Question:
My wife is concernd about me having suergery and is and thinks I might die

What can I say to her to help settal her down and not whury too much.    — alexgrand57 (posted on January 26, 2010)

January 26, 2010
just confront your wife we are all here for her plz if she wants message me and ill give you my number and ill talk to her tell her its for your health and nothing will go wrong its the best thing you can do to insure you are with her for many more years its saving your life not endagering it
   — booboo121573

January 26, 2010
We never know our time to go, only God knows that! You are doing something very good for yourself and for your wife. It is very scary anytime you have surgery, I fill so much healthier just since Dec. having my lap band and losing 22 lbs in 1 month, I don't have all the pain that I had,I had to get the weight off, I had bilateral hip replacements this past yr and 2 spinal fusions in the past 10 yrs. I hardly have any pain now. I had no complications, not even vomiting. GOOD LUCK PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU AND YOUR WIFE.
   — T R.

January 26, 2010
I had the same problem, I just put my faith in the Lord, and I am writting to you two weeks after RNY. I have had no disconfort of any time, except that I do not have any pants small enough to fit. Now that's a problem.
   — Jim Christian

January 26, 2010
Ugh, I have the same problem in my family but its my 20 year son and my 15 year old daughter that are terrified. I just keep telling them how this surgery will help me live a longer healthy life. My fear now is not seeing them marry or being there when they have children. Good luck to you! My Surgery Date is Feb, 22.
   — Kriss R.

January 26, 2010
its normal for our loved ones to worry. If you have health problems, remind them that our being obese is a lifew risk as well. You could die from that. I believe that when its our time, its our time, so no matter what the circumstance, if your number is up...Let them read some of the posts on here. Show them the b4 and after pics, take them to the dr's with you. My husband was afraid too, then he went to the orientation with me and felt better. Best of luck! Hugs,Kim
   — gpcmist

January 26, 2010
I was scared. My daughter was convinced that I was going to die. I am fine. I had RNY surgery 12/29. What are the chances that you will die sooner if you do not have surgery? What is the risk to you in having surgery? The mortality rate has gone down in recent years. My surgeon said that it is the same mortality rate as for gall bladder surgery.
   — MargaretHM

January 28, 2010
I have to say being a wife I can understand her feelings. I have been 3 days post op and that was my only fear, dying not going to see my family again but here I am and as you can see alive and well. It is natural for her to feel this way my husband did also. maybe you can both seek information have her talk to the doctors it really does help.
   — Takisha Williams

January 28, 2010
It's surgery and with that comes many possibilities of complications. My husband and family were worried about me too, but you know what, I explained I have a better chance of surviving this major surgery than I do staying 364lbs and dying of a heart attack. It's a risk you are willing to take to LIVE! I had my surgeon explain the pros and cons of the surgery to my husband. After that, we prayed about it and my husband's worries were lifted. Fear is Faith contaminated! Technically the person you are going into surgery will die. The person that is brought back from surgery will be a new and improved you!
   — C. Barnes