Question:
My doc does not think that anything is wrong so he will not order tests
I am 8 months out (9-7) and have not lost anything in about 6 weeks. I have recently gained 5 pounds and it is not coming off. My doctor says that I have to stop eating so much. Wasn't that the point of this surgery, to curve my appetite? I have been able to eat "normal" size portions comfortably since about 2 months out. I need to know if something is wrong with the mechanics. I have tried to eat "the amount post rny'ers are suppposed to eat" and almost pass out throughout the day from low blood sugar. I lost my insurance but am now on medicaid. I really do not know what to do. Can anyone give me some advice on switching doctors? I thought my starting weight was 286 but according to my chart it was 274. That means that I have lost 65 pounds in 8 months. I think that is crazy slow considereing I exercise, eat protein first and get in my water. Sorry for ramblimg I am just so afraid that I have gone thru this to remain heavy. Another "possible" problem is that now my BMI is 35.9, but I still have type II diabetes so do you think I even qualify for a repair/revision? Thanks for listening any input is appreciated. Reace P.S. What I am struggling with is not "head hunger" it is the real thing. Thanks — Laureace A. (posted on August 31, 2003)
August 31, 2003
If I was you I would start tracking my food on fitday.com so you can truly
see how much total and how much of protein, fat, sugar and total carbs you
are eating. You statement about eating "normal" size portions
since 2 months PO scares me. I am 7 months PO on Wed and I still do not
eat normal size portions, if by normal you mean what people who have not
had WLS eat and are eating balanced etc. I eat 3-6 oz total per meal with
at least 3-4 ounces of protein per meal. I will have a snack or two of sf
popsicles, watermelon or no sugar added ice cream bar, 1/4 to 1/3 of a carb
solutions high protien bar etc. But they are small and usually it is only
at about 9:00 at night. Sort of like getting in 3-1/2 meals for the day.
<p>How are you determining the amount that "post RNY'rs are
supposed to eat" since the plans vary drastically, especially in the
first 6 months. I'm wondering if you are eating way too many carbs and
therefore do not have the protein which will stick with you a lot longer
and make you feel much more satisfied. Tracking your food on fitday can be
a real eye opener. Are you getting in the fluids?
<p>You will have to prove to any surgeon that you are following a
proper diet of mostly protein then veggies, then fruit and lastly carbs
plus getting is decent exercise before anyone would even consider a
revision. I also think that 8 months is way too soon to even think about
something like that. It would appear you need to take stock of why you had
the surgery and have you truly committed to this new life. I suspect that
is where your surgeon is coming from and why he won't order any tests. He
suspects you are not giving it your all. The surgery gives us a tool but
we will always have to be cognizant of what we are putting in our bodies.
Our old eating habits can and will resurface if we allow them to. A RNY's
normal is always going to be different than someone who had never had a
weight problem because they learned to make good choices early in life or
are giften with a metabolism that forgives all of their food sins. Please
do some soul searching and get into therapy to figure out of you are doing
some self-sabotaging.
— zoedogcbr
August 31, 2003
First off. No, this surgery does not work by "curbing your
appetite" It works by severely limiting the amount you are able to
eat and malabsorption. We have days where our appetite is almost the same
or worse than pre-op but are simply not able to eat very much. The other
poster had a good idea about tracking your food on fitday. What are you
eating? Are you "grazing" This means eating every few minutes
or taking longer to finish a meal. No, you will not qualify for a revision
unless something is wrong with your mechanics and if your doc won't test
you, find another one.
— Delores S.
August 31, 2003
Orginal Poster here. To clarify, I can eat an entire hamburger (1/4 pound
made at home) with half the bun. I can then eat broccoli and potato salad
to boot. I do eat protein FIRST, I stick to no carb/low carb foods after
the protein. I was not saying that this surgery is supposed to "curb
my appetite period" but give me a break, nothing at all? I can eat
whatever I want except sugar and the only way ANY of this weight has came
off is because I DIET AND EXERCISE. I did not have surgery to stay fat.
