Question:
entertainments are shattered!
had rny bypass done now i found myself alone or home most of the times now because everything that i do as event and entertainment are surround by food so i chose not to go are this the right thing to do?????? — goal100 (posted on October 24, 2009)
October 24, 2009
Do a Google search for bariatric support groups in your area. I find it
very helpful to know people that have chosen this path too. Another
suggestion is to spend your time in the gym and various fitness classes
where you can meet people with interests more common to what yours are now.
Best success to you.
— Janell C.
October 24, 2009
I know I had my DS done to live. That includes going out. I can't eat like
I used to. I just CAN'T. I tried and have been sick from it. I learned my
lesson and now I don't eat as much as I used to. At restauarants, I order 1
or 2 appetizers for my dinner. Or I order an entre and include, as part of
the order, "and breing a box". I have brought home more leftovers
than ever before! If you want to go out, GO OUT! Have fun! Lots of people
go out and eat a lot less then we used to. Now you have to learn to do
that. If you need help, use the support groups, etc., that you have access
to. But go out and LIVE!
— RachelA
October 24, 2009
Why would you choose to cut yourself off from friends and events. If you
go you just eat what you can and enjoy the company of those you love and
love being around. So you've had surgery, tell people. Be proud of yourself
and what you have done! You have choosen a healthy life over disease and
death! Be joyful, this is the beginning of new and wonderful things. As
you get out you will in all likelyhood find new interests and forms of
entertainment that may not focus on food. Love you and love your new life.
I think that you will find people very supportive. Good Luck!
Pamela (onebamalady)
— Pamela Ryan
October 24, 2009
Hi Emma, Congrats on your new way of life. I had my RNY 15 months ago(lost
135 so far) and go to many events with friends & family. Out to
dinner,even started dating again(at 57yrs old). I make sure I have my
protein, then enjoy what you are able to eat. Our OLD life style was about
eating..now its about fueling our bodies properly. I have in no way changed
my friends or avoided any family members, they have all been very
supportive of me and not caused me to miss any events. Do try to find a
good support group. I wish you well in your new path to a healthier you!
— tootsie52
October 24, 2009
You have to learn to enjoy the company of friend for the entertainment and
not what you ingest at the gathering. Just pick a little and sip on your
water, or crystal lite or whatever. Getting together is not about food or
drink. You should go. Being a shut-in will lead to depression. LIVE!
— lesleigh07
October 24, 2009
Not at all, you should be with your friends and enjoy yourself and that
fact that as you loose weight you can now do things you couldn't when you
were heavier. I am assuming that you weight did impact you activities to
some degree. I still go and eat a little of the foods that I know I will
tolerate and enjoy myself. You will learn that you can have a fun time
without making it all about eating.
— rkurquhart
October 24, 2009
I did that for about a couple of months after I started eating again, just
until I knew my limits and was comfortable with the small bites, no liquids
with meals, etc. Now I'm right back out there, setting a great example for
others on what to eat and how to eat slowly and enjoy the outing! Good
thing: I'm a church goer and every single thing they do at church is
accompanied by food!
— jtoothman
October 24, 2009
WHy would you just hide inside from it all? One day you will have to go out
where food is everywhere. You just learn and know that you cant eat it
alot. I just went to the catfish festival that is noting but food beer and
music lol. I ordered a childs catfish and 2 nuggets and was full and we all
had a great time. Go out enjoy our friends. If they are indeed friends then
they understand your situation as well. I had the sleeve donr on 6/17/09
and hsve lost 91 lbs thus far and feel great. Good luck to you nd get out
there and live your new life!! =)
— callen3640
October 25, 2009
I had RNY on 2 June 09 and waited to attend my first function till August.
I took a teaspoon of a few things and sat with my friends and laughed till
my sides ached. DO NOT CUT YOURSELF OFF. You need to build on your
strengths and rebuild friendships. Remember they are just as nervous as you
are. You are in control now......you, no one else.
Good luck.
— karensaporito
October 25, 2009
I totally understand where you are coming from, and have in fact made a few
mistakes when I did go out at first. Now, if I have no idea what will be
served or on the menu, I eat before I go, then I will get a small side
(green) salad to eat with a viniagrette (spelling?) dressing on the side or
a cup of soup (no creamed soups!) - it takes me as long to eat these as it
does my companions to eat dinner : ) If I know where we are going, I will
see if I can view the menu online ahead of time or have them fax me a menu
so I can make my choices ahead of time. If I am with my husband or there
is someone there that doesn't want to order a meal by themselves (lots of
people like to share!), I will make the choice with them, and then just eat
a little of their protein/veggies. Sometimes these events are later at
night, and I can't wait that long to eat (and I prefer not to eat after 6
p.m.), so I eat before I go, and then just have some tea. Everyone has
been very supportive and just enjoy having you there to visit and/or
celebrate!
— Wendy M.
October 25, 2009
Don't just stay home because you will be surrounded by food. I say GO! I
have been way more active/social since my surgery about 10 months ago (RNY)
and I just get a plate, put a couple of things on it and nibble healthy
choices, so people don't nag at you to eat something. That way it looks
like you are eating, so you don't get weird stares from people. If there
are no healthy choices, plan ahead of time, and pack yourself some
veggies/fruit in a bag or something you know you can have and like to eat,
that way you have something with you and won't feel like you are missing
out...good luck!
— Lyndsay30
October 25, 2009
Enjoy your new life.... I go out and each chips and salsa or get an
apitizer.... or just nibble and take the rest home. I just went out for
pizza and bowling and just ate the topping on one slice of pizza and ejoyed
the company of friends.
— phyllismmay
October 26, 2009
Hi! Congratulations on your new self. This is the best time of your life
right now, don't hide because you are afraid of food, go out, enjoy. I am
48 and haven't had this much fun since I was a teenager. I go out with
friends regularly and at least 2 times a week with my boyfriend. We just
share a meal, both of us benefit and I guess I am a pretty cheap date
(lol)! When out with friends I just request a box at the beginning of the
meal, then I fill up the box and eat what is left on my plate. I have lost
113 pounds and I love my "tool". I get full a lot faster than
everyone else, but going out is about the company of friends and family. I
even fix big meals at home for family and friends they are just more health
friendly than they used to be and surprisingly no one has complained, it
truly is about the joy of being together not the food. Get out, enjoy your
life, it is worth it and YOU are worth it!!!!!
— brindledanes
October 26, 2009
Choose living over food. Food only satisfies the immediate desire then
brings guilt and sometimes after our surgeries real pain. Interaction with
friends and people satisfies the deeper needs of our psyche. Sip water in
the most exquisite container you can find and get to know the people around
you. Live Life!
— sgusty53
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