Question:
After surgery depresed ,crying and aggitated

I have had surgery 3 days ago,My doctor does not believe in narcotics and i am taking ibiprofun for pain.I am verry aggitated and depressed, cry all the time.I am not hungry and have not eaten.any answers?.    — Sandy Hanson (posted on March 18, 2007)


March 18, 2007
These directions from your surgeon do not sound very healthy, and I am very concerned for you. You should NOT be taking ibuprofen - our new tummys cannot handle it and it can cause serious damage. You need to go an our of hours doctor or ER and get assessed - you are probably dehydrated and in need of nurishment as well as some strong pain killers. Please let us know how you get on.
   — theGeneva

March 18, 2007
you should not be taking ibuprofen/Motrin. As a matter of fact my MD said no Ansaids at all. They can cause stomach upset and ulcers. I would go to the Er and then maye get another MD. Paulette
   — paulettehill

March 18, 2007
Sandy hang in there girlfriend. I was in the same boat as you- i was told only Tylenol products though Things will get better sweetie trust me in no time you will be feeling much better and your clothes are gonna be swimming on you It's all worth it kiddo !!!! email me at [email protected] Carol
   — carol g

March 18, 2007
Definitely go see another DR... I stopped pain meds the day after I got home because they were making me hallucinate, and it was really painful. But I remember the first few days all I did was cry and wonder "what have I done?" but it gets better every day! Having some pain meds that work also might help, if I did it all over again, I would have asked for a different pain med, not just waited it out. Hang in there! And in the meantime go to the ER just to make sure everything is ok. email me with any questions [email protected]... Aaryn :)
   — airbear762000

March 18, 2007
Please don't take any kind of ibuprofen. It is very bad for you. Try extra strength tylenol. I was depressed to, because Food, like many of us, is our comfort. Take care Lee-Anne from Canada
   — LeeAnne Burchell

March 18, 2007
Sandy, 1st stop taking the Ibrophren...it is HORRIBLE for you and esp. at this stage. Any Tylenol products are OK to take - switch - ASAP. 2nd as you rapidly loose weight, your fat is being burned. Your hormones are stored in your fat cells, so as you are burning fat, you are releasing your hormones back into your system. 3rd - in addition to the hormones being released back into your system - mentally you are going to be going through food withdrawls.Sounds funny, but your mental associaition with food and being completely deprived it for how ever long you are/were - full fluids doesn't seem to satisfy - mentally. Remember that your body is fine with the fluids and that "eating" the fluids is going to help you heal. 4th - you have to eat, take your supplements and get your protein in. I know it may seem like a chore right now - but the sooner you get yourself on track, the better you will feel...truly! If you have any more questions: email me at [email protected].
   — jammerz

March 18, 2007
Everything you're feeling is completely normal - please don't feel alone. You've come to the right place for support. :) I echo the no NSAIDS. It will cause ulcers - especially on your new tummy that is very fragile and will take awhile to heal. I wasn't hungry either but you have to eat - protein, protein, protein. And getting dehydrated isn't fun, trust me. You may need fluids from the ER. I know it's tough but these hard times pass and once you start seeing results, it's going to make all of this worth it! Hang in there. Get a second opinion from a new doctor too. He kinda worries me. Brightest blessings to you! ~Sarah in VA
   — platypus

March 18, 2007
I agree with everyone else. STOP the Ibuprofin immediatly. I was given hydrocodone after surgery (15 day supply) by my doctor. He stresses he wants his patients to be comfortable. I stopped taking it after 4 days post op. I was so glad I had it. I am 5 weeks post op and during the day and night I am bursting into tears for no reason. I cry for a good 5 mins and then I am fine. I asked the psychologist with our program and he sd that it is normal and to just let myself have the crying jags and they will get less and less over time. He sd that my body is going thru a process. I also get mad at the stupidest things( I got mad at a piece of mail). Don't know why. Time is what it takes. It does get better every day. Go get a second opinion and if you are dehydrated go to the ER. Love and strength.... :)
   — hugger1021

March 18, 2007
If you are only 3 days out -- liquid Tylenol is what the doctor ordered for me as well as giving me a prescription for a stronger liquid pain killer. If your physician didn't prescribe any of this for you then (sorry to say) -- that surgeon just performing surgeries and not fully paying attention to his people's after care.
   — the7thdean

March 18, 2007
Hi... just wanted to echo what everyone else is saying. We have all been there, and trust us, it does get better. You have to focus on getting your protein in though. You are not going to be hungry for a very long time, so get in the habit of drinking your protein or following whatever guidelines are being given in regards to your diet. STOP the Motrin. I am 5 1/2 mos out and my surgeon still doesn't want me taking it. At your stage, there are a couple of reasons that you are not supposed to take it. The first and foremost is that it can affect how your platelets (clotting factor in your blood) work and can set you up to bleed. 2nd is that NSAIDS (the family that Motrin, Advil, Aleeve, etc) are in are VERY hard on the stomach. That new pouch is very fragile and brand new. You have to treat it like a newborn. Keep your chin up... believe it or not, Tylenol is a very effective pain reliever. If you still need something stronger like Tylenol with Codeine, and your surgeon won't give it to you , you can always contact your primary physician and explain the situation to him or her. Pain control is one of the most poorly controlled post op issues, has been for years (I am in the medical field). You will begin feeling better, if you start focusing on getting your fluids in. After you are feeling better physically, look into counseling. I am a very big proponent for it. We all had to go see a therapist to get our psychological clearance, but many do not address the issues that made us use food as a form of coping. If you don't address those issues, the road can be very hard, or you can eventually gain the weight back that you lose with the surgery. So please consider this. Good luck to you and keep your head and chin up, it will truly get better. And welcome the other side... :-)
   — Kari_K