Period. All I wanted to know is how I can go about getting another doctor
to check my stomach to see if it is small. Being able to eat an entire
plate of food is not "normal" for someone who had open RNY. Being
hungry all day maybe. Thats all good but when I eat a hamburger patty
shouldn't I be satisified? Well I am not. I do not need therapy I need
transected. Thank you for trying to answer my question. Thank you for the
advice about fitday, but I use it and I can eat 2,000 calories any given
day. Just like I said, I eat like a "normal" person and am not
losing weight I am gaining. To me that is a problem that needs looked at.
Therapy will not help me lose weight. I am sorry if I sound abrasive but I
did not post a queation to get preached at, only to get an answer. Thanks
Reace (P.S I walk 3 miles a day and life weights 2 times a week so it is
also not that I am stagnent)
— Laureace A.
August 31, 2003
Hi Laurece (I like your name, btw). I am sorry that you are struggling and
feeling discouraged...have you done the cottage cheese test to see how big
your pouch is? I am/was a super slow looser, so I can relate to what
you're going thru, though I think the whole idea of us RNYers being
relagated to medicine-sized cups of food for the rest of their life is
highly overrated. What I find is that I can eat like a normal person,
i.e., 3/4 of a cheeseburger or so, without all the extras (like fries,
which don't even appeal any more, bizaree as that is.) My advice for you
is to focus not just on protein, but on DENSE foods that fill you up
quickly, like chicken, chili, cheese...y'know, the "ch food
group". Also, look into joining Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig or
something, if you think it would help...I had done that when I was
struggling to get out of my size 14s/12s, but found it didn't work for me
'cause I began to feel like a "sinner" when it came to food...to
me, that's been the most liberating part of this surgery...the ability to
have control around food, which I think you do, even if you do think you
are eating too much. Anyway, I wish you a lot of luck in getting to the
root of the problem...
— rebeccamayhew
August 31, 2003
Hi, Laureace; first of all, what a beautiful name! 2nd, have you tried
calling other bariatric doctors in your area to see if they accept
Medicaid? Perhaps if you explain your problem, they might help you. Your
question reminds me of kind of the same thing Justin Glynn is having, where
his stoma has stretched and he can eat much more than should be considered
normal for an rny patient. For your doctor not to think there is a
problem, I think he's not realizing the full impact of this. I know you
must be very frustrated, but don't give up; try to find another doctor who
will help you figure out what is wrong. This doesn't sound normal to me.
I hope you're able to figure out what's going on! Good luck, sweetie, and
God Bless! proximal lap rny, 08/19/03, -18 lbs.
— Moysa B.
August 31, 2003
Surgery made your stomach smaller -- after that, its up to you. Can you
get around that? Sure you can.. eat more often.. and eat MORE -- often...
sorry but while I have some restriction, the reason my weight has come off
has been diet and exercise. Yes, there are many who will tell you here
that their weight came off just like that *snapping my fingers* but the
truth is, its work for many of us. I have restriction -- should a
hamburger satisfy you? I dont' know -- physically, probably.. although I
have to admit -- I don't eat hamburgers, at home or otherwise. You say you
eat protein first, how much? What else do you eat? How often do you eat?
In terms of exercise, you say you walk and lift weights -- well, after
awhile, you have to walk more (including getting your heart rate up there
and walking AFTER you do that for a significant amount of time --
eventually I had to start running) and you have to lift more often than
twice a week. Three times minimum, but frankly, I lift almost 6 days. Am
I perfect, nope... but I'm working at losing weight... so I WORK at it.
Good luck... I know its frustrating... but the surgery is just some help,
its not a magic cure...
— Lisa C.
