you
can always say "Oh, I'm just not very hungry...I ate a big [whatever
the last meal was]." Then change the subject! Also with water/drinks
and meals, just get a glass of water, but don't drink it. That way
waitresses won't drive you nuts and their supervisors don't get on them for
not giving you a drink.
— jtoothman
November 29, 2009
This can be very difficult. Often I will say I am just not hungry right
now. Even the waiters and waitresses will comment. Things like was the food
ok. I just smile and say yes I just got too full.
it is worse when I worry about eating to much shen everyone else thinks I
am not eating enough. people really can't understand what you are talking
about.
— trible
November 30, 2009
I feel my surgery is no one's business unless I feel they should know. That
being said, what I have done is put a resonably small portion of food on my
plate. Eat what I can and throw the rest away. What I have observed is that
once people are into eating their own food, they seldon ever notice what
is, or isn't, on my plate. I seldom have a question!
— corky1057
November 30, 2009
When a waitress asks me if the food is okay, I say oh yes, wonderful! May
I have a box to go? My friends and family know I have had wls and support
me. I don't go out very often otherwise for eating. You could say my
focus changed when I had the surgery. My activities seldom include public
eating.
— cydthekid50
November 30, 2009
yes the waiter always always asks me if everything was ok because it looks
like I dont eat much, but I just tell them I was full and watching what I
eat. They dont have to know it is surgery.
— HeatherNP
November 30, 2009
I can just see it now---my co-workers, whom I have eaten with for
years--will see me losing and tell me I look anorexic and hound me about
not eating enough. I am not telling them I am having wls. It will be an
issue I'm sure. My surgery is at the end of Dec.
— squirrely
December 1, 2009
My choice has been to be very open about my journey when people ask. I
find that eating disorders (whether too much or too little) are based in
shame. It is, however, a very personal decision whether to share. I have
found 97% of people to be either supportive or silent on the matter :-)
— mollyt
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