Question:
Has anyone in this forum been unsuccessful with RNY??
I am a newbie. 2 weeks and 2 days post op and I am having doubts and regrets today. I can't help but think what if I made all these changes to my body and I don't end up losing the weight? I have seen so many wonderful success stories for so many people out there and I was just wondering... is it realistic to worry that the surgery won't help? This is probably the first full blown doubt I have had and I am not sure why this is hitting me today. I owuld hate myself to know I am struggling so much to even drink some water and what if it was all for nothing. Any perspective on this would be helpful. Thank you. xo Jillian — jillian_amari (posted on June 3, 2010)
June 3, 2010
Jillian, It's normal to think that the RNY won't work, 'cause we failed at
all the other "diets, wt loss gimmicks". At 6 months I wouldn't
get rid of my fat clothes,because I thought I could still fail. 11 months
out, fat clothes gone, 122lbs gone and I'm feeling great. The first month
after surgery I thought I'd made a huge mistake. My PA told me I'd feel
like this and to give it another month or 2, she was right. Hang in there,
it will get better.:)
— Nurseducky
June 3, 2010
Thank you for the kind words. Sometimes just knowing I am not alone in how
I feel helps alot!!! :)
— jillian_amari
June 3, 2010
I understand your doubts I have a lap band and have failed at that so I am
going for a revision to rny in July. Every one I have talked to says that
this is only a tool so I am scared also. I think you will do great. I
remember after my surgery thinking what have I done. Your hormones change
and I also went through some anger issues and grouchy. I then realize
because I couldn't eat through my feeling they where coming out. I am
concerned about the water also just keep sipping. Good luck !! It will get
better.
— pandavenise
June 3, 2010
Hi Jillian! First of all, i wanna say congrats for making the decision to
change your life. It's been almost 3 years since my surgery but i will
never forget how frustrating and even painful it was for about one month
post-op. YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS! I PROMISE! :) I was emotional and
doubted my decision just as you're feeling. If it is any encouragement..im
almost 3 years post-op and now i can happily tell you, I'd do it all over
again. The journey ahead of you is going to be AWESOME, just hang in there
girl! feel free to contact me with any questions (even the sill ones!) Keep
your chin up :) ~Carly
— Carly25
June 3, 2010
Hi Jillian! First of all, i wanna say congrats for making the decision to
change your life. It's been almost 3 years since my surgery but i will
never forget how frustrating and even painful it was for about one month
post-op. YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS! I PROMISE! :) I was emotional and
doubted my decision just as you're feeling. If it is any encouragement..im
almost 3 years post-op and now i can happily tell you, I'd do it all over
again. The journey ahead of you is going to be AWESOME, just hang in there
girl! feel free to contact me with any questions (even the sill ones!) Keep
your chin up :) ~Carly
— Carly25
June 3, 2010
Hi Jillian: As most of the other posters have already expressed, hang in
there--it will get better, I promise *<:-). I am now exactly 5 mos. and
5 days postop RNY and have lost 80#. Most importantly I can already say
beyond doubt I would do it over again 100x if I had the chance. The way I
feel about myself, the way my husband looks at me, the way my children
smile b/c I am no longer the "fat" mom and just the ability to
have a piece of your life back (or regained to where it had been) as a
result of this phenomenal tool is beyond explanation. Just today I went on
a school field trip with my MS and HS daughters (to an amusement park no
less) and I had the time of my life! This may sound silly, but I was
excited at the fact that I could even ride the rollercoasters with my
girls--and I had no trouble with securing the "lap bars"--and I
fit in the seats without difficulty!!! Yes, the phase you are in now is no
doubt hard, but the sunny days are just ahead and around the bend! You
won't fail if this is what you have convinced yourself is the way to change
your life. In fact, to this once very active "over-eater" it is
hard to realize that the RNY surgery just does not allow you to overeat
anymore. I loved sweets and never thought I could do without, but again
just a taste is a bit of overkill anymore and then your stomach will rumble
just a little the wrong way and you know that if you don't cease and desist
the bad habits of yesterday that you will be sorry. I am sure you have
seen many people post here that unfortunately the surgeons operate just on
our tummies and not on our heads (and of course we need a bit of both), but
what you don't learn from sheer trial you will eventually get (and hear
loud and clear) through the school of hard knocks! Lots of luck to you and
to help motivate you more just look for those days ahead when you too will
say "I would do this over again if I could" -- I promise you it
is coming and you will never look back! Welcome to the "losers
bench" and godspeed on your journey!
— momeego
June 3, 2010
Hi Jillian,
I'm almost 4 weeks out from my rny and it's been incredibly hard for me
too. And like you I have doubted my decision several (ok, more like a
thousand) times! And everyone has told me to breath my way through it and
that it will get better in a month or two. I'm hanging in there - what am I
gonna do? Ask for a reversal? But I understand your feelings too. It's been
harder than I imagined. Hang in there with me and send me a PM and we can
coach each other through it and see for ourselves when it gets better. Cos
boy it get better or I'm gonna be a mess! LOL
Hugs, Tee
— texastreat
June 3, 2010
Hi Jillian! Congrats on the new tool to help you have a new life beyond
your wildest dreams! I just celebrated 10 year post-op from a revision
from the VBG to the RNY and if I had to do it all over again I wouldn't
hesitate. What you are feeling is so very common among the newly post-ops.