August 31, 2003
Hi: We're practically twins in a lot of ways. I was more successful than
you post op because I lost pretty rapidly and got close to goal. However,
I can now eat more than you I think, or at least as much. Some days are
worse than others, but pretty early on it became apparent that I was able
to eat too much for a post op RNY. I quit losing pretty soon, and then
stayed around 130 for a short time. Then after about a year post op I
consistently gained 2 to 4 pounds every month. At about a 1 and 1/2 post
op I realized that I had to do something to put an end to the gain or I'd
be right back to where I was preop in no time. I had honestly thought my
body would find it's ideal weight and stop. Wish I'd realized earlier that
it wouldn't. What really shocked me was that going on a diet at a year and
1/2 didn't do anything. Even with cutting out all the cheating I'd started
doing I was still gaining! I went to my surgeon and was basically told the
same thing as you. No scope, no second surgery, and nothing was wrong
other than the stoma had stretched out more than it should have, but bottom
line is it's up to me to stop the weight gain by making better food
choices. Being I've always had issues of guilt over being fat, I accepted
what he said and went home depressed that I was once again expect to diet.
The only offer of any help from my surgeon was to keep a food diary and
he'd have the dietitian review it and make suggestions on different food
choices. I have been given "helpful" suggestions my whole life
on how to eat tasteless, boring chicken instead of red meat, so who needs
someone with a degree to reiterate what we all know? So basically I went
home and decided I'd give dieting a try and not really blaming a surgical
failure. But after coming back to this site and reading about enlarged
stoma I'm kind of mad that I really do have a partial surgical failure and
that I shouldn't have been made to feel the gain was my fault. I am going
to send in the food diary because I think my surgeon should have written
proof of how much I can eat at one sitting and that he does have at least
one failure. A friend said that she thinks there are many people who don't
go back to their surgeons and complain for the same reason that I didn't do
more complaining: guilt and a feeling of helplessness. You also likely
have at least a partial surgical failure and we should continue to look for
surgical help with rectifying this. Sorry I can't answer your question
about qualify for a new surgery. I think that if you had the same
insurance then you should qualify because it would be considered a repair
to the failed surgery. But a new insurance it might be a preexisting
problem? I was thinking of trying to find someone who could band my large
stoma to see if I can decrease the amount I eat. I can eat a 1/2 pound
hamburger and not feel overly full. I can eat 2 cups of cottage cheese. 3
small things from taco bell, etc. You get my point. Like you I can eat
pretty much the same thing now, that I could pre op. I DID NOT bring this
on myself. If I ate 2 oz. then I'd still feel hungry. I don't, and never
had eaten until I was uncomfortably full. I didn't graze, eat and drink
together, drink carbonated soda or anything else that was against my
surgeon's instructions. I did eat sweets and added bread to my diet after
a while, perhaps not chew as well as I should have, but I doubt those
things are to blame for the stoma enlarging so much. I think we have to be
careful about judging others who are having trouble just because some of
the rest of us aren't. We all have guilt and feel bad about our weight
anyway, so it'd be better if we tried to stick to just being helpful and
keep the negative stuff out. If you're not having trouble then consider
yourself lucky, but there's no need to say I was able to do it so you
should too. Anyway, I'm off the soap box about it now. :o) If anyone
knows of a surgeon or procedure they think would help us with enlarged
stomas please post it. But regardless, I think the surgeon should do a
scope to see exactly how much it has enlarged just so we know. I'm going
to see if my GP will do it for me since the surgeon didn't feel it was
necessary. In the meantime, I have really upped my exercise and have
started taking diet pills. I've lost 14 pounds of the 41 I'd regained.
Hope to at least get below 150 as that was the weight I said would have
made the surgery worth it for me. RNY is done to restrict the amount of
food people can eat. Maybe a DS would be less likely to have failure, but
I don't know. Sorry if I rambled, I tend to do that. Good luck to all.
— sherry hedgecock
August 31, 2003
All you can do is call around to find another WLS surgeon who will see you.
Get a copy of the surgical report. You can get it from the hospital it
was done at. You are entitled to this as it is YOUR medical record.
However, they can chose to charge you for the copy. Take that along to the
new surgeon.
