Question:
How long do you have to wait to restart sexual activity

I am a 32 yr old married male, my wife and I have a very aggressive sex life. Will I return to my old self after the procedure, if so how long? I hope this is not to much for this Q and A area.    — EDDIE S. (posted on November 11, 2002)

November 11, 2002
Hi Eddie, I am also pre-op (Nov 20th) and I had this very same concern. I found loads of good information in the Q&A archives. There is a lot of great info about when to resume activity, questions about specific acts and positions, and things I had not even thought to ask about yet. Best of luck to you and your wife. From what I have read, WLS only makes sex better! Leslie
   — Leslie M.

November 11, 2002
I would wait until you are out of the hospital bed myself. Let nature take its course unless you are in the grocery store or something. One other thing You will notice something new happening as the weight drops off. Email me for details
   — snicklefritz

November 11, 2002
a lot is going to depend on the type of prodecure you're going to have (open vs. lap). If you have lap probably within a couple weeks max. If you have open it could easily be 6 weeks before you feel like moving that aggressively :>)
   — [Deactivated Member]

November 11, 2002
Being the female and having Open RNY, I think it may have been easier for me to participate again, as I was able to be the far more passive partner (at least until I healed!). If memory serves me correctly, I think I still had staples in my incision LOL...As for you being the guy, as soon as you're up to it and you'll know if you are. Take it easy...don't try to break any records right out of the gate and you should be fine. On a good note: I hear that the more a man loses his belly, the more other areas seem....um....more pronounced. *blush*
   — Sharon L.

November 11, 2002
I've heard that the best rule of thumb is to wait until you leave the hospital! :)
   — Cathy S.

November 11, 2002
Eddie, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE make sure the catheter is out first!!!!! After that let your body do the talking. Also, it is true that after surgery you "mysteriously" have a LOT more to work with! It's pretty cool. Enjoy your new life!
   — Robby E.

November 12, 2002
My surgeon recommends waiting 3 weeks. Good luck!
   — Rebekah A.

November 12, 2002
Had surgery on Wednesday, had sex on Saturday. My surgeon told me "when you feel up to it". It sounds quick, but we were out of town, no kids and in a hotel. If you didn't think about the six tiny incisions in my belly it was like a second honeymoon. LOL!
   — Tina P.