March 18, 2007
You should have two doctors caring for you now, the Surgeon & The Primary. If one won't prescribe the Meds you need talk to the other one.
   — Michael Eak

March 19, 2007
Hi Sandy, it sounds like you are having a tough time. I am truly sorry for that. I am not clear about why you think you need narcotics, but I will tell you that motrin for pain is a bad thing with this type of surgery. It causes ulcers. That is a HUGE rule with this surgery, not anti-inflamitory medications for life girl. If your doctor does not understand this, you may need a new doctor. Narcotics are for those in serious pain, but you don't mention pain, you are aggitated, angry and depressed. Narcotics are not for these things. Why are you angry? Why are you depressed? The surgery didn't cause this, so you have to be honest with yourself and evaluate your situation. You are just out of surgery and this can be a very tender and trying time. As much as you want the weight loss and the small pouch, you now cannot run to food for your expression of anger and depression or disappointment. That is a scary place to be. Obesity is a head issue with a body consequence, and Sandy, you have to meet those head issues straight on. It will be a fight, and like it or now, you are beginning the battle. If you don't have a local support group, then you need some sort of support. Family, support group, or counselor. Books can help, but the choice is yours. You can sit back and be depressed and cry, be angry and take it out on others or maybe even yourself by forcing foods, or you can take control of this situation, wipe your tears, and buy a book or two, find a support group or two, call your doctor and remind them that motrin is for non-surgical patients, and to not put you at risk for ulcers thank you, and stand up for yourself. You will be fighting yourself to get through this, but if you don't take care of yourself, no one else will. There is help out there for you, but only you can find it. If there are no groups, maybe this is a time for you to organize one. All "hospitals of excellence" are required to have support groups, so your hospital should sponsor one by law, if they don't they should be called on it. This surgery is life changing and it isn't just surgery for success. It is surgery for a tool and learn success. My first advice is to rest, sleep and heal. You are only a few days out. If you are passing gas (your other question not listed here), then don't take anything. Gas is my biggest problem since surgery, but I pass it so I don't take anything for it. I desire to be on the least amount of meds as possible. Gas is just gas, it is the body working, so I leave it alone. I wouldn't try and prevent gas just a few days out of surgery, your body is already mad enough at you for the changes you forced on it. It needs time to adjust and heal. Please give it that time. You need rest, reading and some tools to deal with your head issues. Next you will need to begin exercise and drink that water and protein. Then, please celebrate every small success you get, not with food, but with a smile, a yipee, and maybe a hot bubble bath! Enjoy the gift you have of the small pouch, and fight to protect it, like a small child, protect it. Learn the needs of your body and work with your body. It has been abused for too long, time Sandy, for healing. Let it begin today:) Take care, Patricia P
   — Patricia P

March 19, 2007
First of all I think that some crying is normal, and some frustration, due to the fact that if your like many of us you love food and it was one thing that you truely enjoyed. BUT, Ibuprofen is a major no no according to my doctor, is eats at the stomache lining. I was told this from more than one doctor. You may want to check into this. The not hungry part was normal for me, some days I would just forget to eat in the beginning. But that has changed, I am 3 days from a year out though. Check into the medicine though. That scares me that you are taking the Ibuprofen. You don't want to feel worse. Take care. Melissa
   — Melissa M.

March 19, 2007
Sandy- I agree w everyone about ibuprophen-not good! You NEED nutrition- especially protien! You can get water w protien-special k water. That will help you feel better. And yes things will get better! I cried my eyes out for 3 days! I thought 'what have I done?' , but now its been 3 months and I am glad I did it. Use the message board- it saved my life!! Hang in there!
   — suzyins.d.

March 19, 2007
Stop the ibuprofin immediately. It is a Major NO NO.You can have tylenol if you need it for pain. I just did without and worked through it. I did not want to put any more drugs in my pouch than I had to after surgery. For me walking was the key. The more I walked the better I felt. Keep the liquids going too. Sip Sip Sip. As for the crying. Some of that is to be expected. If you think it is out of control, call your Dr. If you were on an antidepressant before surgery you should be back on it now. Believe me it will get better. In just another week you will be feeling better and in another month you will have no doubts this was the right thing to do. I am two months out and no regrets at all. I can eat regular food again, in small amounts of course, but life is good. The pounds are coming off and I feel wonderful most of the time.They don't call this the "wild ride" for nothing. Good Luck on your journey and God Bless, Norma
   — njkbutton




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