Question:
How can I explain it to my daughter about my reasons for wls?

I've tried to explain to her that its for my health, I've told her that I will be healthier and able to do more with her physically. But she's a little overweight and insecure. I've tried to encourage her and tell her everything is going to be so much better.    — Dina M. (posted on April 3, 2002)

April 3, 2002
I think focusing on the health benefits of weightloss is important, as it sounds like you've done. Avoid mentioning the fact that it will improve your appearance. Sounds to me like you are already taking the proper approach with her! Best of luck to you!
   — Samantha S.

April 3, 2002
I'm not sure how old your daughter is, but it sounds like you are saying all the right things. I agree with the other poster about focusing on the health vs. appearance. Keep in mind you can't leviate all her fears about it. It is good that she feels she can express her concerns.
   — Cheryl S.

April 3, 2002
As much as my family loves me, the more the bugged me about my weight, the more I fought them. When my husband and I first met, I told him not to bug me about my weight. When I decided to have the surgery, he and my mom were so happy with me. My younger brother made a comment to my mother the other day that he wished I would have had this surgery done years ago. Be your daughter's "biggest cheerleader" and be there for her no matter what decision she makes.
   — dolphins94

April 3, 2002
Go to the Message Board. Earlier today (so it may be back a page or two by now) Michelle Robinson posted something her 12 year old daughter wrote about Michelle having the surgery. It is an awesome and encouraging essay. If your daughter is old enough, it might help her understand.
   — garw