Question:
A question for the post-op men...

I would like to hear from post-op men. Did you sexual drive increase as you lost more weight. My wife is worried that I will start acting like a teenager again.    — Jay H. (posted on April 17, 2008)

April 16, 2008
Im not a man but I had to respond to this. Your wife should be happy if you start acting like a teenager again. I lost 150LBS and I love my life. every aspect of it. I did end up getting dicorced after my surgery. All along my ex I guess likes big women. He is now with another big woman who looks like a man at that and his first wife was a big woman. Good luck and enjhoy your life. Tell your wife to have fun.
   — Joanc

April 16, 2008
I will tell you that Joan is not the first devorice that has happened because a spouse wanted the WLS patient to stay fat or they lost a drinking partner. I am very lucky to have a slim wife that has loved me for 42 years as we say through thick and thin. The thin with me was only about 5 years after we were married as I got a desk job, and the fat came with it. I lost nearly 100 pounds in 4-1/2 months and my wife is the one that has become more sexually active. I thinks she like being able to get her arms arond me again, and I have no objection to her advances. Do I feel different; Yes, but when I am ready to go to bed, I am tired because I now work out in the Gym for 1-1/2 Hours per day, but my trainer says there a few hundred more calories you can burn with a nice round of sexual activity before bedtime, or when you get up in the morning, so I take every opporituniuty I can to improve ton the number of calories that I burn. But, I don't have any type of drive that I did when I was 17 years old. Best of success to you.
   — William (Bill) wmil

April 16, 2008
I attend 3 support meetings per month. As a general rule, it's the woman's hormones who go "crazy" after surgery, and early post op pregnancy is a big problem. As for men, I think it varies--the effect on lost weight vs labido.
   — Dave Chambers

April 17, 2008
I'm not a guy either...and my husband didn't have the surgery, I did...and um...er...well...he definitely acts like a teenager now! (I never really grew up to begin with) He actually beams when other men look at me...I don't notice to be honest, unless they are downright obnoxious, which some are...No one's complaining...It's nice to find a little lusty youth left after being married for 23 years...Before surgery, I wondered if we'd ever really last...Now, I know this is the man who walks with me to the end...Your wife might be more worried that other women will start paying attention to YOU!
   — .Anita R.

April 17, 2008
I will say YES mine did, but not uncontollable, its directed at my wife no one else.... thats all that should matter to your wife
   — dapoohster38

April 17, 2008
For me it has increased but I think that it is due to feeling more confident and getting positive feedback from my wife. She is way more into it now and enjoys it much more! I have yet to find a bad aspect of having WLS!!!
   — stutzman

April 19, 2008
SO let me read between the lines here and ask, Is your wife actually saying the she would rather that you stayed FAT and DIED YOUNG than get healthy because she doesn't want to "Put out?" I AM a guy. MY wife was the one to look into the surgery FOR me because she DIDN'T WANT ME TO DIE! Buddy, I say, get the surgery, GET SKINNY, and GET OUT! It SURE SOUNDS LIKE your wife could give a DAMNED whether you LIVED or DIED as long as you DIDN'T inconvenience HER! I don't mean any disrespect but that woman sounds COLD. You would be doing BOTH of you a favor. She would get what SHE wants which is YOU OFF of HER, and YOU would get your HEALTH BACK and HOPEFULLY a WOMAN that can appreciate someone like YOURSELF!
   — hubarlow