<p>If you truly have a staple line disruption, this should be easy to
document with a swallow study, which isn't a very expensive test. If it
shows a failure then insurance will likely agree to pay for a revision to
transect you. If the stoma is stretched I do not think there is anything
that can be done about it as I have never heard of a surgeon redoing that
part of the surgery to make it smaller. Fortunately mine was made with a
round stapler which should help keep it from ever stretching much.
<p>As far as Delores and I preaching at you, it would have helped if
you gave more info about how much and what you eat etc. You also said all
input is appreciated. We genuinely wanted to offer some ideas, but you
have already dismissed them. I know you think 2000 calories is normal for
an RNY, but it's not, especially at 8 months. I eat 600-1000 calories a
day and I am 7 months PO as of next Wed. The days I get in 1000 calories
are days I have not made as good of choices as I should. Up to about 850
calories means I am doing what I should. The bottom line is if you are
taking in 2000 calories and gaining weight then you are not expending
enough energy and burning more calories than you are taking in. You also
talk about eating 1/2 a bun with a hamburger and then also having potato
salad etc. This is too many carbs. Sorry if you do not want to hear it
but it's the truth. You may think therapy is a waste but I assure it is
not. It will help you deal with the anger you appear to have when people
try to point out to you that you seem to be expecting this surgery to have
created a miracle and turned your body into one that never had an obesity
problem. My surgeon told me the first time I saw him that I will always be
SMO. It shocked me till he explained it. He said he can give me a tool to
help me not live like that but genetically I will always have a tendency to
go back there. It will always come down to the choices I make of what I
put in my mouth.
<p>For your sake I hope it turns out there is something wrong with
your surgery and it can be fixed because any other option you will refuse
to accept and will never be successful long term at this new life. I will
struggle for the rest of my life I suspect at times, but I do realize that
the success is 1000% dependent on what I chose to do! Sorry if this is too
hard to hear.
— zoedogcbr
August 31, 2003
If you are going to end up with a revision you might consider switching to
a DS as it might be a surgery you can more easily live with. For some
getting the DS really is the difference between success and failure.
— zoedogcbr
August 31, 2003
Laureace--I'm sorry that you seem to be getting blasted for eating too much
when I undestood your question to be a concern that you are ABLE to eat
much larger quantities than most of us can. I did not hear that you wish
to eat 2000 calories a day, only that you can (and are still hungry), and
don't want to be able to eat that much. I too, think the best answer is to
find another surgeon, explain your concerns, and see if s/he will do a
scope and possibly a test to check for a staple line disruption. It is
possible that you have at least a partial mechanical failure, even if they
are rare. My best wishes to you as you move through your journey (please
don't give up, just find a way to deal with whatever the problem is).
— Vespa R.
August 31, 2003
Has anyone else noticed that we have acquired several self-appointed
experts? There has definitely been an increase in the "know it
all" and negative responses. I understand your question and your
concern. I would be concerned too. I would definitely get a scope or an
upper gi. If your surgeon won't order it, maybe you could check with your
PCP. Also, did you ever consider that your surgeon may be putting you off
BECAUSE your insurance has changed? There are several people on this site
that had a SLD and had to be transected. At first, they too were made to
feel guilty as to their food choices. It was not their fault. Please don't
accept the negative vibes that I feel from the answers you've received. If
you do have a staple line disruption, please be sure to get a transection
this time. Many times, surgeons will want to go back in and just create
another staple line. Run quickly to another surgeon!!
I like you chose this surgery to feel normal. I am over 2 1/2 years post op
and I have never dieted. I refuse to have the diet mentality and label
foods (such as carbs) as bad. I eat what I want and am maintaing
effortlessly. Restricting certain foods and feeling deprived is what led me
to be MO in the first place. I refuse to feel guilty (and neither should
you!) for eating a little potato salad and 1/2 of a bun because someone
else believes that this is not in THEIR plan. Food is not longer my focus,
I am free!! Good luck to you and please insist that you get checked out.
