Question:
overall concerned about my pouch being stretched out, and non-supportive people
I'm six months post-op and I think I've streched the pouch out a llittle! I still have restrictions but I can eat a medium chicken breast with some veggies and I notice my food comsumption is picking up a little more this summer........ Plus I can "chug", a bottle of water, not when I eat but in general! My other concern is my cousin and her man is driving me crazee, he was approved for surgery last year through Medicaid and he did not foolow through with his surgery so they dropped his paperwork, but since "they" found out I had my surgery in Jan 08 of this year now the both wanna hate all the time and it is geeting on my nerves.... Like keep asking me how much weight I'm losing and what I do for exercise etc....I feel like me and her were never close so why all the concerning questions? Plus she always bragg about what she gone do for him and stuff, like I really care I need to hear from my OH famliy and not negative people about these issues...... — sassykiki (posted on July 25, 2008)
July 25, 2008
Lakisha, I am 3 months post-op and I too can eat more now than in the
beginning. However, I think that's fairly normal so I don't worry too much
about it. The swelling has finally gone, which allows more room for food.
So that's what I keep telling myself. :)
As for non-supportive people...I know how you feel. My older sister & I
are VERY close but since I had this surgery & have lost 50 lbs. she
seems different. We use to talk everyday and now we may talk every other
week or so. Of course I'm excited about my weight loss & like to talk
about it but she never seems to want to hear about it like I thought she
would. Instead she just always tells me the reasons why she would NEVER
have the surgery herself. I don't know if she thinks I took the easy way
out or if she's jealous or what. WLS is certainly NOT the easy way out. And
I didn't just do it for looks either. I was beginning to have a lot of
medical issues and I'm only 37 yrs. old. I felt that I had tried all other
alternatives and this was my last resort. My sister knows I have tried
everything because she has always been right there beside me trying it too.
But now that I found a way she doesn't seem interested in talking to me at
all anymore. Maybe she just feels uncomfortable because she is still VERY
overweight. But I was so hoping to have her support even if she didn't want
the surgery for herself. She tries to act like she's happy for me but I can
tell something is different. :(
— AprilJM
July 25, 2008
Lakisha, please do not stress over your cousin. It could very well be a
case of jealousy! You're doing what her man could not, which I have found
can cause jealous feelings even in someone as close as a spouse! You keep
on doing what you're doing and remember why you're doing it. Better health
and a better life ahead. God Bless You!
— dnoreenh
July 25, 2008
there is a group that i am one of the owners of on yahoo its called Gastric
Bypass Surgery Support Improved. please feel free to look us up on Yahoo
groups and join us there. everyone there has been through exactly what you
are experiencing right now. Anyone who has had surgery, is going to have
surgery or is still deciding whether ornot to have it is welcome to join.
[email protected]
— jan0859
July 25, 2008
Your pouch will naturally stretch out over time. But still be aware of how
much food you are consuming because the density of certain foods may seem
like you are able to eat more or less than others. (scambled eggs fill me
up faster than malt o meal). Try the cottage cheese test. Fill one cup in
a measuring cup of cottage cheese and eat it until you are full not stuffed
or sick, then that will tell you how many ounces you are able to eat. Over
time you will be able to eat one cup of food. But don't rush it, your
stomach isn't healed all the way yet. Just be sure to chew your food well.
Be careful about chugging water, that may stretch out your pouch sooner
than you would like. Let it happen naturally. As for your cousin, it's
jealously. In order to avoid the stress avoid the cause. If possible. Or
maybe your cousin is interested in the surgery again and really wants to
know how it really works. You can look at it two ways. Remember, keep
the focus on you, this is your surgery and your new life. Best wishes.
— Kristy
July 25, 2008
Lakisha, BRAG! Talk yourself up! You should be proud of your weight loss
and all that you have accomplished - don't let them diminish that for you!
And if your family cannot be supportive, then cut 'em loose. Yes, family is
family - but if they are bringing you down and making you feel bad, then
they need to have a much smaller role in your life. I know it probably
wouldn't be easy but maybe you should tell your cousin how you're feeling
about her behavior.
