Question:
Needing words of encourgement! I am 2 days away and getting scared.

I have been waiting for this day for a long time. And now I am so mad at myself for getting soooo scared? Is this normal? Has anyone else been this scared before surgery?    — twinsplusone (posted on September 24, 2008)


September 24, 2008
Everyone gets scared...it's totally normal. WLS is a huge step and there is a lot riding on it...physically...emotionally. I cried on the way to the surgical room and the attendants were extremely comforting. Then the next thing I knew I was in my room. I never did have any problems or much discomfort. Certainly nothing out of the realm of expectation. My surgery was Jan. 14, 2008 and I've lost 100 lbs. I haven't felt this good for 25 years and am in SUCH a better place now. You'll be fine. Just take it one day at a time...realize that the first month is the hardest and then just watch the weight roll off. Best of luck! Chris
   — cjjordan

September 24, 2008
As i laid down on the operating table I was still thinking what the hell was i doing. That thought is normal. I am so pleased i did this and i lost 125# and have never looked back. If this is what you really want to regain your health and you are willing to follow the eating rules the rest of your life it is great! just look at all the before and after photos for inspiration good luck Greg
   — brokenelbow

September 24, 2008
TERRIFIED!! That is how I felt. I just kept reminding myself that it took a long time for me to make this decision and I KNOW it is the right thing to do. You will do great. Good luck!!
   — vegastina

September 24, 2008
I was sooooo scared the night before AND the morning of ... I thought I was going to be sick ... was almost in tears!!! Now 7 + months post-op and 117 lbs down, I am so thankful that I did it. Like most say on here ... wish I had done it years ago!!! Tammy from TX
   — Tammy Cardwell

September 24, 2008
I was scared; absolutely. It's very normal. I told myself, "ok, just get it over with and soon it will all be being you" (and it was!) I just kept thinking about how I would look and feel after losing weight, and I kept looking at the before & after pics here as motivation..... You can do it sugar, just get it over with and before you know it, you'll be 6 months down the road and so much healthier and looking great! Trust in Allah.....
   — Gina S.

September 24, 2008
Ericka I just had surgery on 3-12-08 and this has been such a rewarding journey. I always felt good about myself and carried myself in such a manner. But the joy I feel of now really feeling healthy is awesome. I too was scared, not of the decision, but just the fact of having surgery. I prayed and believe God that things would work out and they did. I have lost 80lbs and down from dress size 22 to size 12/14 I can not remember the last time I bypass the Women Section. I will remember you in my prayers, enjoy the journey.
   — cbraxton

September 24, 2008
YOU WILL DO GREAT!!!! I know just how you feel as my surgery was only 2 weeks ago i was so scared going in and mentioned it to the doc. His response was you dont have to do this but you will have to plan on many years to come of continued health issues. Now 2 weeks later I can tell you what i was really afraid of was failure. Follow the doc's instructions and you will not fail. you can do this. if you are ready to make the lifestyle change you will do great. keep us posted and look forward to getting to the other side.--jeff
   — jeffinMI

September 24, 2008
You will be just fine! Just think of how good it is going to feel to lose all that excess weight and get your life back!! Good luck and keep us updated!!
   — gonnaB1hotmama

September 24, 2008
When you are facing major surgery, it is normal to be scared. I know sometimes it's hard to think of weight loss surgery as major, but it is. I was questioning my decision before and after the surgery. The biggest problem for me was hearing all the negative information about wls and I was soooo afraid of complications after surgery. All my fears were layed to rest, when I opened my eyes in the recovery room. Just hold on to why you are doing the procedure, and look to a brighter future. Please let us know when the procedure is done. God Bless.
   — Toby2

September 24, 2008
Oh my god you talk about scared I was scared my date 9/04/08 talk about scared all the way until I got to hospital the morning of. But got there with my whole family I mean kids, husband, mom, and brother came all the way from Miami to support me and to see that it made me smile. I was no longer scared, trust me you will be okay it has been a great experience for me and the pain was a minimum. Stay strong.
   — relaxingcrowd

