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Ten Steps to a Positive Body Image

Thought I'd pass this along. Happy Reading! Ten Steps to Boost your Body Image Do you ever stand in front of the mirror dreaming about where you'd get a few nips and tucks? Or feeling like life would be better if only you had smaller thighs, a flatter tummy, or there was simply less of you? These are all signs of a not-so-hot body image. But guess what? No matter what "they" tell you -- the magazines, Hollywood, your friends and family -- looking like Kate Moss isn't the cure-all. What's most important is that you feel good about who you are. And until you like yourself as is, trying to change your body shape will be a losing proposition. High self-esteem is important for a healthy, balanced lifestyle -- and it's a definite must if successful weight loss is one of your goals. So it's time to smile back at that image in the mirror and value all the wonderful characteristics about the person reflected there! 1. Recognize your special qualities. Make a list of all your positive qualities -- not including your physical traits. Are you kind? Artistic? Honest? Good in business? Do you make people laugh? Post your list near the mirror or another place where you'll see it every day. 2. Put your body back together. Most of us with negative body images have dissected our bodies into good and bad parts. "I hate my thighs and butt." "My butt's okay, but my stomach is fat and my arms are flabby." Reconnect with your body by appreciating how it all works to keep you going. Try stretching or yoga -- the fluid movements are great for getting in touch with the wonders of the human body. 3. Remember the kid inside you. Give yourself permission not to be perfect. Inside all of us is the kid we used to be -- the kid who didn't have to be perfect and worry about everything. Remember that kid, and give yourself a break! Place a photo of yourself as a child in your bedroom or at your desk at work, so you can see it each day and remember to nurture yourself and laugh a little. 4. Enjoy your food. Eating is pleasurable. So enjoy it! Food gives us energy and sustains life. Don't deprive yourself or consider eating an evil act. If you allow yourself to enjoy some of the foods you like, you'll be less likely to overeat. In turn, your body won't feel bloated and uncomfortable. 5. Indulge in body pleasures. One step toward being kind to your body, and inevitably yourself, is to indulge yourself. Get a massage, take a long, hot bath, use lotions that smell good, or treat yourself to a manicure or pedicure. 6. Speak positively. Pay attention to your self-talk. It's amazing how often we put ourselves down throughout the day -- it's time to stop! Each time you catch yourself making critical comments, fight back by immediately complimenting yourself. 7. See the world realistically. It's common to compare ourselves to people in magazines or movies, but this can make you feel self-conscious. If you want to compare yourself to others, look at the real people around you. They come in different shapes and sizes -- and none of them are airbrushed or highlighted. 8. Dress in clothes that fit. When we feel badly about our bodies, we often dress in shabby clothes, waiting until we lose weight before we buy something we like. But why? Feel good now! Find attractive clothes that fit your current size. Treating yourself will make you feel renewed. 9. Be active. Movement and exercise can make you and your body feel terrific! Not only does exercise help boost your mood, it stimulates your muscles, making you feel more alive and connected to your body. 10. Thrive! Living well will help you feel better about who you are and how you look. Strive to make your personal and professional lives fulfilling. You are a unique, amazing person -- don't forget it! A healthy, happy life can be all yours!    — [Deactivated Member] (posted on March 29, 2000)

March 30, 2000
Wow! Thank you very much. This hits home to a T. I am almost 4 years out with a distal gastric bypass and have maintained my weight loss well but still struggle with, if only I could nip here, tuck there! Exercise just doesn't get that extra skin on your belly. However, I am going to try this to improve the way I feel. The part about how you dress is true for me as well - maybe I'll go shopping. Thanks for the uplifting note. - Christy
   — Christy P.