— lauren_marie
July 25, 2008
Just because you can eat more, it does not mean you should. It is still
early out. This is the critical time (I was told) that we would need to
work hard to lose.
You need to take yourself back to the beginning, start eating smaller
portions, but make sure you have it often, 5 times a day + water in
between. And start drinking slower. The surgery gave you a tool. Try
tomaintain it and not damge it. Measure your food and put on a plate only
as much as you should eat. And do not listen to people who are
non-suportive. Good luck.
— H.A.L.A B.
July 25, 2008
The pouch is supposed to stretch somewhat but like you said-there are
limitations. It will stretch enough to hold a max. of about 1 cup 6-12
mos. post-op. Remember not to graze all day long and you should be fine.
The cousin-both jealousy & curiosity, probably. Remember that you can
not control others--but you can control your reactions to them. You KNOW
they are wishing they had the surgery; can't blame them for wanting that.
They'd love to see you fail-not b/c it's you but b/c they want a rational
for not having it done themselves. Be polite, keep your answers short
& encourage them to pick up the process and have the surgery. Be
sympathetic towards them. The curiosity is so normal--people can not
believe it works as well and as fast as it does; all our dieting has failed
us before--they assume this one will, too. Keep your eyes focused on your
success and be proud of yourself.
— movinmom03
July 25, 2008
Hi Lakeisha,
It is normal for your pouch to stretch a bit, but as long as you are eating
what you are suppose to and exercising you will be fine. As far as the
haters, they are going to be there regardless if it' not family it will be
friends or coworkers. Fortunately my sisters are very supportive but I
have a few friends I had to let go, we have enough going on in our lives
that we dont need any extra drama. I remember going through my psych eval
and she actualy asked me was I prepared to lose some friends because for
one reason or another they are going to have issues with yur weightloss and
your new attitiude. So I was somewhat prepared. So keep doing you baby
girl and shine. Work your tool. Stay blessed
Mz. Willie,The Original Butterfly Diva
— Mz.Willie26
July 25, 2008
What you need to remember is that you learned while your had a lot of
healing going on how to eat healthy and stick to that. You can eat more
because you are not raw inside any longer from the insisions and stitches.
I can eat more, but i don't. I still eat 3 oz of meat and 2 oz of
vegatables at a meal. I drink my water each day, and I try not to just
kick back the bottle of water and take it down, like I use to, but I do
take biger drinks than I did after surgery wehn I had to sip everything. I
focus on the gooed from my freinds and supporters and help other gong down
the path, but if someone is not trying, I tell them I can not spend time
reading their emails as I am focused on the end game and helping thouse who
need to hear from others that have gone before them and are ready to take
the plunge, so please write me when you are ready. They just go away as
they get the message.
— William (Bill) wmil
July 26, 2008
HI,
I think your cousin and her man are jeolous of you and your success and are
trying to sabotage you. The family making faces is not being supportive of
you. I used to worry about people like that when I was younger because it
hurt me that people would go out of their way to make you feel bad. Those
types of people will always be there for the rest of your life. Don't be
afraid to let them know that they are not being supportive. Also, I would
tell them something like, that in order for you to be successful your
doctor has told you not to talk about your weightloss progress and exercise
with others. That is just my opinion. You have no obligation to prove
anything to anyone especially if it makes you feel crummy. Good luck and
do what is right for you.
— azoreangal
July 26, 2008
LaKisha, don't worry so much. As time goes on the pouch does stretch a
little more and you will find that you are able to eat more. It's been a
little over 3 months for me and when I discovered that I could eat a bit
more, I was very concerned and worried at first. Then I learned that this
was normal and I was okay. There are still times when I cant eat as much
as others, but still I don't worry.
Regarding your cousin - don't let anybody rent space in your head! It's
obvious she is jealous. You are probably looking so good, and don't think
her man hasn't commented on that very thing to her. So of course she is
probably jealous. You don't need any negative people in your life. I just
recently had to let go of some very close relatives because they have not
been there for me. It hurts, but time will heal all wounds of that nature.
Keep up the good work.
Andrea
— athomas8413
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