September 24, 2008
I am 7 months post-op and went through EXACTLY the same thing that you are. As a matter of fact I was extremely close to backing out the night before. I had severe panic attacks and crying spells the entire night before. But I am sooooooo glad I went through with it. I am 100 lb lighter and feel fantastic. The surgery was 10 times easier than my c-section and I have had a very easy recovery. The only regret that I have is that I almost chickened out the night before. My husband said to me, "why would you chicken out after everything you have gone through to have the surgery? How are you going to feel about yourself tomorrow when your surgery time has come and gone?" That was the best thing he could have said to me. Again I am sooooooooo glad I went through with it. And it is soo normal and expected to be so scared. I don't think you would have normal human emotions if you didn't get scared. Just know that this is the best and biggest gift you could ever give yourself and your family. Good luck to you and be very proud of yourself!! God Bless!!!
   — Sillyguts

September 24, 2008
I had my Lap RNY on 9/15 I was so scared the last few days before surgery but I knew it is really what I wanted. I was there waiting for the anesthesiologist to come in and thinking OMG am I making a huge mistake? I talked with them about it and they said it is totally normal and if I wasnt anxious they would be worried. He also said that patients who were anxious about surgery heal a lot better. No idea where they got that from but they have done about 800 of these surgeries so they must have a clue what they are doing!! Best of luck to you just take some deep breathes and remember it is all worth it.
   — krlynn

September 24, 2008
You've already heard the same thing from so many people, but I'll add my voice anyway. Yup, I was terrified. I forced myself to remember I needed to be MORE terrified of staying at 251 pounds than of the surgery, but it wasn't easy. Still, I have to say I would do it ALL again in a heartbeat. Good luck, and please let us know how you make out.
   — Shirley D.

September 24, 2008
You have right up til they wheel you into the operating room to say "I change my mind"...No one can take that from you. Being afraid is normal and I'd think you were crazy if you weren't a little scared. I was shaking scared myself...but that morning of surgery, I was more anxious than scared...I just wanted it over so I could begin my journey. It was over and done before I knew it. What an awesome journey it's been too! Good luck sweetie! You're almost there...and if you change your mind...not a single person will blame you for it! It's your RIGHT! But if you do go thru with it...you will be on the losing side and in a year will be one happy little person! Good luck with whatever you decide and much success and health and happiness too!
   — .Anita R.

September 25, 2008
Thank you SOOOOOOO much everyone. Your words of encourgement have helped! I'll keep everyone posted! Thank you again. It's nice to know there are so many people here for me to chat with!
   — twinsplusone

September 25, 2008
If I may add my two cents from a different perspective ..... I was not scared in the least! No nerves, no fears, no worries. Not even for a moment. Why? Because I always had in the back of my mind what I had told my mom when I called her to tell her I was gonna be setting up a surgical consult ... She wasn't happy about the idea of me doing it (although she never would have tried to stop me) ... I told her, "I'd rather die because I tried than die because I didn't." That may sound a little morbid but think about it - would you rather take the chance of dying from complications of surgery (my surgeon's mortality rate is like 0.2% - almost nothing) or die from a massive heart attack or some other obesity-related health problem? My mom didn't live long enough to see the success I've had with my surgery - she died in February ... The coroner determined her cause of death to be congestive heart failure as a result of progressive lymph edema and morbid obesity. Her death just made me more determined to have the surgery and to be a success story. I will always wish she would have had the courage to do it, too. I agree completely with everyone that it is TOTALLY NORMAL to be scared ... But what you're doing for yourself is a wonderful thing and you are going to be JUST FINE! You're going to be a raging success and I promise - you won't regret doing this for yourself!
   — lauren_marie

September 25, 2008
I'm out 3 weeks from VSG. I waited over a year to get my surger and when I finally got they date. I freaked out, I cryed. But u need to remeber this date is the first day of your new life. So cheer up and think of it like a new brithday. I wish u all the lucky.
   — eeyore5565




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