Shelley
— Shelley.
August 31, 2003
"Has anyone else noticed that we have acquired several self-appointed
experts? There has definitely been an increase in the "know it
all" and negative responses."
<p>Shelly put yourself in the exact same category.
<p>Just because you got by doing whatever you want does not mean the
majority of the RNY's in the world will. The majority of us were not
blessed with being the WLS poster child who can do anything and get away
with it. It's certainly not good to make others think that post-op RNY
life requires no changes as it does for the great majority. I guess we are
just imperfect because we need to make changes and choices and limit our
carbs and exercise.
— zoedogcbr
August 31, 2003
Diane, It relates to another question where she was taking the holyer than
though attitude that she doesn't exercise, or limit carbs or make choices
and it's not required to lose weight. My comment was that for the typical
RNY they must do these things to be successful and for the rest of their
lives. Shelley is the exception to the norm. I just had it when I saw the
"self appointed expert" comment. So if you put the two questions
together you would know why my comments were the way they were.
— zoedogcbr
August 31, 2003
I am so sorry to hear about the problems you are having. I am only 6 weeks
post-op so I have no experience here. Right now I am a slow but grateful
loser hoping that I won't fail at this as I have in the past. Actually I
should rephrase and say that I hope RNY will not fail me. I am working
very hard at it. I hope you will find a doctor who will listen to you and
that you will continue to find support here. Just remember that we are all
humans and many of us here are not willing to hear about failure of this
procedure. You see we are still fighting the "outside" world who
seem to think we are taking the easy way out. I come here and read everyday
so I can get ideas to continue on the road of success. I see many people
who have had very easy weight loss and many who have to continue to
struggle. As I have said I am no expert but the amount you are able to eat
at one sitting does not seem normal. Keep seeking help until you get it.
Don't be discouraged by opinions. I think every one here is trying to be
helpful in their own way. Thanks for posting your problem. I am sure
there are many who are having the same problem and afraid to voice their
concerns. Good luck and God bless you.
— Erica S.
August 31, 2003
WOW, what in the world? Original poster here again just checking in to say
I do not feel as though my qustion was understood by at least ONE of us who
continues to answer. I appreciate all of the comments from the people who
actually understood my question, like Vespa, Shelley, Diane, Erica, Moiasa
and several others. I never said that I did not want to exercise or change
my eating habits, I have changed my habits and I exercise every day but
Sunday. I chose to give that day to God. I am seeing my surgeon on Tuesday,
but I will not be posting anything else on here to get twisted and turned
around like I am some lazy pig who eats all day. If you would like to know
what the doctor says or how the upper GI turns out feel free to e-mail me.
I have already contacted most of you and will keep in touch. Thank you to
those of you who used this opportunity to encourage, instead of discourage
and for future referance if you are going to post several different answers
to a question, please be sure you understand the question and that your
advice is helpful not nasty. Good luck all. Reace
— Laureace A.
August 31, 2003
Just one more thing, on your profile Chris D. you state that you do not
have to work for your loss and you have guilt issues about that, exercising
only twice a week. So why is it that you are preaching to me about wanting
it to come a LITTLE easier then it did prior to surgery? Before you start
preaching to me about needing to exercise and make good food choices why
don't you look at you? I am doing THE SAME THING, actually I exercise MORE
then you state you do in your profile, but instead of LOSING weight I am
GAINING it. Think about that the next time you get on your soap box. I am
going to be so glad when the doctor finds out that I have a problem and
then helps me to fix it. I do not even care what you say, or think about
me. You do not know me nor do I care to know you. I am just thankful that I
am not the one who has to live with you, you are. I will keep those of you
who are "in the real world" along with me posted on my progress
(we hope).I am sorry to be so abrasive but YOU have been blasting me ALL
DAY for no reason and those who tried to answer my question were blasted by
you too. Maybe the doctor should check YOUR DEPRESSION MEDICATION before
you start telling others that they need therapy. Never cast the first
stone.
— Laureace A.
