Question:
Weight gain scare?

I had open RYN in Sept. 2001 I'a 5 years post op and have gain back 40lbs. I can not seem to lose the weight. I have been gaining and losing the same 5 pounds for months now. I went to my surgeon he did and endo scope, which reveiled the pouch was still intact and had not changed size much. the stoma was strecthed some, however he will not consider doing a revision to make the stome smaller. I'm scared. I can eat more than at times. Sometimes until I'm miserable. I know that sounds bad. I want to have control and eat less than 1000 calories aday. I'm a stress eatter, and have many stressfull issues in my life. I want to lose the weight. I know the rules eat less exercise more. I need some words of encouragement. I'm so depressed I thought I would never weigh this muchagain.Rain W.    — rainbow (posted on November 11, 2006)


November 11, 2006
Hi! A practice here in Michigan is doing a procedure they call Sclerotherapy which involves a scope and injections of a substance around the stoma which causes it to scar and shrink the opening without surgery. It's an outpatient process. Check this site: http://tinyurl.com/yxltr2 or, if that doesn't work, this one: http://www.mmpc.com/specialties/michigan_weight_loss_specialists/serv/bariatric/sclero Maybe someone else near you is doing it as well. The only other suggestion I'd have would be to go back to the rules! They seem to be different everywhere - are you drinking with meals? How soon before and after? Do you use a food diary? I had stopped losing for awhile, and decided to start tracking my intake again. The weight started back down! Just a couple of suggestions. I'm only 17 months out, so it's hard to identify with where you are, but everything (credible) I've ever read/discussed tells me that the pouch is still there and most people that go back to the basics start to lose again. Good luck, don't give up!! (Don't starve yourself either, that has complications of it's own!) Chip
   — Chip Locke

November 11, 2006
I'm only 4 months post-op, but have noticed I can eat a lot more now and a lot more variety of foods... I haven't gained, but will if I'm not careful and stop falling back into old grazing habits...it's SO easy! Remember that our surgery IS a "tool" and that we are the ones that have to continue to control WHAT goes into our mouths and when and how much! I'm planning on doing what the other person suggested this week for myself; go back to basics. Log my intake and see if that gets me going down again... Keep the vision! You CAN do it! You've already proven that! Trish
   — zoeysgrami

November 11, 2006
I am sorry that you are going through some issues now, but try not to focus too much on what is wrong with the situation. I think you identified the culprit. I don't think the answer for you to control yourself is for you to have another surgery to force your body into submission. You have identified that you eat when you are under a lot of stress; therein lies the problem. I am actually still in the pre-op stages of my surgery, but I have to say that my medical group/health-insurance company is arming me with the tools to prepare for my surgery. I am required to take lifestyles and nutrition classes and am required to lose weight before they will consider setting a surgery date (even though they have approved me for the surgery). Initially, I simply thought these were stall tactics, but now, I know much better. Taking me through these steps and providing me education about my situation and my eating habits has been the best thing that could have happened to me. One of the trouble spots for many people, I have learned, was stress eating. I can be a stress eater, too. But I have learned that stress is only stress because we perceive it that way and allow issues to take a toll on us. I had to 1) learn to orchestrate my life in such a fashion as to mitigate as many issues arising as possible, and 2) learn to look at the issues that inevitably seep through as learning and growth opportunities. I have learned that life is full of issues and will continue to be until we meet our Maker. We cannot avoid the issues (i.e. reality) but should face them. For me, when issues did arise, I made it a point to get to the core of them so that I could formulate some type of solution to bring a resolution. Stressing was simply another way for me to avoid reality and to commiserate over the many problems of my life, which subsequently gave me permission to eat incontinently. Resolve to work on your perception of situations, events, and troubles in life, and I think you will be able to better control your weight gain and loss. I hope this was of some assistance to you.
   — Xavier Smith

