Question:
Has anyone...

I am a female, had surg Jan 10th and I have lost 115lbs so far. I have noticed having sex hurts me lately is this common or is it just me?    — kitters_11 (posted on May 17, 2007)

May 17, 2007
I have had the same problem. After about 2 mths. I guess I got smaller down there too.. because EVERY act caused me to bleed.. blood everywhere. doctor said it was that I don't produce enough natural moisture. Use a lube.. but not enough ky in the world.. finally found some stuff called wet from walgreens. works wonders. I had my surgery jan 23 and I am down 90lbs hope that helps.
   — jasonsexybabe

May 17, 2007
Well I had that problem 2 ways. When I lost over 150 pounds--sex started hurting me (with my ex boyfriend). Then when I met my husband--he was overweight and sex didn't hurt. Then he lost over 200 pounds and now he hurts me!! I think the fat makes it hard to get really close to one another. But I almost miss the enjoyable sex (don't get me wrong it is mostly enjoyable--but sometimes it HURTS). And I agree with the other poster about lack of natural moisturizers (I have to use KY as well--but still hurts). I know my husband since losing weight has tripled in size down there too!!! YIKES
   — GAYLE CARMACK-LYONS

May 18, 2007
I work in the sexual health industry and would like to recommend specific lubricants, if I may. There are many to choose from, but it is worth considering a WATER-based lubricant if you have a tendancy to get sore or hurt with intercourse. Lubricants, such as KY Jelly, are oil or silicone based and cause additional friction and can cause additional soreness. The advantage to an oil-based lubricant is it will last longer, the disadvantage is it can be irritating (even with first use). Water based lubricants require you to be a bit more generous and apply more often, but they are a gift to your sensitive skin. Consider a water-based in any of the major brands, or my personal recommendations are ID Glide and Maximus (a bit harder to find). Both of these formulations are long-lasting and silky smooth, making them feel a bit more like an oil-based. (To the previous poster ... Wet ain't too bad either, but look for their water-based version.) Go to cheaplubes.com if you prefer to order online and have a huge variety to choose from. Additionally, sometimes pain is caused by the angle. Please visit www.liberator.com for the absolute best in enhancement objects. The shapes and furniture manufactured by Liberator is fantastic in both quality and design. Angled for those who cannot seem to get comfortable, experience pain or are somewhat handicapped by flexibility, injuries and/or weight. Pay particular attention to the ramp and wedge items and since you will be using lubricants, the Fascinator Throe. You will not be disappointed in any other their products. I am willing to answer any questions you might have or guide you along the way. Feel free to contact me via email on OH, my profile is http://obesityhelp.com/member/heloize/
   — heloize

May 18, 2007
Hi... While the weight loss and subsequent drying issues related to hormone shifts can be the cause of your pain. Please don't forget to get checked out by your GYN doctor as there are certain infections that can cause you to have pain during intercourse. These are easily corrected with abx. These infections range from the STDs to vaginosis, vaginitis, etc.. some can remain dormant for months and then flare up... so just see your doctor to rule out a more serious, but treatable cause to your pain.
   — Kari_K

May 18, 2007
I had / have the same problem. So glad you asked on here,,, there were many good answers. I have been using ky to help and trying new positions. (((blushing))) I did ask my OBGYN and he told me it was normal for losing a large amount of weight.
   — robinmarra

May 18, 2007
Thanks for all the different answers I will def have to try to get some lubricant see if that works. I just went to the obgyn and everything came back fine so that is out of the question. I just noticed that there is no pain in a few positions and others are out of the question. Like I said ill have to try out your suggestions and see how it works. Thanks again
   — kitters_11