Question:
I Still Feel Morbidly Obese
I am nearly two years post-op. I am still 50 pounds from my "ideal weight". I would like to lose another 30 pounds, even though many tell me I'm just fine where I am. I was a size 32/34 and am now a 12/14. I'm tall, so I can carry more weight than most. However, I have been really sensitive lately. I look at myself in the mirror and see all the hanging skin, even though I have had some reconstructive surgery, and wish I was more proportional and firm. By no means do I want to be skinny, nor even at my "ideal weight". I have only lost 5 pounds since October. I am wondering if this is it. I guess I can live with the excess skin, though I dream about more plastic surgery, but I would like to see those scales get within 20 lbs of my ideal weight. I admit I'm not exercising, not doing my protein or water, eating more carbs than normal, and generally feeling sorry for myself. I know it's not all about vanity, but it's important to me, so it counts. — [Anonymous] (posted on March 5, 2002)
March 5, 2002
The WLS promises to get us out of the morbidly obese category and on the
road to better health. It does not promise that we will be super-models or
have perfect, firm bodies. I'm sure, like me, you did this for health
reasons first and for cosmetic reasons second. Even most thin people
aren't 100% happy with their bodies. Try to keep that in mind and practice
positive self-talk. Look what you've accomplished!
— Terissa R.
March 5, 2002
Were we separated at birth?? I feel the same way... I am just over 2 years
post op and would LOVE to lose 30 more pounds... I am 5 ft 11... went from
24/26 to 14/16... I am considering liposuction for my thighs... they are
just not cooperating!! :-} If you have any doubt or don't feel good about
what you have accomplished so far... put on a pair of those size 34s... It
will put things in instant perspective... and it will make you smile...
— California J.
March 5, 2002
Please don't be so hard on yourself! Do you know what Victoria's Secret is?
Her stuff isn't made for anyone over age 25! Embrace your improved health
and vitality.
— Anna L.
March 5, 2002
I am 71/2 mos post op, and still consider myself MO. When looking at myself
I still see big. Why, I do not know, I am down to 184, and a size 14/16. I
know I have lost, and look good, but unless when someone actually says so,
I do not see it. My son out of the clear the other day said "Mom, your
getting skinny, my whole life you have been , you know round, and your not
round anymore". I instantly went to the mirror and looked, guess what,
he was right. So now I try to think of that everytime I still feel big.
Good Luck, hope this has helped.
— Valerie M.
March 6, 2002
I am the original poster, and thank you all for your responses. I either
need to get to exercising and eating right to lose this 30 lbs or get
myself to my therapist to accept myself where I am. Although I know I have
accomplished so much, I get SO JEALOUS when I read profiles like Victoria
Bowen's, Barb Day's, Darcie Leigh Donlon's, Angela A.'s, Jill Sokol's, and
basically anyone who started near my weight, got to their goal, and had
reconstructive surgery and look so good. I just feel like a failure, even
though my mind should know better. Everything is going so great in my
life, maybe I am just looking for something to be wrong. It was so bad for
so long, and I am not used to happiness! And, stress could be an issue...a
good vacation may be the key to kicking my body image blues and motivating
me to quit whining and act! Thanks again.
— [Anonymous]
March 6, 2002
Well i think its like they said it class, you can't always change your
head. For years we've been told were fat, we knew we were fat and we
reacted as thus, taking all the blunt end of jokes and laughing them off
etc...but now, we're GOIN DOWN BABY . And I think its hard for us to see
it like it is, One thing thats helping me, is as much as i didnt want to do
it, my dau is taking almost monthly photos, and comairing them is
amazing!!!! Also, i keep around one big outfit..to slip into now and then
so i can see what ive lost. Its a great reminder!!!!
— Jackiis
March 9, 2002
Oh, honey, our heads play such games with us. I'm at 132 now, 12 pounds
from a goal just a little pooch as far as loose skin,and I have a lot of
days where I still feel obese. It's hard, after years of being the
"fat one" to not be. I think if I were even at goal (120) or
LOWER I would still have this problem. LOL One way or the other, I really
think it's a mental issue. Good luck, and congratulations on your weight
loss! Keep up the good work!
Donna in AL
— Donna S. C.
August 28, 2002
I know how you feel, after losing 125 pounds,and near my goal, I still
didn't feel like I had lost that much weight; I had a huge apron of fat,
and had that removed June 20,2002, since that surgery it has made all the
difference in the world, not just with clothes, but just my overall self
imaige. I wish you well in your pursuit for a better body, and healthy
attitude; No one knows what we go thru till they have been overweight
themselves I don't think you are being vain, you have just gone thru so
much, and want to be normal; God Bless you, Susie
— lostitall
June 25, 2003
Hi there,
After reading your post it sounded exactly like me.
I will be 2yrs out post Roux-N-Y as of this November. I started size
26 and now am a 16/18. I too have only lost about 8 lbs since October and
weigh
190 @ 5'4". I have lost 90 lbs and am very thankful...but like you I
eat too many carbs, fried foods,
been full too many times, not eating my protein like I should and drinking
alot of tea instead of water...I need to get back on track...
I look much better.....but I could look much better...let me know how you
are doing.
— Sue H.
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