November 12, 2006
hi rain...thanks for your post. i'm just returning to the website after 5 years of surgery myself. i returned because i have gained at least 10 pounds. i remember, reading the posts years ago when i was preparing for surgery where people wrote about gaining back the weight. at the time, my focus as only to have the surgery but i guess unconsciously, i put this information on "the shelf". so, surgery was completed (i self paid and had my surgery in mexico). i followed all the tools, rules and suggestions. i didn't even try to eat some of the things i realized people are eating after their surgery. i have drank tons of water, still drink protein shakes to this very day...and try to keep up some sort of exercise even if it is walking. this weight gain is as a result of forgetting the basics including gettin in protein before anything else as well as water intake. i am back to reading posts to remind myself that i am not exempt and to identify with people who struggle with the same story as myself. as i read posts like yours from people who have gained weight since their surgery, i am very grateful that i returned back to the site before things became much too out of hand. i have recommitted myself to the process which means that i am back to protein, protein, protein. water like crazy when i am at work. letting go of the starch that i love to eat like i'm headed to the electric chair. i am grateful for this surgery and to be honest rain, as a self-pay, i paid too much money to be defeated. i have started running 1 block and walking 2 and plan to push myself to do that until i am back on track. guess what? something amazing has happened since i've returned to the basics: i am eating less! not that i cant eat more but after reading the stories on this site and doing the things that worked for me in the past, i am eating less. i feel your pain regarding the depressing feeling and welcome you to write me. perhaps we can buddy up via email. we share the same amount of "clean time". if no one has told you they love you today, i love you. stay true to yourself and give it another try. [email protected]
   — trofie99

November 12, 2006
Hi Rain: I am a pre-op patient right now - but I know how it is to be a stress eater - I have done it all my life and I am terrified that if anything will defeat me in my journey it will be the stress eating - that is why I am going to stay focused on the boards here and all the wonderful support that I am getting already even though I am just starting out on my journey. I am sure there will be others who will be glad to be a buddy to you also - but I am offering you my hand in friendship and understanding right now. I believe you can do it and without any further surgery too! When you feel stressed out just reach out to one of us on here and we will be glad to be there for you! I hope that I have helped some small amount here since I don't really know the post-op side of things yet - but I am always a good listener when you need one and the best listener of all is our loving father in heaven. He will always be there for you when no one else is - sometimes we feel he has put to much on our plates but he knows just how much we can tolerate and how far to push us - this may be his way of bringing you back to the friends on this site because you need them as much as they need you hun. Take care and if there is ever a time when you need to just email me at [email protected]
   — nanniemidder

November 12, 2006
You said you have many stressful issues in your life and I'm sure that your re-gain is one of the big ones. Have you thought about seeing a counselor or a therapist? S/he could help you learn how to deal with stress without eating. Also, I think that if you are able to get over/deal with the depression, you'll find that life (and weightloss) a whole lot easier.
   — mrsidknee

November 12, 2006
Hi Rain.... Sorry to hear that you are having a rough time. I think what you need is to go back to basics. Start measuring and going back to high protein, low carb foods in controlled portions. Make sure you get your 80 grams of protein daily. Make sure you are drinking 2 qts of WATER daily, no caffeinated drinks, as they are dehydrating. And, if you are not already going, go to a therapist and find out why you are falling back into old habits of stress eating. You are going to have to find some other outlet for de-stressing that is not self destructive. I know that this doesn't sound easy and, to be truthful, it won't be. But, it WILL be worth it. So, knuckle down, put them big girl (not fat - adult) panties on and start doing what you have to do.... Be good to yourself ... Be well.
   — Kari_K

November 13, 2006
I'm thinking it's time to join the Grad list. No guarantee that you'll get the rest of the wt off, but there's also the trick of maintaining the loss you have achieved. There is a lot of combined long term experience on this list and I'd recommend it in conjunction with this site and any local lists you use. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG The relaxed stoma issue is discussed often!
   — vitalady

November 16, 2006
Hi Rain. I totally understand your situation. I am 18 months out and have just recently gained 20 pounds. I am absolutely mortified. I can eat more and try not to but I am hungry. I don't know why my appetite has increased but I am scared to death. So I am trying to back to square one with protein shakes and really keeping a good log of my intake. I am becoming very depressed over this too. I've worked so hard for this to come on so quickly. So hang in there and I will too. If any other post-op pt's have and good ideas to help us get things started again I would love to hear from you. Nancy B.
   — NANCY B.

November 23, 2006
I understand how you feel. I am also a stress eater. I had a complete hysterectomy about 1 year ago and I have gained 40+ lbs since then. I can eat large amounts of food and I need help. I would like to know what to eat and how much to eat in order to loose this weight. My surgeon never required me to have any counseling before surgery and now I don't know what to do. Melissa
   — MELISSA L.




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