Question:
Hi everybody .... my surgery is this coming monday .... up until this point i have
been nothing but happy and excited ... i'm still excited ... but i feel depression setting in ... i feel like i could cry at any second ... should this be happening ... is this normal???? ... It's something that i want for myself ... something that i can't wait to have ... so where does these sad feelings come from??? Please if anybody can help it would be greatly appreciated!! Thank you !! — Lisa G. (posted on October 4, 2003)
October 4, 2003
I am so excited for you that your surgery date is almost here! I suspect
that the feelings you are having are, indeed, "normal". You're
about to undertake a major surgery, which will have profound (positive!)
impact on your life. Think of the positives and focus on the outcome; make
a list of those things you dream about doing, once the weight starts coming
off. And by all means, check out this website's library. There's a whole
section on "Emotional Issues" that may soothe your raw nerves and
ragged emotions. All the best to you! Keep in touch to let me/us know how
you're doing, OK?
— Biking O.
October 4, 2003
Lisa,
What you are feeling is normal and I would worry if you weren't feeling
some of this stuff. I think what you are thinking is, "Oh shit, I'm
not going to be able to eat again...am I crazy?" Believe me, you will
eat. And you will eat what you want, but the odd thing is that for me, I
never did believe anyone when they told me that food just was not that big
a deal to them anymore, or that they did not crave carbs anymore. But it
is TRUE. I think it has something to do with that hormone Gherlin that is
cut off during this surgery. My thoughts go toward protein and salads and
fruit. It is the weirdest thing.
You will be so happy Lisa. I am almost 3 months out and have lost 55 lbs.
and it has been easy! Compared to all of my attempts to lose weight
before. I do go to Curves 4 days a week and it is so much easier to do
weighing less. Good Luck and know that you are on your way to a new YOU!
Celebrate the moment! Feel free to write me after your surgery for any
encouragement!
Michele
— Michele B.
October 4, 2003
Hi, Lisa! Congratulations on your upcoming surgery. Let me just say that
what you have described sounded like me right before surgery! I got very
edgy and emotional. Trust me, it WILL get better! LOL, I did almost have
a panic attack when I got on the operating table, but the anesthesiologist
quickly took care of that! Seriously, you are completely normal, and I
think that your emotions are just in overdrive right now. I'm almost 7
weeks out and am feeling better each day. Good luck, and God Bless!
— Moysa B.
October 4, 2003
I WAS SCARED ALSO...SCARED OF HAVING TO LIVE LIFE IN THE BODY I HAD CREATED
FOR MYSELF...I'M 55YRS OLD & WEIGHED 445 LBS SO I GUESS MY CHANCES OF
NOT WAKING UP WERE GREATER THAN "LIGHT WEIGHTS"...SO TO MAKE A
LONG STORY SHORT,I REALLY WASN'T SCARED. I WAS THANKFUL FOR THE OPPOTUNITY
TO HAVE WLS...I'M FEELING GREAT AND HAVE A SECOND CHANCE AT LIFE ( AS
CARNIE WILSON SAYS) 445/343/150 (THEN/NOW/WANNA BE)**GOOD LUCK** YOU'LL DO
FINE!!!
— BLSLIM77
October 4, 2003
Hi Lisa: I could have written what you wrote exactly. I remember even a
week or two before my surgery date I'd read posts from people who would say
they were worried or scared or having second thoughts and I would say to
myself then move over babe because I'll take your surgery date. Well,
about a day or two before my surgery date something set it. Depression, or
fear, or whatever, but I was on the verge of tears. In fact I did cry a
little the night before surgery, and then again in the shower when I was
washing with the betadyne. I tried to hide it from my husband, but I guess
I wasn't very good at it because when I was getting ready to go to the
hospital my husband even said, "You don't have to do this you know.
You can back out right now if you want." I grabbed all the extra fat
on my stomach and said, "Look at this, I can't back out, I have to do
this." But did I want to? No. It was all I could do not to cry when
they were wheeling me into the surgical room too. I HATE for people to see
me cry or think I'm emotional. I just think it's sad we have to get to the
point of surgery I guess. In fact even thinking of surgery day now, almost
2 and 1/2 years later, it still almost makes me cry. I'm sure if you were
convinced that surgery was your answer, than you'll suck it up and make it
to the hospital and do fine. But you're not alone. It's normal to have
fear and sadness going into a major surgery. I don't understand why more
doctors don't put us on xanax or something right before surgery. I had
that for another surgery, non WL, and it didn't do anything for me, but the
idea was a good one. No one likes the idea of having surgery unless
they're weird. That's my opinion anyway. No offense if to any of you out
there that does like it. Lisa, the very best wishes on your surgery. Have
a speedy recover and much success. S
— sherry hedgecock
October 4, 2003
Hi Lisa,
My surgery is scheduled for 10-16-03, I am excited and was filled with lots
of fear, but I started turning all these fears over to Jesus, I am weak and
nothing without him, My wife also is very supportive of this and me, we'll
be praying for you starting tonight in our family prayer and every night at
11:00 pm est.Remember God Loves YOU! I am looking forward of getting this
done and enjoying life to the fullest, this surgery isn't an easy journey,
but if you are like me it is a nessasary journey that must be taken, I have
children and a grandchild I wanna watch grow, God Bless you and the
decision you make! john
— blank first name B.
October 4, 2003
I want to thank everybody that repied ... you all we're ALOT of help ...
part of me felt like i was beginning to go crazy ... AMOS is the BEST
support site i've ever been to! I want to wish you all the best of luck in
whatever stage your in !!
Thank you all once again!!
— Lisa G.
October 5, 2003
Lisa, The feelings you are having is normal. Before I had my surgery on
6/11/03 I had them, now tommorrow I am having GB surgery and are having
them again. I think anytime that we have things like this to go through, we
have many feelings about it. I really don't think it is whether we question
the decision that we made or not, but just us being normal and getting
through it. The support that I have found here has helped me tremendeously.
— betterfitness
October 5, 2003
Its going to be rough because your saying good-bye to over eating and to
the fat you.Your dealing with the fact that this could be the last time you
see your family or friends. I felt the same way before I went in. I
wondered if anything went wrong how'd my son be. But 2 years post-op and
122 pounds lighter I know I made the right choice and I'm sure yours will
go great as well.
Brandi
— brandin815
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