Question:
Why do I feel like an emotional train wreck???
Hey, y'all. I got my approval for the surgery yesterday and have been scheduled to undergo my surgery next Thursday, the 25th. I feel like I've done the research and I've weighed the pros and cons. I am very confident in my decision. So this post has nothing to do with whether or not surgery is the best decision for me. (That's just to inform y'all there's some happy stuff in my life right now!) However, I've been sort of sad lately. My hubby is deployed to Iraq, he left 8 months ago and we just recently found out he'll be gone another 8 months. So there's that and also just feeling so out of touch with my family, we live so far apart...and I've always been such a happy person! I dunno what to make of not being able to snap out of this "woe is me" mood! Some days I don't even want to get up and dressed, I am so unmotivated. I don't cry or anything, I just am generally blue and so tired all the time. Should I see my doctor about this or do you all think this is just a cumulation of all the things going on and that I'm just stressed? — jenn_jenn (posted on September 19, 2003)
September 19, 2003
Jennifer, is there a family support group on base? Or a group of military
spouses that you can get involved with?Getting together with other wives
and talking about it would probably help. Best wishes. Lisa.
— LisaHillsinger
September 19, 2003
Jennifer- My surgery date is less than 2 weeks away so I totally understand
what you are feeling!!:) For me, I am mourning this body. I've been with it
for so long and I've known nothing else. It's been by shell and I'm almost
afraid to lose it. But then I think about all the things I will be able to
do and that puts a smile on my face. It's normal to have these feelings
before surgery. If you have done your research and know what you are in
for, then you are set. You could make a "me" day and pamper
yourself with a facial or go shopping and buy a 'goal' outfit. Don't forget
why you are doing this and you should be fine! I wish you luck on your
surgery and try to remember that this is the last Sept. 19th that you'll be
obese!!!:)
— Misty C.
September 19, 2003
Hi Jennifer- It must be hard having your husband away at a time when you
could really use his support. I have a friend who is Kuwait and when I
think about the (almost) year he's been away from his wife and kids, it's
very depressing. Try and visualize how things will be 8 months from now,
when hubby returns to a healthier, slim & trim new you :o) Maybe you
could fly in a family member for your surgery/recovery since they live far
away, or could you fly out to them while you're still off work recovering?
Best of luck to you, Jennifer- think positive :o) Mea
— Mea A.
September 19, 2003
Hey, Sorry you are feeling sodown. I was scared and really shaky before
surgery. I am sure your anxiety about having your husband so far away has
compounded your nerves and other feelings pre-op. It is normal. Please
seek out your friends and family to lean on at this time, and look ahead to
see what you will surprise your husband with when he does get home.
P.S,---he may not recognize the new you!!!!!!!
— Fixnmyself
September 19, 2003
Hey Jennifer, Maybe you and Kelly (below) could become e-mail pals, since
both of your guys are off overseas. Or you could post a question to ask if
there would be any other military family members on here that would like to
e-mail or chat together (in chat room). This could be a big help or some
support while the guys are away. Maybe you could set something up in a chat
room for a specific night or time. Sorry your family isn't close by. Hope
this helps some! Becky
— bufordslipstick
September 20, 2003
Certainly being separated from your husband when he is in a military
deployment is stressful, lonely and more than a teensy bit scary....couple
that with isolation from family....add a dash of the innate stress coming
from anticipation of such a major surgery and potentially life altering
event in your life, and my goodness! Who would not be "blue" and
depressed? I will be having my own surgery on Tuesday the 25th of this
month - if you want, call me on my cell phone at 775-544-4428 just to talk
- a buddy can be a lot of help - especially a buddy going through something
similar. The other things I have been doing to combat a similar feeling is
to engage in preparation for coming home by purchasing what I need,
exploring this site and getting things together to go to the hospital with
- anything to keep myself focused in the positive direction I'm heading,
without getting "stuck" in what's missing...your husband will,
I'm sure, be so proud of you for being so courageous in his absence, and he
will be so happy that your health will be so much better - and no doubt the
two of you will enjoy doing many more things together because you will have
so much more energy and will feel so very good. God bless you! You're in
my prayers! Good luck - and looking forward to meeting on the other side.
Diana.
— Diana D.
September 20, 2003
heya hun.. sorry ya having such a bad time of it.. it probably wouldnt hurt
to see a doc.. *also a military spouse..* its very difficult some
times..especially i think with all the changes that we go thru when they
are away.. please feel free to email me if you would just like to talk to
someone who has been thru similar..huggles n [email protected]
— johanna F.
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