Question:
How to answer questions without going into a lecture on WLS's.

If anyone has any good way of explaining the actual surgery to family and friends who know and ask please let me know. It seems that without knowing what we all know about our bodies and the different operations and what it intails, comprehension isn't good for some. Suggestions?    — MaryLisa D. (posted on November 28, 2002)

November 28, 2002
When I first explained what I was hoping to do to my family I first made sure I knew everything I possible could about the surgery, Like, what they did, what the risk where and what was going to be accomplished. Then I sat down and actually drew it out for them, so they could see for themselves what it entailed. I also pointed out the major success of Carnie Wilson and Ann Wilson, and now you can use Al Roker. Celebrities will bring a sense of familiarity to them, even if they don't understand completely, they know that Al Roker had it and lost a bunch of weight, so it must be ok. Be prepared, so you can answer all their questions. Your knowledgable position on this will help assure you family that you know what your doing. Good Luck, We've all been through it, you'll do great!!!
   — dkinson

November 28, 2002
I have found a good way to show friends and family what the surgeon will actually do to me. Mabye it will work for you too. If you have a printer, click on "Your Journey", then click on "Researching Weigh Loss Methods", then click on "Types of Surgery", and print. This way, you have an actual illustration of the type of surgery you will have or have had. Keep it in your purse and when someone asks you info, it's right there at your fingertips. Good Luck!
   — Wendie G.

November 29, 2002
There's an area on this website that you can find out about the 5 types of WLS which gives the details with advantages and disadvantages as well as the benefits and what to expect. Also go to ASBS (American Society of Bariatric Surgeons-www.asbs.com) You will get pictures and a wealth of information there. I'm not sure if there is a *good* way of explaining it if you are not a medical person or if no one in your family has any workable medical knowledge. Perhaps obtain this information, print it out then give it to them to read for themselves. If they don't understand perhaps you can arrange a time with your surgeon to discuss this with a few family members and they can pass the word to the others....????Or simply "I'm having a type of WLS that will restrict the number of calories and the amount of food that I take in and/or absorb". "This will cause me to lose much needed weight in order for me to live a healthier, happier and longer life." "I know you do not understand and probably think I just need to go on a real good diet, but I've done that, and diets just don't work." "I ask that you love me, support me and respect the fact that I am taking charhe of my health." Hope this helps!! Sincerely, "Yourdivaness" ~
   — yourdivaness