Question:
How long after surgery will I be able to have sex again?

My fiance and I are very sexually active. He is concerned about hurting me after surgery. How long will it be before we can comfortably be active without him worrying about hurting me?    — Tami S. (posted on April 16, 2003)


April 16, 2003
It's probably just me, and it may have been that I was all kinds of doped up, but we did it within the first week. I was fine. I know it must sound aweful, but it worked for us.
   — MF

April 16, 2003
I am having an open on may 6th and let me tell ya I plan on not having sex for 2 months I am going to drag it out.. Sorry not much of a sex drive here.
   — hillafb U.

April 16, 2003
Hi there! I am pre-op, but when I went to my surgeon's group consult, he addressed this issue. He basically said you can have sex right away as long as there's not a lot of strain on you (you're partner should do most of the work, gee darn!), but once your incision is healed, go for it! He said "no acrobatics at first", and he also said, "and if you must do it in the hospital, please close the door!" Made me laugh right out loud! Hope this helps!
   — beeda

April 16, 2003
Tami, try the Q&A and look up "sex", you'll find alot of different answers- this question gets asked alot. LOL I'm a year post-op, but my surgeon told me to wait 2 weeks, I waited even longer, was in too much pain nor did I have the energy to do anything! If you do it sooner, just make sure you are very gentle and extra careful. Goodluck to you.
   — Lezlie Y.

April 16, 2003
I had open RNY and on my discharge instructions it said no intercourse for three weeks. I was still a little sore at three weeks, but my husband and I just took it real slow and gentle and I was fine. Good Luck to you!
   — Kris T.

April 16, 2003
I had Open-RNY and we waited 7 days. We took it very slow and gentle. Also did not use the "normal" position. It did not hurt anything and there's no way we could have waited longer because we to are very sexually active.
   — latrishanickle

April 16, 2003
I waited about 5 months. But wait -- that was because I didn't have anyone to have sex with. :) Good luck!!!
   — Tamara K.

April 16, 2003
Avout 10 days- and we were very careful about position.
   — ~~Stacie~~

April 16, 2003
Somebody's dr told them - not until you are discharged from hospital! We waited about a week after lap rny.
   — Sandy T.




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