I remember how hard it was then. If you haven't done it already get a
picture of you BEFORE surgery and put it somewhere handy. Next get someone
to help you measure yourself and write those numbers down. Put that where
you have the picture. Finally pick out a pair of "reference
jeans" or any pants you wore pre-op. Put them on and take a picture.
Now each month pick a day (maybe the day of your surgery or the 1st of the
month, whatever. Weigh yourself, measure yourself and try on those
reference clothes. Write down the results so you can look back to see
where you were each month. You will be so shocked and happy to SEE in
front of you the change. In the meantime I hope that knowing your feelings
are normal and should soon pass will help your outlook. For your best
success now and in the long run focus on Water, Protein, Exercise, and
Vitamin supplinebts. If you do that and don't eat too much consistently,
don't eat foods that just slide through the pouch (once you are released to
a normal diet that is), and don't drink with your meals you should do just
fine!! Big hugs being sent your way.
— Kellye C.
June 3, 2010
Everyone has or has had these doubts.
I remember waking up after surgery (that period coming out from anesthesia)
and asking someone, is it too late to change my mind.
I laugh about it now, but at the time, I was serious.
— Joseph Johnson
June 3, 2010
Hi Jillian....They are all correct. It is normal to feel as if you will
fail. I am getting ready to post a question but I am sure it won't help. I
have lost 106 pounds. And those 6 come and go and come and go and come and
go.........Damn it! I can NOT seem to lose any more and I am very
frustrated. My 1 year anniversary was 4-1-10. Urrrgggh....Good luck to you
and GET RID OF THE FAT CLOTHES!
— 1stReneeMarie
June 3, 2010
Thank you all so much for the responses.... Everyday is different and I
guess yesterday was just one of those "bad days". I will do the
picture/measurement/jeans thing that is a great idea thank you for that.
Also going to the amusement park is a huge accomplishment! That is amazing!
It is really great that people who are post op stay on here and help
others. I don't know what I would do without the constant help and support
of my OH friends. Thank you so much for being there to always eliminate any
fears. xo Jillian :)
— jillian_amari
June 4, 2010
I had RNY Feb 18 ,I went thru the same thing u r going thru.I am so much
happier with myself now I have went from 255 down to 190.I actually went to
the water park last weekend with my family and this year I didn't actually
roll down the water slide! lol I had a great time!Just think of what thin
is going to feel like to you very soon,it is wonderful everyday I notice
myself and see a new me.I can not wait to reach my goal.Goodluck thru your
journey and u have came to the right place for answers.Everyone on Obesity
help has been great with answering all of my questions and concerns.
— davonjack
June 5, 2010
My experience hasn't been ideal. This hasn't worked exactly as I wished...
I have had other health problems that couldn't have been foreseen and I
have not lost as much weight as I thought I would. I HAVE NO REGRETS! But
I have been where you are. In the first month, I only lost about 10 lbs
and I had a serious case of buyers remorse. This isn't easy. You have
made serious changes. I am going to be honest, there will be times when
you are not satisfied, when you don't feel like you have lost enough weight
or when you feel like you have done all this and yet the world still views
you as fat (because let's face it, the world doesn't care that you started
at 270 - they only see that you weigh 190 now). There will be times when
you look in the mirror and see the loose skin and the places you still have
fat rather than seeing how much you have lost. This is a psychological
game as much as a food game or a exercise game.
I am 8 months out and I have lost 80 lbs. It isn't great as stories go,
but if I hadn't done this, I would still weigh 270 lbs. That is what you
have to focus on. I can walk into Victoria's Secret and buy bras. I can
walk into Old Navy and other stores and buy clothes. I can run again.
This will change your life and you will have to focus on the good when you
have those bad and doubting days. We have to get a psych eval before we
get this done... and yet counseling after is one of the most valuable
things!! Oh... and give away those fat clothes. When you outgrow them,
get them out of your closet because you will NEVER go back. It is a state
of mind. It has to be.
— Jeanette Hagar
June 5, 2010
Hi Jillian, I so so so know where u are coming from.. I will be 7 weeks
post up as of Monday.. And it is alot harder then I ever thought it would
be.... I am finally over the pain and discomfort part.. But it is a very
difficult thing to go through, and most ppl don't understand unless they
have been through it themselves.. I had my 6 week visit on Thursday and I
am doing well.. I have not thrown up not even once.. Which I am so
thankful for.. The doc said my skin and hair look good. But i know it is
still early and I still could start to loose hair at any point.. However I
dont feel like i have lost enough i started out at 260 and as of Thursday I
was 232.8 I wanted to have been @ 220.. So I started thinking, OMG what if
this doesnt work what if i fail.. SO I feel your pain... I wish you the
best in your journey!!! Jenn
— Jennifer G.
June 5, 2010
— Dusty Ray Vaughn
June 8, 2010
Thanks again ya'll have really calmed this fear that I had it's so good to
know that everyone has been there. I am having another rough week right
now. I have started to experiene dumping. I was doing great with plain soup
and the other day I threw it up. I am starting to miss food. I don't want
to eat bad things I just want to be able to eat something with a little
consistency. I am starting to think I will never eat again. Also I am
having a hard time with plain water. If I put some cranberry juice in it it
goes down fine but just plain water is not my friend. This process just
feels like it gets harder everyday. I am excited to see my nutrtionist in a
couple weeks to get her input. Thanks again you guys have all been so
supportive and kind to me with your responses.
— jillian_amari
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