Question:
what to say to my daughter
My daughter told me today that she thinks that I am going to die on the table from this surgery. I told her I am not going to die that the good Lord does not want me yet. I am one of the older ones to get this done. I am 59. I think because I have to go off of my plavix for a week that she thinks I'm going to die because of that. I have been on plavix a year in December and thats when I'm having my surgery. I also have one stent. Anyone have any advice on what to tell her to ease her mind. — cuppaloopy (posted on October 4, 2009)
October 4, 2009
My surgeon explained to me, when my family voiced many of the same
concerns; that having this surgery has fewer complications than gall
bladder surgery. Since I had already gone through that easily, this should
be fairly easy as well. He was right. I'm going great and so thankful I
did this. My only wish is that I had done it sooner. Have her speak to
your surgeon, to address her concerns. Log in here and get further
information. Become educated. Best of luck and blessings to you.
— slhbrown
October 4, 2009
Explain to your daughter that you are having the surgery to help save your
life, by losing weight and becoming healthier. She's just concerned, and
if she needs to, have her go to the doctor with you and voice her concerns
and let the doctor explain how important it is for you to have this surgery
to save your life. Good luck to you!
— MissMarie516
October 4, 2009
I haven't had my surgery as of yet but my daughters told me that they were
scared that I wouldn't come back home (I would die in the hospital) so I
took they to the doctors seminar with me and it answered alot of there
questions. I also show them how it was done online (youtube). So you might
want to do the same.
— imonly30yo
October 4, 2009
When I expressed those same fears to my cardiologist, who had recommended
the weight loss surgery, he just said,"Your chances of dying are
higher if you don"t have the surgery." There have been some
challenges, and my cardiac condition has affected my recovery and progress.
But 108 pounds gone have been worth it all.
— pageturnr
October 4, 2009
I had the VSG on March 13, 2009 and I am 65 years old. I have had no
problems, and have lost 75 pounds. Just follow your Dr.'s orders.
— joejoe2
October 4, 2009
All I can tell you is this..when my son went to Iraq I was terrified
something would happen. I prayed all the time. Then one day I was watching
the news and heard about a guy who was sitting in his living roon in
california and a sink hole under house took his house in and he was killed.
He was sitting in his living room!! This just proved to me that when its
your time, Its your time..no matter what you do. So tell you daughter, if
its your time ..surgery or not...something will happen. My son came and
went back to Iraq a second time and all was ok. Tell her to pray. it always
helps me. Best of luck to you! hugs,kim
— gpcmist
October 5, 2009
My mom still had the thought in her head that it was like 20 years ago, and
was a big open cut, and had the worst things in her mind. So I took her to
a seminar so she could question the doctor herself, and she's attended some
support groups with me as well, just to help her understand it better.
Once they know and understand the benefit from having it done, they can be
more comfortable with it I think. If they feel educated about it and learn
as much as we have from it, I think this helps. My kids know what I go
through everyday without the surgery, they can't wait for me to get it
done, I will feel so much better!
— eyeflirt4fun
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