Question:
How long do you have to wait to have sex after surgery?

Is there a specific time frame or do you just wait until you feel up to it.. Any answers greatly appreciated... I am asking this question for my fiance...he just bought it up to me,so I told him I would ask you guys...    — Ang B. (posted on March 18, 2001)

March 18, 2001
Angie, I would say that you should listen to your body and wait until you feel well enough. Everyone is different. Of course, you won't want any weight on your stomach/incision area, but I'm sure you can work that out. I was too tired the first week or two, and felt more comfortable waiting until my stitches were out. Also, I just felt totally unattractive until I was able to shower properly and fix my hair and such. You'll know when the time is right.
   — Susan S.

March 18, 2001
When I had my 2 week check up (I had open RNY - distal) I asked my doctor about this. He said that I was doing fine and could resume relations with my husband any time I felt like it. He also said (after apologizing profusely and assuring me he wasn't trying to be offensive, which I knew he wasn't) that if I was uncomfortable with my husband's weight on my tummy that it might be more comfortable if I was on top for the first few times (blush). We waited until about 4 weeks and just took things slow and gentle and had no difficulties at all. Good Luck to you both!!
   — ronascott

March 18, 2001
Angie I agree to listen to your body.My husband and I were together 1 week after I had lap rny. My doc put no restrictions on sex or driving. Hope this helps..
   — Heather C.

May 14, 2001
Be very careful with sex after surgery, I waited only about two weeks and everything was fine, but then we ran into a complication a month later. I found out I was pregnant with our fifth child.This is a blessing but it's going to be a tough road for Mom and baby.;-)
   — [Anonymous]