Question:
HELP ME PLEASES!!!!!!!!!!

I am 15 months post-op and i have began my old eating habbits. I even found myself with a bag of reeces minitures in my freezer. I know this is defeating my purpose, that's why I am crying out for help. I find myself in a town where I can find no support. I am an emotional eater and lately my emotions have been off the chart, lets see where do I begin, since July of last year my world has been topsey-turvey, i had to have a partial hysterectomy which lead to an emergency surgery on my bladder because it shut down, oh did I tell you that 1 week later I had to move and the drive was 2 1/2 hours , well when I get to the new place I find that my 16 yr. old doesn't want to be here so i argued with her until sometime in Oct. of last yr. tha's when I begain to have siezures, to much stress the dr. said, well needless to say the day after I got out of the hopspital I drove my daughter back to the original place to stay with relatives which was very hard, I had had never been seperated from her, that threw me into a deep deppression and I have been there every since, I could go on with the stress part of my luife but what the heck, I lost my insurance, my meds are costing over $600 a month and my husband has been laid off his job, his unemployment is 75% less than his pay. Needless to say I turned to food again. I have lost between 125-130 lbs. but I want to lose some more 40-80 lbs more. when I had my surgery I was at 401lbs. am now at 270lbs. but I feel like I am loosing the battle. I eat what I want and nothing makes me sick. not even fried foods........HELP I'VE FALLEN AND DON'T KNOW HOW TO GET UP.    — lady-k (posted on March 22, 2006)

March 22, 2006
I don't have any answers hun, I would seek out a pastor in the area for support, that is what they are there for. We are all here for you!! I am not post op yet, but I do know all about stress! Feel free to email me anytime you need to talk, my MSN is the same! Don't give up!! You have come soo far and done amazing!! My thoughts and prayers are with you! Dawnya
   — Dawn1

March 22, 2006
Hang in there, you are not alone. I am 4 yrs post RNY and every day is another journey and struggle at times. If there are no support groups where you live, you could try an Overeaters Annoymous group. They can be very helpful and supportive. As for your 16 yr old daughter, I have been thru that also. I have 4 daughters and one son. Around that age seems to be a time of seperating from the mom. It is very painful until you realize that after some time, they come back. My daughters all went thru that stage in various forms. Two left home for awhile. Now we get along great and they even think I am wise!! Hold tight to your values and stand for what is right. They will come back. Hugs, Mary
   — mtelliston

March 22, 2006
I think you need a few HUGS right about now. Its hard to go through all of these items and not want to eat especially since we did it before right. But we have to remember we did this surgery to change our life. Going back to old eating habits is not going to change that for us. Stop, breath and take control. If you find yourself reaching for junk before you put it in your mouth ask... Do I need it? Why do I need it? If you get past the two questions and you are satisfied with your answers...go for it. Just always remember you are in control of you. No one else can do that! I hope things get better for you soon. I came from the same weight area as yourself, I am a little further out than you and deal with a small gain for the last few months. I fight to get them off as quickly as they come on. I have another 60lbs I would like to get off but it seems impossible when I play with the gain all the time. But I keep trying. I don't want to give up on myself...I am worth it and so are you!
   — dcox94

March 22, 2006
Katherine... I am so sorry about your struggles. I struggle with emotional eating and it is very hard I am currently in therapy dealing with this and some other issues. I would highly suggest it so you don't start gaining any weight. I know it seems normal to turn to food that is what we all did (and maybe still do) but dont let this get out of control. Talk to your surgeon talk to a shrink talk to someone cause you don't want to lose the benefit of the surgery. I wish I could give you tips on how not to emotionally eat but really you are the only onw who can stop yourself. Good luck. Hugs, Stef
   — SteffieBear15

March 22, 2006
Hi, I sorry you are going threw so much stress. Right now I thin it will be very hard for you to think clearly about anything. Perhaps you should think about therapy. I know you don't have insurance, but perhaps you should give some thought to anti depresents. for know. good luck. Liz
   — ELIZABETH C.

March 23, 2006
IF you can manage to find it, get on the Yahoo Group called OSSG-OffTrack - they are great with support and advice!
   — j_coulter

March 23, 2006
I know life is hard, but life is a test. You can do it. Get back on your diet, keep eating what you're suppose to be eating and be strong for yourself. If you have a stroke or a heart attack, you're not going to be of any use to anyone, not even yourself. You seem to be a strong woman, who is the center of your family...Make yourself an agenda with a check list and put weight loss at the top and everything else beneath it. Do this for youself...not being on your diet is what is hurting you the most. Hope this helps. you are in my prayers. Be strong, ask God for his mercy.
   — kublai92

March 23, 2006
If you cannot afford therapy, you might want to start attending a support group of some type: Overeaters Anonymous, Weight Watchers, or TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly). These are fee or inexpensive ways of finding like-minded people who can support you. I am an emotional eater and haven't had wls yet ... I am sure that eating will continue to be a struggle for me too. Good Luck!
   — peacefuldaizy