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RYN July 16 not nervous but emotional

I am having RYN on the 16 th I am not feeling nervous but I am emotional, everytime I sit and think about the surgery and my out come I cry. I am so excited about this new tool and the life I have ahead of me. Is this NORMAL LOL what is normal? Thank you for all your prayers and the new friends I have met. Tammi    — Tammi Sandoval (posted on July 10, 2008)


July 10, 2008
I am a 62 year old male and nothing every got to me like the wait of weeks, days, hours and minutes before surgery. For 6 weeks afterwards I questioned myself on what I had done, but after that, I would just do it all over again. now 7 months and 120 of my 160 lbs gone, I would still do it all over again if I could count on half the sucess and half the cure of the health problems this surgery had helped me through. I don't think there are going to be many that are on this site that will tell you much different. If we have problems, it is because we did not study the issues well enough or listen to the Doctors and educators that have been there to help us from start to finish. Just learn, and follow the instructions. If you do not understand the what they have said, let them repete it or go read about it, as that way you will be much smarter than thouse of us before you. Best of success to you.
   — William (Bill) wmil

July 10, 2008
I am having my RNY next month and I very much know what you mean. I am emotional, excited, scared etc. etc. I KNOW I am making the correct decision but there are always those little questions in the back of your head. I find I am shorter with my children and husband and my sleeping cycle is really messed up. Take a deep breath, as will I, and I will keep you in my thoughts.
   — jen-mom

July 10, 2008
yes, I think it is totally normal to be excited about starting a new, healthier, much better way of life. I'm so happy I have my bypass on Jan. 14 and in the months before the surgery I thought the day would never come. I've lost 80 pounds and would do it all over again. Just remember, however, there is a major adjustment and in the first few weeks you're recovering from the surgery. The time seemed to drag for me and it was the worst...for one month...but now I'm doing great. Good luck.
   — cjjordan

July 10, 2008
Tammi, What you are experiencing is perfectly normal. The range of emotions I experienced ran the gamut. I would alternate from nervous to excited to anxious and there were some tears shed. I was very emotional and asked everyone around me to bear with me and understand that I was about to undergo major surgery with serious consequences. They understood and cut me some slack. Good luck and hang in there, Dawn Vickers, RN, BLC, CLC
   — DawnVic

July 10, 2008
I know exactly what you are talking about. I am scheduled for the 29th and man every time I start to think about the surgery and outcome my heart starts to race and my palms sweat! I am so excited though...I am sure these feelings are "normal" or at least I hope anyway! Have a great surgery date and I will keep you in my thoughts!
   — bridgadean

July 10, 2008
What you are going through is so normal!!!! I was a basket case. Started crying in the middle of a golf game, had panic attacks laying in bed in the morning, just plain scared but I was also determined that this was the only way out of an even worse situation. Had LAP RNY on June 28th and after day 3's recriminations about "what have I done"!!!!!!! because I wasn't feeling good, I have never looked back. I think I was so emotional because I thought I was never going to be able to eat normally again, that I was going to eat mush for the rest of my life yada yada yada.....nothing is further from the truth.... I have had some purreed food with fat, and maple squash soup and didn't even come close to dumping. The key is the amount you can eat. You can have it, just not a great deal of it. I am a week and half post op and feel totally normal and after I get through my three phases, clear liquid, full liquid, and pureed/soft in one months time, I will be hard pressed to see what actually has changed except that I can't eat as much as I used to. I'll be back to introducing solid food into my diet. No big sacrifice as far as I can tell!!! I have lost 16lb and it hasn't even been 2 weeks post surgery.....think of all the diets you suffered on to lose 10 lbs....that wil make you want to cry with happiness. And by the way, I've been doing alot of that too!!!! I cry all the time now after the surgery because I am so happy!!!!
   — Fredricka MacLean

