Question:
Hi, Just got done reading wls memorials, and now i'm scared more then ever
to have wls, I should be getting a date soon, and am almost tempted to back out, I am 4ft 11 inches and weigh 247. I have asthma, back aches. ect. Any advice, or do I just follow my heart. — Trish-B (posted on March 31, 2006)
March 31, 2006
Tricia,
I did the same exact thing you did. I was so scared after I did that. I
would just follow your heart, as I did. I had my surgery almost 8 months
ago and have lost 121lbs. I have no regrets at all.
Good Luck
Malena 329/208/160
— *Malena* M.
March 31, 2006
Tricia, I think it's really good that you read the memorials. I've done
that too... but you have to realize, there are 309,390 members here at OH.
It's best to get educated on all aspects, but you need to consider the
ratio of complications to successes. All surgery has its risks, and in fact
not having this surgery is a bigger risk for your health (due to obesity
related illnesses and disease) than having the surgery. Just follow your
heart, you need to do what is best for you. Come in the chat room sometime
and meet some live success stories, it's really helped me to realize that
having this surgery is going to be what's best for me. Best of luck to you.
— kjoy
March 31, 2006
Hi. I too was scared. I wanted to back out that morning as I was waiting
in the hospital. I know now this was the best thing I have ever done. I
would do it over and over again if I had to. Only regret I have is not
doing it sooner. Follow your heart. The way I looked at it was..either I
have gastric bypass or I was headed for triple bypass. In my opinion, more
and more people die every year due to obesity and I wasn't going to be one
of them. Good luck in whatever you decide.
— KellyL
March 31, 2006
I noticed some of the deaths had nothing to do with the surgery--cancer,
auto accidents. I actually felt better after reading the memorials. Some
died before they could get the surgery after getting the run around from
their insurance companies. I told my husband if I died before my surgery to
sue the insurance company. I have a new one now which is great.
— geneswife
March 31, 2006
5 years ago I was CERTAIN my profile would end up there, but the weight had
me so ill I felt I had no other option. GEEZ am I glad I had surgery, and
as you can see still here:) You can learn things from that sad area. Most
who die from surgery die from complications, and not on the table that many
fixate on. The most likely cause of death is blood clots mostly preventable
by getting up and walking beginning as soon as your out of recovery room,
and contiuning wheen you get home. couch potatoes are at extreme risk. MO
takes a average of 15 years off our life expectancy, and can make many of
those years the pits. The chance of dying from MO is way more than the
chance of dying from surgery which saves so many lives,
— bob-haller
April 1, 2006
Dont be afraid, if you noticed not all of them are related to the surgery.
Some are from car wrecks, cancer, and so on. Just remember if its your time
to go it will not matter were you are at.
— maria_sola
April 2, 2006
I too have read some WLS memorials and it IS scary! You just need to go
with your gut instincts. Talk to your doctor about your concerns. But as
you said, go with your heart. Their are risks involved with ANY surgery.
Maybe it would help if you made a list of the negative things about the
surgery or negative things that could happen and make a column on the other
side of the paper and list the positives. Writing things down for me,
really helps me. Also, it's very important to have a support system (i.e.
family, friends). Talk to them about it too. But, it all comes down to
you, and what your instincts are telling you. Good luck on your journey!!
— Agrippina05
April 3, 2006
Let me tell you if you weren't scared in some way there would be something
wrong with you. I wanted it done then I got to the operating room and was
going to change my mind next thing I know a nurse was talking to me I told
her I changed my mind she said it was to late god was I relieved it was
over. It will be a year on the 7th of this month and I am down 103 lbs. 242
to 139 I feel great and it was the best decision of my life....Good luck
and you will feel like a millon dollars after you become a weight loss
junky...Cindy
— NYCindy
April 20, 2006
Trish,
EVERYONE is scared. If you weren't I would think you must be stupid. I
was petrified when I had my surgery. I was 380. It has been 5 1/2 years
and the BEST thing I have every done. My life has been changed because I
pushed through the fear. You do what you think is right for YOU, but don't
let fear stop you. :) Hope that helps.
— kristaz
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