Question:
why Im not skinny like everyone else
I'm almost one year out, although I have lost 120 pounds so far, down from 310 I still not at goal, I want to be 150 pound, I'm now between 195 and 190. I see so many pictures of other post-op and they look so skinny. What am I doing wrong. ok sometime I do cheat and eat snacks but I try to eat healthy except for when I have sugar sometimes but not every day. I still look fat....I went from a size 28 to now an size 16 or 14...ok that's find but I thought I would look a lot thinner. How many more months can I expect to loose weight.....how big is my stomach now?? and will I be able to reach my goal by the end of the year. I will see my doctor on monday...so I quess I'll ask then....but what is everyone doing to get so thin??? Oh yeah for the last 4 months I been on zoloft and last week my doctor switch me to wellubutin could this be the reason I have these uncontrollable urges... please respond... — Rebe W. (posted on August 17, 2002)
August 17, 2002
Rebe
You do not have a picture on your profile, but I bet you look much thinner
in others eyes than you do in yours.
You have had great weight lose, and it has to show. Have you taken your
measuments over the last year?
I know I do not se myself as others see me, and I have wondered when my
brain will catch up and let me realize my body and faced have changed.
You have done a wonderful job with you lose, you should be proud.
Hugs
— Jeri P.
August 17, 2002
You still have plenty of time to reach your goal!! Your not even a year out
yet and you only have another 40 pounds to go?? You'll definately make it.
Just keep exercising and watching your food intake. Weight loss does slow
down the closer you get to goal. However, eve if you can lose 5 or 6
pounds a month, you'll be at your goal in 7 or 8 months!!
— Patty H.
August 17, 2002
I agree with most of what has been said here. My first response is simply,
"But you're not DONE yet!" Yes, the wt loss creeps at this
point, but it keeps on creeping! Even at 3# per month, next August you'd be
36# thinner! Things that helped me reach my personal goal: protein
supplements made with water, I avoid milk & sugar, did 5-6 teensy
meals, plenty of vites, I avoid FAT FREE stuff, but otherwise eat normal
foods. I don't graze, but never did anyway. I was not so great about my
water intake. The things I do NOW (8 yrs) to maintain my wt. See above, but
now 4 "meals" a day, a little bigger.
— vitalady
August 18, 2002
You really are close to your goal. I agree that you can make it. Do like so
many others and get back to the basics...protein, protein, protein, and
water. Walking helps. It looks as though you're going through quite a lot
emotionally. You are in my prayers. I know that you can do it, as so many
others have. You have come to the right place for strength and
encouragement.
— MF
August 18, 2002
Poor your self-image may be part of your problem. If you see yourself as
fat, no matter how much weight you have lost, you are going to be fat.
(Think of anorexics). You may want to speak to a psychologist more in
depth about what is going on. Also, I understand Wellbutin is now being
prescribed as a weight control drug, so I do not think that is the problem.
— Ellen M.
August 18, 2002
Are you exercising? Exercise will help to shape the body. I, too, am down
to a size 14, but have trouble wearing pants because of the hanging roll
around my middle...it also just looks bad. I am 40 pounds from goal too,
and will probably look to plastic surgery to finish the job that the WLS
started. Don't stress so. And having snacks, some sugar is not a bad
thing. It's called NORMAL. As long as you continue to eat healthy, get in
your protein, water, and vitamins and EXERCISE, you should see the scales
continue to move down, although slower...but slow is better than no!
— Cindy R.
August 18, 2002
Rebe,
I am so sorry about the loss of your father!! I am sure that this has a
lot to do with the way you are feeling!! I will keep you in my prayers.
— KRISTIE A.
August 18, 2002
hi Rebe-----it amazes me how many people i've seen write in about the same
question you're asking. I think you are experiencing the same problem
anorexics experience where your brain is "morphing" how you see
yourself! Have you taken "after" pictures to compare to your
"before" pics? when you do, don't wear loose fitting
clothes----wear something that will show your figure so you can see the
difference! i haven't had the surgery yet (17 days), but i know how i
normally look---and i don't wear tight fitting clothes. but in the past i
look at my pics after losing weight and there is a definite difference when
you lose 120 pounds! i can't wait till i'm in your shoes! Haven't you been
told how thin you look from friends and family? if so, listen to them----it
may take awhile for you to get used to seeing you! And by the way,
anti-depressants ALL make you want to eat. i am currently taking
"effexor", but i have taken: zoloft, wellbutrin, prozac, surzone
and paxil. they all make you hungry, so Don't Give in! When you feel full,
stop eating and stay away from sugar! Trust me, i'll have to tell myself
this stuff in the next month! good luck!
— Adele F.
August 19, 2002
I know EXACTLY how you feel. You should read my profile and see how I have
gone (and am STILL going) through those same thoughts! It's amazing how
your mind plays tricks on you about how you look. When I was pre-op, I
NEVER saw myself as FAT. Now that I am -85, I look in the mirror and am
disgusted at how fat I look right now. I haven't taken any post-op
pictures yet because I want to wait until I'm at -100. But I HAVE to
believe that even though I look terrible now, I was even WORSE before! You
have to know the same thing. If you had thought you could ever be at a 14
and know you would NEVER go back to a 28 would you have thought you would
feel this fat? I think not! It's just your mind playing tricks on you.
Go to Wal-Mart and watch the women trying on size 14's and see how small
they look to you. That's how small you are!!! Looks pretty good, huh?
— Robby E.
August 19, 2002
I have to respectfully disagree with Adele's claim on the side effects of
the anti-depressants. I have a lot of experience with anti-depressants.
My mother is bi-polar, and I research all of her medicines. I suffer from
occasional clinical depression, and have researched all of the ones I have
ever been on. My willingness to openly discuss my depression symptoms and
subsequent relief has generated a lot of discussions where I was able to
learn about other medications and their theoretical and actual side
effects. That said, there is NO side effect that is a given in all
anti-depressants. Side effects listed include appetite supression OR
increased appetites, drowsiness OR insomnia, increased OR decreased
anxiety, etc... Even close cousins can be different, and even side effects
can change with each treatment. Prozac used to work very well for me in my
early twenties -- when I would wake up suicidal for no apparent reason. I
tried it again two years ago and gained 25 pounds in 2 months. I quit
taking it, though I still needed it. Four months later, my doctor
suggested Zoloft. Reluctantly (because it is SO close to prozac), I did.
What a relief. Two months later my anxiety and frustration and paranoia
were under control and NO MUNCHIES! I added Welbutrin 1 month post.
Within 2 weeks, I found I was energized and in control of my eating,
actually IN CONTROL of what I WANTED to eat!!! Please consider side
effects are different for each person, and can differ over time. If one
gives you munchies, discuss it with your doctor. Wait it out 2 weeks
though. MOST side effects will disappear after 2 weeks. Good luck to you
and to all who feel they may need some help getting back to being
themselves. Make an informed decision based on the facts, not just
personal experiences from one or two other people. BTW, I am struggling
with the Welbutrin recently. I love what it does for me, but it is
irritating the hell out of my stomach, to the point I quit taking it last
week. (Gained 6, ate cheetos, didn't drink water, didn't eat protein). I
posted a few weeks back and almost everyone said they tolerate it with no
problem. One, also 2 months out, said she too was experiencing sudden
problems and her doctor said as she continued to heal, the toleration would
improve. My goals this week include protein, fluids, no snacking and
finding a way to take Welbutrin.
— Karen F.
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