July 10, 2008
Could it be PMS. I know just before and after surgery I was a mess around my "sick time" You will do fine and this is a wonderful chance for you to get the healthy body you deserve. Think of all the people who are struggling to get this and can't. Your one of the lucky ones! Good luck and keep us all posted as your wonderful journey continues.
   — lesleigh07

July 10, 2008
You are sooo normal, Tammi. I remember sitting in the hotel the night before surgery being scared out of my socks and wanting out. Then I realized how emotional I was being and had to talk to myself. Knowing I had made this decision after much thought and research, with a sound, objective mind. Knowing then that this was the best choice for me I decided not to think about anything but the step by step instructions they had given me. I took one step at a time. That was 6 weeks ago. The first three weeks after were the hardest and now I am getting back to normal and eating this way is becoming routine. It seems like forever when you are in the middle of it but it goes fast too. Weird, huh? PM me if you need a lift, especially in the next 7 weeks! My surgery was on a Wednesday too haha. You'll do fine and looking back, you'll be very glad you made this move toward health. Blessings, Laura
   — waterlover

July 10, 2008
I just had my RNY done on Monday, so I completely understand what you're going through. I almost chickened out, thinking that I could really do Weight Watchers AGAIN and this time be successful. I was glad I went through with it, I'm doing great--I'm drinking the protein drinks, water and walking. I can't wait to be thinner!
   — waytbegone4ever

July 11, 2008
Hey Tammi, That emotion is all normal. I've been doing my share of crying too. Take a look at my profile here at OH. I found that it really helps to write how you are feeling. I sort through all the emotions that way. If the tears come, let them come!! But just remember the reasons why you are making this decison they can be very empowering. I'm praying for you younger sister. Lap RNY on 7/15/08....Yaaaaay!!!!!
   — Senji

July 11, 2008
Yep...normal...I think for me it was the bitter sweetness of finally giving up the losing battle of trying to lose weight all my life and having thin people tell me how easy it was and what I had to do...but it wasn't easy...and I did do it several times only to fail worse...I think admitting failure is the braveset most humble thing to do. I can do ANYTHING, but I failed terrible at keeping myself thin....until weight loss surgery. 4 1/2 years later and 150 lbs lighter... I see now that nothing I ever did alone would have helped me stay thinner and best of all HEALTHIER! I wouldn't go back to the pain and medication for all the sugary desserts and pasta or rice dishes there are! Pass the bread has a new meaning in my life...Pass it to the next person! It's hard sometimes still...but the emotions you feel now are pennies compared to the way you will feel as you being to go down size after size until you are inside out and becomethe person you always saw on the inside...You get to wear her on the outside too. I wish you much luck and success and good happy health!
   — .Anita R.

July 11, 2008
Hi tammi I had the same thing. i would cry for no reason. it is perfectly normal, but i must warn u i still have that from time to time. What I mean is I get blah sometimes. Sure hope it passes. You will be in my prayers and i'll talk to u soon. Arden
   — bikermama

July 11, 2008
Hi Tammi, The day you have your surgery will be my one year anniversary of mine, you have done the hard part and made the decision, its ok to be nervous most everyone is. right after surgery there will be days that are a little hard but once you get use to your new eating habits you will be so happy you did it, esspecially when you get to shop for those smaller clothes you thought you could never wear.Congradulations.
   — sunshineal68

July 11, 2008
I am having RYN on July 22 and the sharing from you that have had the surgery is encouraging. Thank you, Kay
   — kay_hud

July 11, 2008
Hi Tammi, I am having my RNY on 7/18 and am going through the well maybe's as in well maybe this time it would be different etc. The bottom line for me is staying focused on WHY I am having this tool added to my arsenal against my battle to be healthy. Stay strong and remember ... nothing tastes as good as being thin feels, in case you are having the mourning cravings for the foods you think you will miss.
   — *****GIGS *******

July 13, 2008
Tammi, Tears of joy are not a bad thing. I my thoughts are with you as you get closer to Wednesday. Your Friend Lisa
   — ldillabough




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