Question:
Anyone scared of dating?

I am petrified to date. Most of the men I meet I know are only interested in what I look like...I look great in clothes..but underneath...wow that's another story...I don't know how to approach it...how to deal with it! HELP!    — Ilene M. (posted on December 11, 2002)

December 11, 2002
Hiya :) Yes, I was terrified of dating. The way I look at it though is that by the time your boyfriend, significant other...whatever you choose to call him ;) sees underneath your clothes, he should be totally enamoured with the rest of you that it won't matter. :-D That's the situation I'm in now. I've been dating my bf for about three months and all my extra skin/flab/whatever the heck it is doesn't bother him at all. I think he looks past that and sees me for me...not my body. Hopefully you'll find a great guy like I have and things will work out wonderfully in the end. :) If not, there are PLENTY more fish in the sea hon...good ones who are actually worth catching! lol Best of luck to you, HAVE FUN and try not to worry about it. :)
   — Emily W.

December 11, 2002
The real men don't care. The guy I am seeing doesn't care how fat or thin I am or would be as long as I am happy. He's a real man and not one who's only interested in looks. And he found me *smile*
   — Gremlin Q.

December 12, 2002
Wow, I loved your question, because the same thought has been on my mind. I'm only 2 months post op and was seriously considering dating again in the near future when I lose more weight. Then it occurred to me that I would have all that lose skin, and started to feel the next wave of shame. So I then considered that I would wait to date after plastic surgery and then it occurred to me that I would have all those scars..... What finally occurred to me was that I have been using my weight as a reason to live my life holed up for some time, and the real issues are much deeper. I plan to start seeing a Dr in the very near future to start dealing with all my issues.
   — Sabra_D

December 12, 2002
I was worried about that, too! I am a 22 yr old college student and am 6 1/2 months post-op,have lost 85 pounds, but still have flaby belly and those 5 little scars from LAP RN. My boyfriend and I of 2 1/2 years broke up shortly after my surgery, so I didn't think I'd have to worry about this, b/c he didn't never cared how I looked, fat or thin. I have since dated two guys, and honestly thought that they would run, bc they didn't seem like the type to see past everything, but I was wrong! They never even asked what the scars were from, and they thought I was beautiful. You'd be surprised how many men are not as superficial as we think, and if they are, they're not worth it! (and these were college guys who always seem superficial!) Goodluck to you, have fun dating :)
   — Lezlie Y.

December 12, 2002
Man, I want a date. :)
   — Tamara K.