August 31, 2003
My surgery was easy and so has my weight loss, however many others have
problems that are not on the message board.
The following is a post from Carol A, from the
[email protected] board.
"I think a member or two might have gingerly mentioned not too long
ago that
there is a problem that sometimes happens with our surgeries that few docs
acknowledge, and seldom advise of as a possible occurrence.
I think it is now time to come out of the closet and shine a bright light
on
this dirty little secret. Last week I flew to Seattle for an endoscopy and
consult with Dr. Ki Oh bcuz I have NEVER felt much restriction from my
pouch. I
have been SO frustrated when others talk about being absolutely stuffed on
3
bites of something. I have not been stuffed on even 10 times that much. My
first
solid (soft) food meal was 12 oz (some are supposed to eat only 1 oz; my
doc
said 4 oz) and I COULD have eaten more--I was not full, or even satisfied.
I
stopped eating bcuz I knew I wasn't supposed to be able to eat that much.
My surgeon turned a deaf ear to my complaints and pleas. He didn't exactly
say it was "all in my head." Members of support groups, both
online and in
person did, tho, intimate that it had to be "head hunger." And
that was both
hurtful and discouraging. I have spent the better part of the past year and
a half
believing that I am no better now than I was pre-op: unable to control the
cravings and eating more than I should. And hating myself and my failure
quite
thoroughly.
Well, guess what? The scope showed my stoma is 3 times the size it should
be.
Therefore pretty much rendering my pouch non-functional. Nothing wrong with
the POUCH: it's still just 15 cc. But the stoma is too wide and doesn't
keep
the food in the pouch. It just pours right thru into my intestine; hence,
no
fullness, no satiety, and the urge to keep eating and eating and eating.
Becuz the stoma has a tendency to relax/stretch somewhat over time of its
own
accord, it is extremely important that the bariatric surgeon make it as
small
as possible. In Dr. Oh's opinion, judging by my stoma size after a little
less than 2 years, it was probably made a bit too large in the first place.
The
rest of the bad news is that the anastomosis is so close to my esophagus
that
there is absolutely no room to do anything about it: can't move it, or put
a
silastic ring on it, nothing. I am doomed to be hungry the rest of my life.
Am I
mad? Try royally PI - - ED ! Am I going to do anything about it? Don't
know.
Right now, I'm just struggling to accept the facts of life, so to speak. I
am
relieved that the stoppage of my weight loss is not "all my
fault." But I am
just devastated that I will probably NEVER be able to get to goal -- at 70
lbs
more to go. I can go more distal, which will give me some greater
malabsorption, but it won't do a thing about the large stoma or the
hunger.
Another misleadig "fact" that was presented by my surgeon prior
to my
proximal RNY was that the average weight loss is about 70-75% of excess
weight. Dr.
Oh says that that figure is for patients with DISTAL procedures. The amount
for
proximals is about 50-55% net loss bcuz of the usual amount of regain.
So, dear friends, let this be a clarion call warning. If you are struggling
with slow or stopped weight loss, or regain; if you are constantly hungry;
if
you have never or have at some point become unable to feel satisfied or
full
after a meal (a normal meal for a bypass patient)--maybe you should get
yourself
scoped and see what's going on with "the mechanics" as Michelle
calls them.
Sometimes something can be done about it. Sometimes, as in my case, not.
And PLEASE pass this info on to any other lists you subscribe to, so the
word
gets out. I would that not one other person suffers what I have gone thru
for
so many months, thinking all kinds of terrible things about myself, my
lousy
willpower, my lack of moral fiber, my character defects, etc etc. If you
know
a pre-op considering this surgery, please tell him or her that this is a
possible outcome, and that they should query their surgeon closely, in
advance,
about what size stoma will be made, and where, and what can be done should
there
be a failure or relaxation or stretching of the stoma. They should know
that
if a doc says that would not happen, he's not telling the truth or he's got
his
head in the sand. And if there are any pre-ops lurking on this list, be
warned as well.
