Question:
Does anyone NOT like the way that they look now??
This is probably a strange question, but do you like the way that you look after the weightloss?? Or do you think that you look funny, weird, ugly, etc..?? Because of the fact that I have NEVER been thin, I wonder, and worry, about how I will look once the weight is gone. I'm so afraid that my hips will still be huge, that my thighs won't shrink, that I'll just look strange as a "thin" person. Did you ever worry about this?? Thanks for listening. :o) *8 days & counting* — Cat S. (posted on April 3, 2003)
April 3, 2003
I worried a LOT about thei pre op till a wise post op said you will look
like you were supposed to if you were thin. Somehow for me that made it OK,
I hope it helps you.
— bob-haller
April 3, 2003
Dear Cat, I am 3 weeks pre-op. And although I'm not sure of how I'll look
as a thin person, the one thing that I do know is that I hate the way that
I look and feel as a big person. And I hate it enough to have this surgery
done. And the fact is that how we will look, although important to the rest
of the world, and a little to us, the fact that we are reaching so hard for
a life free from weight, ridicule, and a form of feeling isolated, say's
that losing the weight, for us, far out ways the fact that we may not be
Claudia Shiffords when it's all said and done. But who knows we just might.
Either way the journey that lies ahead, has got to be better then the one
that we are leaving behind. Go with God, and be Healthy....
— Tamauralee H.
April 3, 2003
i don't worry what i will look like, but i do wonder. i was thin untill my
senior year in high school and i remember what i looked like then. i have
been married 11 years. when i got married i was only in my first year of
collage and i weighted 205. the year after that i had my first child(i
weighted 245 after the birth). then 2 1/2 years after that i had my second
daughter(i weighted 275 after the birth). in 11 years the lowest weight i
have been is 200 with up and down yo-yo dieting. i wonder what a 30 year
old woman who has had two kids will look like. i know after having a baby
your body changes. and i was 19 when i got married so i wasn't really
finished growing. so ...yes i wonder. i'm not worried, i just think of it
as a good surprise. and don't worry if you have curvey hips and
thighs.....it's the fashion , just look at jennifer lopez !lol good luck to
you!
— franbvan
April 3, 2003
This is an interesting question. I wouldn't say that I don't like the way
I look now, because I do look better in so many ways. I do sometimes think
I look older (I've been assured that I don't) and I will admit that I'm a
lot more self conscious about my naked body right now than I was at 372
pounds. Luckily, I'm not naked most of the time -- *grin* -- and they make
good foundation garments. In the long run, I wouldn't trade anything to go
back -- I'm happier, healthier, and a better person all around.
— Lisa C.
April 3, 2003
I <b> LOVE </b> the way I look now. I realize now that I was
born to be thin, my body just didn't cooperate! I also really like the way
I eat now. I am so used to eating little 'meals' it sure feels as if I am
either eating or drinking all day long. Good Luck to you!
— dianehanson
April 3, 2003
I've lost 220 lbs. If you could see me naked (don't worry, I won't post
pics)you might confuse me with a Sharpei. Fortunately my husband seems to
like sharpeis, because he's happy with how I look. I feel fine with how I
look as long as I'm wearing clothes. I never really expected to look
perfect.
— Monica H.
April 3, 2003
Thank you for asking that question. I am pre-op and wondered if anyone out
there regretted having WLS just because of their appearance afterwards.
The last time I was reasonably thin I was in my early 20's. Now I'm
anticipating looking like a 40-something year old trying to make up for 20
years...LOL.
I'm hoping I don't need major plastic surgery afterwards, but I probably
will. That is the part I'm most dreadful of.
Oh the games our minds play on us!!!!
Good luck!
— Diane S.
April 4, 2003
I am 5 months post op and am starting to look like melted candle. I want to
thank the posters here who are dealing with their bodies without plastic
surgery. It seems like there are so many questions about plastic surgery,
that it's almost a "given" to have some somewhere down the
road!Nice to know there are posties who are okay with wrinkles and sags (I
think I will be one, too!)
— koogy
April 4, 2003
I just want to point out that what you may look like at 1 year post, is not
what you may look like at 2 years post. I do feel many of us cannot handle
that we don't get instant results and jump into plastic surgery too fast.
It takes time for some of your skin to shrink back (what will) on it's own.
After 2 years or so... I think it is then safe to look into what you
REALLY cannot live with and see what your options are. As for me, the
weightloss was wonderful for my health and psyche; however- it has not
changed my insecurities about being "cute"... I was SO hoping I
would become cute! But I think my PCOS has much more of an affect on my
"looks" and I always will be the "manly, hairy girl"
who will never be feminine and that bums me out more than what size of
pants I am wearing. Of course it is better now that I am not the BIG
manly, hairy girl... but I dream of being "pretty". Weightloss
is not the cure all- this is clearly a self-esteem issue that I have been
dealing with since I "exploded" with my PCOS. SO, while
weightloss is wonderful on some issues, it doesn't fix EVERYTHING. Still, I
would never ever want what I was before WLS- EVER!
— Karen R.
April 4, 2003
I look great in clothes, which is something I NEVER could have said preop.
I also somehow managed to get a proportional figure out of this: a big
surprise as even when I was "thin" before I always had a big
butt! LOL I was initially dismayed at the amount of sagging in my tummy and
boobs and the appearance of my stretch marks. Not enough to regret the
surgery: I did it to be healthy and I AM! But after I had been at the same
weight for a while by stretch marks started to look better and I got used
to the deflated beach ball that is my tummy (hey, it's better than the
INFLATED one I used to have!). As far as my "girls," well, they
are saggy. But to be honest, they look better without a bra because they
were always dejected looking before--pointed straight at the floor. They
looked so depressed, poor things! But now they at least meet me in the eye
when I look in the mirror, even if I do have to lower my sight line a
couple of inches! ;)
— ctyst
April 4, 2003
I look great in most clothes (6s and 8s look much better than 24!)...but I
think I still look about the same naked. The shape of my body really
didn't change...still have love handles, a jolly belly and jiggly thighs.
I try not to think about it since I'm less than a year out....
— Pamela B.
April 7, 2003
I'm simply adoring the way I look now and I've not even reached my goal
weight! You will definitely notice the change, but perhaps not as soon as
you think. *YourDivaness* Lap RNY 9/3/02 265/165/115.
— yourdivaness
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