Question:
My husband has suddenly become very insecure.

If we get into a disagreement, he all of a sudden says that I'm just going to leave him. Whats that all about? I have never seen this side of him before, and I really don't care for it very much. Anyone else experience this?    — Cheri M. (posted on March 25, 2002)

March 24, 2002
My hubby and I had a big blow up a few weeks ago, and then a day or two later he was in tears, saying that he was so afraid to lose me, and that he had always known I was beautiful inside, but now all the world could see I was "beautiful on the outside, too." I think it happens to a lot of couples. WE all have to play it by ear, I think. Good luck, Donna in AL
   — Donna S. C.

March 24, 2002
I think he's just scared he'll lose you now that other people will be more attracted to the "thinner" you. My husband is the same, but we already have probles. To me this is one more thing to add to the "bad list". Why wasn't he as attentive and protective when I was at my biggest and now that another guy may smile at me he has a nervous breakdown? I don't know how your relationship is to begin with, but I'd say maybe try talking about it with a marriage counselor before it gets out of hand. Or if you're in the same boat I am, get some phone numbers of these new admirerers.
   — Paula Prichard

March 27, 2002
I think it would be an unfair expection of us not to think our husband don't have some emotional issue with our weight. Think about all the emotional issues we have had or are having about it. The hard part is dealing with it together. Communication - Real Communication, the kind where you talk about feelings, fears, insecurities, hopes, dreams, etc. is the key to working this all out. Ensuring your partner that you are committed to him. This may sound corny, but I heard this advice from Zig Zigler (a Christian Motivational Speaker)"My wife and I each morning spend time together and before I leave her side to start my day I look at her and say,'Today, I chose you'". His point was that your spouse needs to feel secure in your relationship and that loving your spouse is about choice. You chose or not chose to love them above all others.
   — Cheryl S.

March 27, 2002
My husband says the same thing. He has always love me for me and been somewhat jealous of other guys. Now he is more afraid someone else is going to notice the new me, and he knows how much attention I get and people telling me how good I look since I have lost so much weight. Plus my attitude has changed alot and I have alot more self esteem than I used to. Sometimes him saying that gets on my nerves and other times I just laugh.
   — Bethany F.