Question:
Feeling blah?

Does anyone feel blah from time to time. I do. I have lost 125 lbs since March 08. Surgery date was May 5, 2008 (RNY). Somedays I feel just as fat as I once was even though i know i'm not. How does everyone get over this head thing?    — bikermama (posted on February 19, 2009)

February 19, 2009
It is hard and from what I have read you never fully get over it. You just have to look in the mirror and say to yourself "I look good, I am getting healthy." Look at old pictures to see the amazing change you have made. Praise yourself for doing this and repeat this when ever you start thinking your fat.
   — trible

February 19, 2009
I'm 5 years and still have a totally warped image of myself. I still feel fat and think of myself as a heavy woman...I wake up and sometimes forget I lost my weight and still think I am MO...Then little things remind me that my image is warped and skewed! I pull out my jeans from the drier and I think to myself, HOW do I get myself in these things? Or I think all my clothes shrunk and I'll never get in them, but I always do for the same 5 years...It's still hard for me to see myself as thinner...I see pictures and I think...That was just a good shot...Or I walk passed mirrors and if I don't realize it is me at first I think the person(me) looks good until I do realize it's me and then I suddenly see the flaws! I don't know how to make you feel better about how you feel about yourself, but know this...you are NOT alone! LOL You have to trust in the oohs and ahhs from friends and family and the occassional head turning. Once, some guy at the hardware store walked right into a rack while checking me out...He just pointed his finger at me, smiled and said "Your fault!" I was stunned! I ran out of there red in face! But flattered as well. You have to trust that you look better than you see with your own eyes. Many of us WLS or non, will always be our own worst enemies when it comes to how we look! You did WONDERFUL! 125 lbs! That's an entire ADULT person!
   — .Anita R.

February 19, 2009
This will sound like a crap answer, but I mean it sincerely...this is normal thinking for folks like us. I think we have to work on the "head thing" much harder or as hard as we work on our bodies after surgery. I feel exactly like others in that I forget and catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror and there is that moment, just that little moment where I wonder who the heck that is! I responded to someone else who was talking about the "head thing" that sometimes you have to seek outside assistance like a counselor, pastor, therapist, etc. I have found that a lot of friends just don't get it because they are not "there." I started therapy before surgery and continue to this day. Not embarassed to say, but empowered. I have learned a lot about what made me fat to begin with (other than genetics, etc.). By the way congratulations on the fabulous weightloss. My surgery was a month after yours and I am at 120 pounds gone. I used to say weight loss and then decided I never wanted to find the weight again, so it is weight gone now!! =] Keep your head high! Peace.
   — JaimeK

February 19, 2009
Please print this out and tape it to your mirror: I AM A BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT WOMAN WHO DESERVES ALL THE GOOD THINGS IN LIFE!!! maureen,
   — Muggs