Question:
Eating more than ever now that I've decided on surgery!
Finally made the decision for RNY but won't have it until June. Now it seems like I'm eating more than ever and know I have to get back to my "information meeting" weight as per my dr's requirements. Anybody had this problem? — JoyMac (posted on January 21, 2010)
January 20, 2010
I haven't even had my consult with the surgeon yet or a surgery date, but
once I decided I was going through with the lap banding I haven't been able
to get enough food in my mouth. As if I wasn't constantly hungry before!
I know there are psychological reasons (for me anyway) kind of like the
"Last Supper" mentality. "I won't be able to eat like this
later, so I better enjoy now..." I am looking forward to some advice
on this also. Best of luck to you! Sorry I can't help, but you're totally
not alone!!
— bacon1975
January 21, 2010
Most definitely not alone. I did the same thing. I was like a mad woman. I
went yesterday for my H&P visit for the banding and we stopped at
Burger King for lunch. I jokingly said I feel like this is my last meal.
Little did I know the pre op diet would start today! Its
psychological...eat it now cause ya ain't gonna get it later.
— kchooker
January 21, 2010
I hear all of you. Just starting this process myself. I had my consult 1/6
and have other necessary appts scheduled and have gained weight since I
decided this is what I want to do. Suppose it might be a mind thing but
can't seem to stop.
— Cindya19
January 21, 2010
I am going through the same thing. I feel as though I am trying to get my
last "hoorah". Lately, I've been craving sugary, fastfood,
starchy foods that I know that I will have to give up when I have the
surgery.
— md131s
January 21, 2010
You do have that urge but you need to slow down and realize that this is a
life change and you can't do that. They will postpone your surgery if you
gain weight and that is the last stress you need before surgery. I know it
is hard I am 1 week out from having RNY and have been on no carbs for 1 1/2
weeks now. It makes it more difficult if you don't come to terms with your
life change and feel the need to eat. Your counselor should be able to
help with that.. Good luck
— ladyrdhk
January 21, 2010
I gained 20 pounds in the 1.5 yrs while I waited to get final approval for
surgery. Kept having last suppers. I am two months post-op and have lost
35 pounds. While in the middle of it, it seems like the weight loss is
slow -- and to boot I'm actually only 15 pounds lighter than when I applied
for the surgery. Here's the thing, last supper's really aren't necessary.
The surgery works and I don't miss those foods at all. And eventually we
can eat little bites of most anything. So I strongly recommend not doing
what I did. Hopefully, you won't have as long a wait allowing you to gain
as much weight as I did. God bless.
— Janell C.
January 21, 2010
Oh, man... do I hear this one loud & clear. And the guilt! My RNY
surgery is two weeks from Tuesday. I've been going to support group
meetings faithfully, reading books & online material carefully, doing
everything by the book and planning on a successful experience on the
"loser's bench," but I'm really wrestling with the "last
supper" syndrome. I'm trying (trying!) not to beat myself up too much
over it. I've lost 40 pounds since I began this process, and the way I did
it was to comit myself to "whatever it takes," meaning I have had
to get back on the wagon when I fell off. It's been really hard to pick
myself back up when I've fallen into overeating again, but I've been able
to do it over the past year, much to my surprise, so I'm trying to see the
past few weeks as one of my episodes that I'll get over. My two-week pre-op
liquid diet starts Tuesday, and it's a good thing!! LOL.
— Greg K.
January 21, 2010
To make the progression A LOT Easier on yourself. You might start the
Post-op lifestyle now. And gradually cut back on your portions. Especially
the carbs/sugars. Such as sodas. Thus reducing the Sugar withdrawals.
— Michael Eak
January 22, 2010
Hi... Alot of people do what you are doing and its totally emotional.... in
your mind you are thinking "holy cow... I'll never eat again"
I'm here to tell you its not true... you will be able to eat everything you
want just in moderation. I took the opposite approach. I gave up my
chocolate... (my drug of choice" at the beginning of august, started
my liquid pre-op the week after and surgery on the 21st. I didnt want to
deal with the withdrawals. Also the caffeine and carbonated stuff... don't
do that to yourself.... dont tack on another 10 pounds because you think
you'll never get to eat. it just isn't true. take a step back and think
about it... the key is to relearn habits. I did not die from no chocolate..
trust me you will be happier with yourself if you start to taper down.
there will be things that you wont be able to eat but to be brutally
honest... you wont care. once you see your success you will understand. I
am 5 months out and 86 pounds down. My suggestion is make the decision that
you are going to change your life NOW.... obviously if you are wanting
something so bad, have it now... but dont gorge yourself just to do it. it
wont be so hard on you later. just a thought.... good luck
— MarthaJ0110
January 22, 2010
OMG!! I did the same thing! While I was on my insurance required
"doctor supervised" six month diet I gained 30 pounds!! Not one
single time did my surgeons office say...'your not doing something right'
or 'why are you gaining on this diet'...I got fed up with that place. I
know I was out of control but they were supposed to be watching me!! I
changed surgeons when I realized that I was just merely a number where I
was and I lost 20 pounds pre-op on the two week diet and I lost 70 pounds
post op in 2 1/2 months and I am still losing. I didn't give up a thing
until I had no choice and I think it worked for me. I wouldn't touch even a
diet soda even if my surgeon says it's okay. I willNOT do anything to mess
this up and I'm sure you will eventually feel the same way. Good Luck to
you tho-I hope whatever you decide works for you. Only you knows what is
inside your head.
— texasred
January 22, 2010
It's referred to as "last supper syndrome". It's hard, but try
to eat like you normally have or better, otherwise you jeopardize the
surgery. Also, think about why you are doing that? Deep down, is the
weight a "protection" or buffer and you fear losing that? That's
my problem. But, there's nothing to fear. Remember why you want to do
this. Also, losing weight before helps make the liver smaller and makes
surgery go a lot smoother. Hang in there. Maybe pick one day a week you
can go crazy. Good luck!
— Melissa C.
January 22, 2010
Thank you all for your posts! Your words of encouragement and suggestions
are just what I needed and today I begin to focus on what I need to do.
Deciding to get the RNY has been a huge decision and I don't want to
jeopardize it. Thanks again!
— JoyMac
January 22, 2010
I think everyone goes through this at some level before surgery. I believe
it has to do with the thinking of either "I'll never be able to have
this again" or "the surgery will fix it no matter what I eat
now", either way, those are both incorrect! You will still be able to
have most things you eat now, just smaller portions, and the surgery is
definitely just a tool to help you, not the magic fix though, you still
will have to have that discipline so might as well start now by realizing
"am I REALLY still hungry in my belly, or just like the food too much
to stop eating?" These issues will help you to get ready for surgery
if you really start working on listening to your emotions and your body.
— eyeflirt4fun
January 30, 2010
If you want REAL SUCCESS start changing your habits before deciding. By
the time my hubby had surgery he had gained enough control that he had a
hard time getting in all the pre surgical diet. Now he is not having any
post surgical problems other than constipation and that may be due to iron
pills which were stopped yesterday and that he is afraid to get too much
fiber. Surgery is not a FIX it is a LIFESTYLE CHANGE and if you start
early on the change you will have better success after.
— [Deactivated Member]
February 2, 2010
i am SOOO happy to hear this! i have gained 8 pounds in the last month.
just jumped my last hoop today so some of the stress is off. but i do know
that once i have the surgery, i will be in control, if that is
believable....nice to know others feel the same.
— Lynda M.
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