Question:
I have gained weight

I lost 137 lbs and need to loose40 more lbs and did not and have gained 28 lbs. Its been 4 years I am depressed and I feel like I am eating constantly emotionally a wreck all the time. very bored wnat to drink all the time.    — jvandamme (posted on April 30, 2008)

April 30, 2008
you should schedule a meeting with your surgeon or nutritionist to reassess your situation and get you back on track with a diet plan that is going to help you lose the weight. most of the time they will put you back on the puree diet (stage 2) if you are feeling depressed you should see a professional about your depression as well.
   — soliisoul

April 30, 2008
Hey...I lost 130 lbs & at the 2 yr mark I had a birth control shot that caused a 30 lb gain! I thought I was going to die! I was so depressed. I felt like a failure. So, I started a program of self hypnosis ( I am a hypnotist)... each day I would wake up and tell myself how awesome, thin & beautiful I was...and it was HARD!...I forced myself on the scales and regardless of what I weighed...I deducted 5 lbs and CELEBRATED...telling myself over and over what a great person I was...and how beautiful I am...and how much I loved losing weight...I did not deprive myself of ANY food that I wanted because that sabotaged me, it made my mind (and body) believe that I was "missing out" on something...so I would eat it, celebrate it and treat it like it was the best food ever...and guess what happend! Each day it got easier...I started BELIEVING everything I was telling myself...my body responded...and 1 yr later I have lost the 30 lbs and another 30!!! It works! We have to stop making this weight loss ONLY about our body...it has EVERYTHING to do with our state of mind! We have celebrate who we are!!! If you are ever in Ohio...let me know...you should come to one of my seminars! Good Luck...and start loving yourself for who you are (even at the weight you are) and start allowing your body to shed the extra weight...adopt the thinking that "everyday you get better and better, in every way!" Bless you, Samantha :)
   — Samantha M.

April 30, 2008
You used the big "emotion" word and like many of us you are probably an emotional eater who has not yet dealt with the the psychiatric side of your eating disorders...I am not one that readily passes the buck to "get a shrink"...however, you said it yourself..."emotional wreck all the time"....Talk to someone who might be able to help you cope sweetie...Til then...you need to go back to basics and cut out the junk foods and sugars and make your drinks water! Make yourself some appointments...Get your labs and see if you can see a nutrionist who might be able to recommned a good therapist for you to talk to in your area. I wish you much luck and success! You can do this! You already did so well...
   — .Anita R.

April 30, 2008
I too initially lost 135# and then completely relapsed into the disease of obesity and had quite a large weight gain. I was in a deep, dark place filled with depression and cocooned inside my home and went back to medicating myself with food as it is my drug of choice. After a few months, I knew something had to give and decided it was time to get some help. I saw my PCP and then a psychiatrist and began an antidepressant which really helped. I didn't want to do it, I had to do it. I then began to claw my way back out of that dark place and am happy to say all is well now. I went to my surgeon, got a fill and a good talking to and am back on track. I did a liquid detox off of carbs, then went back to the basics... protein/veggies/water/exercise/daily self help with positive self talk and gratitude. It sounds like you are medicating your depression and boredom with food a lot like I did. Another concern I have about you is your last sentence about wanting to drink all of the time... are you talking about alcohol? If this is the case, please, please be very careful about addiction transfer. Please call your surgeon, PCP and get an appointment and get some help for all of your symptoms asap. Then, be prepared to get back in the game by forgetting about yesterday... you can't change the past but you can choose to do the right thing today and tomorrow. Focus on your future, set some goals, enlist your family and tell them what you are going through and ask for their help. Please keep us up to date on how you are and good luck, we are in this for life, it is never to late to do a reset. Everyone struggles and has setbacks. Dawn Vickers, RN, BLC, CLC
   — DawnVic

May 1, 2008
Joan...I am 5 yrs out...I have lost the weight and have maintained a great since of myself for this accomplishment! You have lost 137 lbs...that is amazing in itself ... and you ONLY have 40 more to go. Did you ever think that you would only need to lose 40 lbs to be happy with yourself...truely that just amazing in itself!! Go back to the basics...you know what to do...you have done it! Remember to drink WATER, take your vitamins, drink your shakes and eat the protein first...and add exercise to your day! This last 40 lbs is nothing compaired to where you started. You can do this!! Danette Christiansen
   — Danette C.

May 1, 2008
Joan, first please let me say that I am sorry for what you are going through, sincerely, but equally sincerely, please let me say STOP IT! You are making destructive choices to your body. No matter what is going on around you, these are choices you are making, so make the right choice and stop the destructive behavior. Go for a walk, buy a new blouse instead of alcohol, get help for what is going on in your head. The choice is yours, and so are the consequences of your choices. You continue to be destructive, that is exactly what you will get, sorrow and destruction. If you make good and healthy choices for yourself, you can get on the right path again. Your health is worth it, please get help and get healthy. Take care. Patricia P.
   — Patricia P

May 1, 2008
I'm sorry to you have gained weight and feel so badly. I would strongly urge you to call/talk to your surgeon, however, I would also suggest that you consider speaking with a therapist...sometimes "issues" go unaddressed and they manifest themselves in our lives that can spin us out of control... and I'm not suggesting that you are out of control.. only that you search your heart & soul along with considering the "physical"... God Bless you & Good Luck!
   — 502Laxi

May 1, 2008
Weight gain is a tough thing to swallow. Being food "addicts" we medicate ourselves or inject ourselves with food and the worst part is our drug is legal. Try changing the way you start your day. A positive outlook will determine how your day goes. Food can be friend or foe, I guess we determine that one! Keep your head up, at least you haven't gained 137. There's still hope. Go for the Gold, you can do it.
   — bariatricdivalatina