I am not saying that I would not have had the surgery had I known this was
a
possibility. But I would have CERTAINLY done more and better research, and
would have made sure that my surgeon would guarantee that my
"mechanics" were
constructed in such a way that it would not be impossible to rectify the
problem."
Please Note this was written by Carol A. My stomas is protected from
stretching by a silastic ring.
— faybay
August 31, 2003
First of all an average of 2 lbs a week is a good steady weight loss.Eating
is different for everyone. By all means see a gastro guy to get scoped if
it will ease you mind. I would also ask if you are drinking enough water.
You need to get in at LEAST 64 oz a day. You seem to be exercising. Are you
getting in too many carbs and not enough protein. You might try upping
water and upping protei and lowering carbs. Following that might also lower
type 2 diabetes problem. You don't give enough details about how many meals
but I think if you went to eating 6 small meals a day that might help the
blood sugar. You might need more than 64 oz of water. Also please don't
discount 'head hunger'. It is a possibility. I am not being critical or
trying to be judgemental. Please email me privately if you are going to
take offense as I don't think the board is a place for this.
— snicklefritz
August 31, 2003
To the original poster: I apologize that things got out of hand. The
majority of my comments were to Shelley, who is giving the impression that
RNY's can do whatever they want and lose weight. That is just not the case
for the overwhealming majority. All it does is make people who are not
losing and doing everything to a T, think they are failing - asking, what
are they doing wrong.
<p>This question definitely got out of hand. Trust me, I usually get
nothing but compliments about the support and info I provide to people.
Trust me my depression meds are just fine and yes I do continue to work
with my counselor because I know the benefit of having that resource
available to help work through things before they get real out of hand. If
you read my profile you would know that, because it clearly said that at
the end of the passage you are referring to. Many many people benefit from
counseling and it is not a dirty word. It's the people who drastically
fight it that should ask themselves why they fight it so much. What are
they afraid to find out? It can be a very eye opening process.
<p> I wish you well and hope things are resolved soon, however they
need to be.
— zoedogcbr
September 1, 2003
I have been on this website for 3 years. Never have I seen anyone correct
so many question "responders". Not only is the original question
answered (which I am sure is much appreciated), but if a different response
is of a differing opinion, others will then redirect another answer
correcting the second responder-often misinterpreting or misquoting. It
just gives the board a negative atmosphere and may discourage others from
answering because they fear being bashed or corrected.
I was not going to respond but felt that my answers and intent were being
misrepresented. If others want to read my ACTUAL responses to this question
and the question below it, please do so. My intent was to soften the mood
that was developing--that a certain plan was the only plan and those that
differed were going to fail. Here is a partial quote of my answer-- We all
have different beliefs and opinions of what works. As for me, I would never
be so presumptuous as to state that my way is the only way to do something.
Surgeons can not agree on what diet works post op. Again, what works for me
may not work for you. But I would NEVER tell you or imply that my way was
the ONLY way and nothing else. Shelley
Holier than thou? You be the judge.
— Shelley.
September 1, 2003
Hi, folks: I just wanted to say that we all know that each of us is
different and every one of our surgeons has a different plan. There is no
need to bash one person for his/her opinion or the way he/she does things.
This journey is different for EVERYONE! Some find it extremely easy to
lose the weight and some have more difficulty. Please, Please have respect
for the original poster to simply try to answer his/her question. We could
always say, "This is what works for me, it may be different for
you." If you have a problem with what someone says, please do as Jack
recommended and e-mail the person privately. There is no need to publicly
bash a person for their way of doing things; that's not what the Q&A
board is for.
<p>Different opinions are good; we need a variety because someone may
come up with an idea that we might not have thought of. I just ask that if
you're posting something, please re-read it, and if it sounds like it may
be negative, please rethink it. I've had to do that a few times
myself!</p>
<p>Thank you, for all your experiences and answers; the diversity
here is what makes this a great site. God Bless...
— Moysa B.
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